Divorce - Why are guys complaining?

[BlackVelvet]

Child support, Custody and Alimony?

First off let me say any man who complains about paying child support needs to be hit with a hockey stick between the legs. Just because you're divorced doesn't mean you stop financially supporting your children.


With regards to custody - if the two of you cannot come to an agreement that ensures you both get to spend a reasonable amount of time with your kids throughout their childhood then you should be feeling sorry for the kids not yourself.



Finally, if I got a dollar for every time one of you said how you would expect your wife to stay at home, I would have made more than the 52 week saving thing. You can't have your cake and eat it too, if she (or he) stayed at home to take care of you and your kids then don't be a prick, you owe it to them to help them get back on their feet.



So quit complaining you bloody cheapskates.

[CaliBurco]

Hey do you know an Udejeen family from Wembley Central, they used to live in Holland.

[BlackVelvet]

Do you have ADHD?


And what kind of a question is this, like when you go on holiday and people ask - you're from London, do you know so and so?

[CaliBurco]

Just tryna make conversation

Hour and half to go before I go home.

[BlackVelvet]

I thought you were really asking. I have to spend more time with short people, clearly I have lost touch.

[Cherine]

Why should child support always mean financial? emotional support is must more important. If you were to make kids choose they'd choose a father who took them to the parks(free), hugged them (free) than a father who is forced to pay money and as a result grows to resent them and their mother.

If it were me and he complained i'd just say 'War just take them to the park, pick them up from school and hug them often, lacagtaadana ma rabo duuduub o futada iska geli hadaad doontid'

[Lillaahiya]

If I was a man, I'd be shook of divorce too. With regards to alimony, there's no reason to financially supporting your ex spouse. Who cares what sort of lifestyle they're accustomed to while married With custody, 9 times out of 10, full custody is given to the mother. Imagine seeing your kids 365 then after a divorce, you only get to see your kid(s) for a few hours in a week, and the occassional weekend sleep over? Child support is a must though Only problem is you can't guarantee that the money is being spent on the child

We shouldn't kid ourselves into thinking every mother is benevolent and have their children's interests at heart There are spiteful women who use the system against their exes.

[Sheikh Mustafa]

Which somali women would allow her ex-husband to be snooping around back and forth. And which man has balls to be dating a women whose ex- is sniffing around the house. With this mental problem country, he can snap and cut you with a knife any minute. Naagtu waa in ay ninkii xore cayriso oo Israel vs Palestine war kadhoco meesha.

[BlackVelvet]

Cherine Time is more valuable than money. Qof ilmihiisa lacag u quurin maa iskool iyo park waqti siinaayo? I doubt it.

If I was a man, I'd be shook of divorce too. With regards to alimony, there's no reason to financially supporting your ex spouse. Who cares what sort of lifestyle they're accustomed to while married With custody, 9 times out of 10, full custody is given to the mother. Imagine seeing your kids 365 then after a divorce, you only get to see your kid(s) for a few hours in a week, and the occassional weekend sleep over? And lets not ignore women who use their children against their ex husband. Child support is a must though Only problem is you can't guarantee that the money is being spent on the child

We shouldn't kid ourselves into thinking every mother is benevolent and have their children's interests at heart There are spiteful women who use the system against their exes.

With regard to alimony I disagree. It's not just about the lifestyle during the marriage, you are not taking into account the fact that after X number of years out of employment, chances are she will not be able to jump back in and establish the lifestyle she enjoyed before the marriage. She's given up her career and stayed at home as his earning potential increased but when it's over she has to go to the unemployment line? That's not fair.

You are right in that there are women who abuse the system but the system still serves a purpose.

Now in the case of the guy being filthy rich and he has to permanently maintain a lifestyle which was neither hers to begin with nor one which she contributed in establishing, there I can see the unfairness. Especially if she'd never had the ambition or intention to improve her life through work

[FAH1223]

If I was a man, I'd be shook of divorce too. With regards to alimony, there's no reason to financially supporting your ex spouse. Who cares what sort of lifestyle they're accustomed to while married With custody, 9 times out of 10, full custody is given to the mother. Imagine seeing your kids 365 then after a divorce, you only get to see your kid(s) for a few hours in a week, and the occassional weekend sleep over? Child support is a must though Only problem is you can't guarantee that the money is being spent on the child

We shouldn't kid ourselves into thinking every mother is benevolent and have their children's interests at heart There are spiteful women who use the system against their exes.

get married brehs

[BlackVelvet]

FAH if you end up getting divorced don't be an arse

Which somali women would allow her ex-husband to be snooping around back and forth. And which man has balls to be dating a women whose ex- is sniffing around the house. With this mental problem country, he can snap and cut you with a knife any minute. Naagtu waa in ay ninkii xore cayriso oo Israel vs Palestine war kadhoco meesha.

Ilamaha ayaa meesha ku dayacmaayan marka

[FAH1223]

FAH if you end up getting divorced don't be an arse

Get married to BlackVelvet while she plans her divorce, brehs

[Sheikh Mustafa]

Cherine Time is more valuable than money. Qof ilmihiisa lacag u quurin maa iskool iyo park waqti siinaayo? I doubt it.

If I was a man, I'd be shook of divorce too. With regards to alimony, there's no reason to financially supporting your ex spouse. Who cares what sort of lifestyle they're accustomed to while married With custody, 9 times out of 10, full custody is given to the mother. Imagine seeing your kids 365 then after a divorce, you only get to see your kid(s) for a few hours in a week, and the occassional weekend sleep over? And lets not ignore women who use their children against their ex husband. Child support is a must though Only problem is you can't guarantee that the money is being spent on the child

We shouldn't kid ourselves into thinking every mother is benevolent and have their children's interests at heart There are spiteful women who use the system against their exes.

With regard to alimony I disagree. It's not just about the lifestyle during the marriage, you are not taking into account the fact that after X number of years out of employment, chances are she will not be able to jump back in and establish the lifestyle she enjoyed before the marriage. She's given up her career and stayed at home as his earning potential increased but when it's over she has to go to the unemployment line? That's not fair.

You are right in that there are women who abuse the system but the system still serves a purpose.

Now in the case of the guy being filthy rich and he has to permanently maintain a lifestyle which was neither hers to begin with nor one which she contributed in establishing, there I can see the unfairness. Especially if she'd never had the ambition or intention to improve her life through work

I didn't know about Alimony untill it happened to a mareexaan friend of mine who married a women while he was a partner in hilib xalaal. After few years, he divorced her without a kid. She sued him for alimony and he thought she was just joking. The business was on his name and she claimed half of it. She ended up with half and since they were 3 guys, the other 2 had to split what was left in dhaqan soomaali. I was in the Garta and it was so funny. Mid oo gaaljecel ah oo reer waamo ah was one of the partners was talking and it was so hilarious. War naag buu inta guursaday ay xoolihii oo dhan raratay. Odayaasha tried to convince them to have mercy and spare some for the guy and he was like, " Asaga yaa kuyiri naag qumayo ah guurso waxa naag fiican joogo magaalada. Adeer waxaas masoconayso lacagtaan markab aan kasoo shaqeeyay malaay qalo. Naagtu wixii ay qaadatay ninkii qabay ay qusaysaah.

[Lillaahiya]

With regard to alimony I disagree. It's not just about the lifestyle during the marriage, you are not taking into account the fact that after X number of years out of employment, chances are she will not be able to jump back in and establish the lifestyle she enjoyed before the marriage. She's given up her career and stayed at home as his earning potential increased but when it's over she has to go to the unemployment line? That's not fair.

I'm pretty sure a Muslim man isn't obligated to pay alimony to his ex wife. It's not an Islamic tradition. You're also assuming she's not employed or been out of the work force for years.

You are right in that there are women who abuse the system but the system still serves a purpose.

I never said it didn't serve a purpose. I'm saying it's flawed and men are at a greater disadvantage than women.

Now in the case of the guy being filthy rich and he has to permanently maintain a lifestyle which was neither hers to begin with nor one which she contributed in establishing, there I can see the unfairness. Especially if she'd never had the ambition or intention to improve her life through work

You do know alimony works both ways. Would you support your ex husband if you were filthy rich and your family essentially lived off your money?

[1nemansquad]

alimony is not a Islamic practice, divorce isn't as complicated as you make it seem. the point of the practice itself is for two people to part ways; if these things you list are still in play then why did they divorce at all? seems like they are still married.