Who's to blame for the high divorce rate in our community?

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

who do you blame and why?

[Khadra2016]

The modern Somali culture is to blame.

[Basra-]

From the countless of divorces I have seen, using my super amazing analytical brain--I can say--it is the Environment plus lack of deen. And there is the minor factor of --Somalis get married to get sex-especially the girls. When the virginity issue is out--they go sleep around with the men of their choices. Str8 talk.......

[Adali]

Yummy mummy

[GAMES]

I don't blame one single thing, but a lot.

-Rushing to marriage

-Not understanding each other

-No dulqaad

-Stress and worrying about household finances

[Adali]

From the countless of divorces I have seen, using my super amazing analytical brain--I can say--it is the Environment plus lack of deen. And there is the minor factor of --Somalis get married to get sex-especially the girls. When the virginity issue is out--they go sleep around with the men of their choices. Str8 talk.......

I always knew our sexually repressed girls were so freaky. Basra what if I told you a Married somaLi woman was giving me the sexual gaze in front of her husband. It was uncomfortable, some people don't know how to act.

[MujahidAishah]

From the countless of divorces I have seen, using my super amazing analytical brain--I can say--it is the Environment plus lack of deen. And there is the minor factor of --Somalis get married to get sex-especially the girls. When the virginity issue is out--they go sleep around with the men of their choices. Str8 talk.......

Basra getting down with the kids straight talk

[Thuganomics]

Like that song says "Dumar kaa gardaran"

[Basra-]

From the countless of divorces I have seen, using my super amazing analytical brain--I can say--it is the Environment plus lack of deen. And there is the minor factor of --Somalis get married to get sex-especially the girls. When the virginity issue is out--they go sleep around with the men of their choices. Str8 talk.......

I always knew our sexually repressed girls were so freaky. Basra what if I told you a Married somaLi woman was giving me the sexual gaze in front of her husband. It was uncomfortable, some people don't know how to act.

Adali


Staring with sexual gaze is OK. Girls are "ONLY" human ma ha? Besides, take it as a flattery. Its a compliment. I think. I mean--for me--both men and women give me sexual gaze, and I love it. I feel honored and wanted and desired by both. But acting on it--is a different story huuno! Once I had allowed myself a little 'action' -- I mean--going further than just a gaze. I allowed a very handsome man to prolong his hand shake on me. Its a warm, long, sort of grabbing handshake plus the gaze. I felt dirty after that-- the moment I walked out of the Starbucks--a melting ice fell on me outside. I felt I was being punished. I went to pray rakkah.



Muja


U know--am right-- right?

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

The modern Somali culture is to blame.

can you elaborate? whats the "modern somali culture"?

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

From the countless of divorces I have seen, using my super amazing analytical brain--I can say--it is the Environment plus lack of deen........

i agree with you basra, this is a big factor

[MujahidAishah]

Like that song says "Dumar kaa gardaran"

Ragow Aarsi Haween uu adkeysta waa markiina

[YummyMummy]

All the above are true, depending on the couple in question. I think lack of diin, akhlaaq, undisclosed secrets and ego are the main culprits.

Today's world is full of secrets. No more full disclosure, from both parties as well as their families and their community. Preparing for marriage is one of the only times where talking about people behind their back is permissible, an obligation, rather than a sin.

Someone is being nicely ignored

[Tuushi]

No one.It is what the modern society is facing.

Choices we make dont always work.More Somalis need to understand marriage is not for everyone or a must.Your life can still have a purpose without feeling useless for not being married.

We also live in a time where quick gratification is needed.No patience and no one wants to work hard for much.There are other things and options.

[Adali]

No one.It is what the modern society is facing.

Choices we make dont always work.More Somalis need to understand marriage is not for everyone or a must.Your life can still have a purpose without feeling useless for not being married.

We also live in a time where quick gratification is needed.No patience and no one wants to work hard for much.There are other things and options.

Large chunk of the Purpose of life is to find a soul mate, impregnate her, and when she gives birth hold your tiny new born baby for the first time, let the baby grab your finger and you know then all you live for is to do what you can to protect and guide your baby.

You can have a purpose without this. But personally I feel strongly about it.