Somalis hurt People without Kids Unknowingly

[Sumubaridi]

Somalis need to stop making Dua anytime Married people tells them they don't have kids yet. They hurt their feelings while they get nothing out of it.

If you ask married people whether they have kids or not and they tell you they are still trying, please avoid making dua for them on their face. If you really want to make honest Dua, whey not do it later on your own. Making dua that they did not ask for ruins their mood for the day. I remember when I was married, My wife and I will go to the mall to buy Hijaab or meat. We meet some random people and they ask us if we have kids. When we tell them we are still hoping for them, they start making dua for us. Allaah haidiin siiyo, allah hadiin soo sahlo. Comeone, that is uncall for. We came to buy meet not for prayer secession. This came to my mind yesterday when Lo'doon ask for advice with the game. All of a sudden, all the girls in the forum started making Dua for him to get kids. I was like WFT. what does his game advice got to do with Kids.

So, Please avoid even asking people if they have kids unless you are marrying them.

[lifeisbloodyhard]

I think being insensitive is part of our culture. Second generation immigrants in the West know better because Western culture is the opposite: they are all about sensitivity etc sometimes to the point where it is harmful. Somalis will tell you that you're fat to your face.

Btw, good thread for once.

[Sumubaridi]

I think being insensitive is part of our culture. Second generation immigrants in the West know better because Western culture is the opposite: they are all about sensitivity etc sometimes to the point where it is harmful. Somalis will tell you that you're fat to your face.

Btw, good thread for once.

The worst part is that, they think they are doing you a lot of good but just randomly reminding you about you not having kids and that allah will bring some. I believe praying for someone should be private as long as the person did not ask for it. Actually, allah accepts prayers more quickly when someone who is away prays for you.

Marka its just being noisy.

[mahoka]

Trying to read that title got me like

[Machiavelli2]

Is there a word in Somali for sensitive? We nickname people with their disability or how they look.

Gaab/eey/ow, dhuxullo, jiis, qac, faruur, cago weeyne, ilko weeyne, waalane, futo maqaar, duufle, Cali shiire, and many more.

We have one child and we waited for 10 years for the next one and we reached a point to walk away from anyone who dramitises our decision. I have seen relatives who can't even control their children inside a mosque preaching you to have many kids. Some people are better off not having any children. Just ignore them.

[lifeisbloodyhard]

I think and worry about feritility a lot and i'm only 24 so I should be really fertile for the next few years. That is why I obsess about my cycle. I'd be devastated if I was infertile or if it took me years to conceive a child. I would think about it all the time and be making constant duas. Therefore, I wouldn't need them to remind me of my situation nor need their bloody duas. I'd give it to them straight. Tell them to stick their duas where the sun don't shine. I have zero patience and tolerance for stupidity like that. My mum says waan hadal cadahay.

[Sumubaridi]

I think and worry about feritility a lot and i'm only 24 so I should be really fertile for the next few years. That is why I obsess about my cycle. I'd be devastated if I was infertile or if it took me years to conceive a child. I would think about it all the time and be making constant duas. Therefore, I wouldn't need them to remind me of my situation nor need their bloody duas. I'd give it to them straight. Tell them to stick their duas where the sun don't shine. I have zero patience and tolerance for stupidity like that. My mum says waan hadal cadahay.

When My ex and I reached the breaking point, we avoided some big function which her Mom hosted for the family. It was Aid celebration. They called to ask why we did not come and my wife told them its because you will turn the whole Eid discussion into making Dua for me and all the women that visit you. From that point, they stopped asking us for a year then it started.

There is not word for sensitivity in Somalia other than Xasaasiyad " which means controversial". I know a guy whom they called Xassan bikro because it was rumored that, he could not break the girl's virginity long time ago. Waa Oday duq ah but that was his name. Imagine you going into the streets and everyone calls you about some shity S*ex you had long time ago.

[Timiro1999]

Somalis need to stop making Dua anytime Married people tells them they don't have kids yet. They hurt their feelings while they get nothing out of it.

If you ask married people whether they have kids or not and they tell you they are still trying, please avoid making dua for them on their face. If you really want to make honest Dua, whey not do it later on your own. Making dua that they did not ask for ruins their mood for the day. I remember when I was married, My wife and I will go to the mall to buy Hijaab or meat. We meet some random people and they ask us if we have kids. When we tell them we are still hoping for them, they start making dua for us. Allaah haidiin siiyo, allah hadiin soo sahlo. Comeone, that is uncall for. We came to buy meet not for prayer secession. This came to my mind yesterday when Lo'doon ask for advice with the game. All of a sudden, all the girls in the forum started making Dua for him to get kids. I was like WFT. what does his game advice got to do with Kids.

So, Please avoid even asking people if they have kids unless you are marrying them.

Xataa hadaad caruur dhashay amaan kama helaysid, hadii caruurtada gap weyni u dhexeeyo waxay ku odhanayaan sidii gaalada ayay noqdeen oo dhashii way iska xidheen.
Hadii caruurtu iskugu kaa dhawdahayna waxay ku odhanayaan, waa isku nuug tolow may caruurta kala korsadaan.
Hadii aad caruur dhashay lknse waqti dheer waxba dhalin waxay ku odhanayaan dhashiiba way iska xidheen.
Bal yaa waxan u dirtay ma shaqo ayay waayen.
Somalidu iyagoo aan magacaaga ku weydiin ayay ku odhanayaan xaas baad tahay caruur ma leedahay.
Markaa dheg ha u dhigin shaqo la'aan baa ka badataye.
Maxaa kaa galay ku dheh haba yaabane.

[TheLoFather]

I Need All The Du'as in the world people, Don't be a Bakheel like sumubaridi people!!!

[Hyperactive]

walle anika wey iku daali, illen I don't even want have those little annoying....they wont stay kids and cute they will grew and become people!! and talk back!!

[TheLoFather]

walle anika wey iku daali, illen I don't even want have those little annoying....they wont stay kids and cute they will grew and become people!! and talk back!!

And that's when you should kicked them out to the bottomless bit!

[lifeisbloodyhard]

I Need All The Du'as in the world people, Don't be a Bakheel like sumubaridi people!!!

Are you serious

[Hyperactive]

naah, why bother to begin with. still I am causing problems to my parents!!

they worry too much about me. I don't want to do the same to myself. I pass.

[lifeisbloodyhard]

naah, why bother to begin with. still I am causing problems to my parents!!

they worry too much about me. I don't want to do the same to myself. I pass.

I was talking to the Sac. I'd love to have kids: 2 boys and 2 girls.

[Hyperactive]

lol I was replying to him too