Somalis View of Marriage

[Af_libaax]

Why Somali marriage is becoming more sophisticated and expensive ? My opnion there are two aspect effects today how Somalis View Marriage Religion and Somali Culture , Religion View is basically required both of them must be believers and old enough and the groom has to accept the Meher requirement which generally protects the bride arbitrary divorce , widowed and povert ,.

On the other hand The Somali Culture View of marriage is the messy One Number One Todays marriage both family has to approve Your gene (tribe) ,secondly the groom has to Pay ransom money to bride relatives ( SOORYO ) or YARAD , than the Poor man has to deal ( Four Season Hotel Wedding ) why We have to go through that .

Please explain to Us Basra Kambuli Gacaliso and the atheist Somalilight .

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[intellex]

that is why iam marrying indian chick two for one price

[Af_libaax]

intellex

I don't blame you The somali culture is to blame the decline of Somali marriages .I am going to philipenes 5 for One price .

[Nuruddin]

Western society is to be condemned for the increase of money when marriaging the woman you desire to be with. It's the perception, If you're not willing to pay the amount demanded that is inquired, Then the next man who comes along will settle for that price and wed her eventually. We're no longer in Somalia, Things are confined to alter.

[Mowhawk]

Nuridin

I have met many westerners who got married and didn't spend the amount that we Somalis do. I'm saving for a good one and no divorce saaxib, otherwise I have to declare bankruptcy.

[Advocator]

Yo..............just go along with the flow and tell her and her family you'll pay the money, if the marraiges last, she would forget and if it doesnt work and you'll seek divorce.............tell her to fock off

[LaDy-Qac]

loool@ Advocator...you are a fraud!!

I know, it practically costs a leg and an arm to get hitched with a Xaliimo these days!. But I guess there are some out there that will be satisfied with you as you are . Or maybe a russian mail order bride might be the answer for you . Either way it depends on your budget, how much you want to spend and also how much you really want to spend the rest of your life with a Xaliimo. Weigh up the pro' s and con' s

[Gamadid.]

If a guy is worth it, he may pay nothing as girls sacrifice for the man they love and want to spend the rest of their lives with(if nothing goes wrong). Sometimes she might even help the guy save face and pay on his behalf or contribute by depositing the money into his account fooling everyone else into thinking the guy has money. Then her parents, if they were materialistic become quite impressed.


In the end, it is the quality you bring to the table that can make a woman forgo burdensome practices.

[San_dheer]

@ ransom money

Most Somali weddings have always been expensive. Don’t go window shopping if you can’t afford to buy. But seriously, some weddings are ridiculously expensive and it is mainly for show, cause Somalis talk. Nothing wrong with expensive if you can afford.

I don’t understand why someone would be suffocated by their marriage.

[Daanyeer]

[quote="Mowhawk"]Nuridin

I have met many westerners who got married and didn't spend the amount that we Somalis do. I'm saving for a good one and no divorce saaxib, otherwise I have to declare bankruptcy. [/quote]


U can't SWING a MARRIAGE discussion in here without HITTING the ATTENTION of MOWI.



...I am the MASTER of my chest; i am the CAPTAIN of my fist....




Ur Brother With Intellectual Glasses In S'net !!!!!!!!!!

YYY Col\Prof Daanyeer YYY

[intellex]

[quote="Gamadid."]If a guy is worth it, he may pay nothing as girls sacrifice for the man they love and want to spend the rest of their lives with(if nothing goes wrong). Sometimes she might even help the guy save face and pay on his behalf or contribute by depositing the money into his account fooling everyone else into thinking the guy has money. Then her parents, if they were materialistic become quite impressed.


In the end, it is the quality you bring to the table that can make a woman forgo burdensome practices.[/quote]


loool Gama bro you are tooooo romantic for a faarax koowdheh but reality with xaliimo is different , if it was a european girl i would have said its macquul but todays xaliimos ??? i doubt . do you seriously think that someone like Basra uusay will do that ( well that is a bad example she is a desperado she might) but do you think a normal xaliimo will do that??

[Af_libaax]

San_dheer

Most Somalis they don't plan expensive marriage but the girls forces the Poor guy to Put stravaganza wedding party and after few months the newly wedding goes broke ,. God knows if they will end Up divorce and by time they split is too late she is pregnant , this poor child will grew up single Mom or may be raising by himself and guess what this kind children will end Up like Galol . I will bet most of (iskoris Ciyaal ) who grew up broken family will become like Dhuuso , Somaliliight .no moral guidance is that what you young ladies want ,

[Demure]

The only thing I hate about current weddings is the fact that you can't control your guest list (funny they don't have that problem in Somalia) If people could be assured only the invitees are going to be there, I'm sure they would settle for a small intimate affair that wouldn't cost a thing. Or even better in my view nowadays NO Wedding reception, period!

Most of the problems during the preparation of the wedding usually stems from families and relatives more than the couple themselves. If we could only find a way to limit their interference perhaps the number of conflicts would decrease as well, who knows.

[SoMaLiSiZz]

Bissmellahi

I can tell you all one thing, this is not from sunnah.. if the women is not down with sunnah why in the world would any man get married to her. ?

I see sorry somali men falling for this all the time and guess what ?? their marrige dose not last either, shame..

They get bankrupted and humiliated at the same time with the divorce papers. Why would anyone be so surprised this is the same women they have done major wedding party for she wanted to be seen and hear her so called Dayuus husband did not care about other men gazing at her, what sort of blessings was he expecting will come out from a wedding full with music xaram xaram and xaram was he really that stupid thinking he will be blessed with a pious child ? home full of harmony.. give me a bread they stated with the anger of Allah and their home will break because of Allah’s anger and punishments.. Unless they repent form of that..

but then again who cares right, most of them thinks this will not happend to me ...... .wrong !

[Basra-]

[quote="Gamadid."]If a guy is worth it, he may pay nothing as girls sacrifice for the man they love and want to spend the rest of their lives with(if nothing goes wrong). Sometimes she might even help the guy save face and pay on his behalf or contribute by depositing the money into his account fooling everyone else into thinking the guy has money. Then her parents, if they were materialistic become quite impressed.


In the end, it is the quality you bring to the table that can make a woman forgo burdensome practices.[/quote]

'Then her parents, if they were materialistic become quite impressed.'



Gama--why are you so Hilarious all of a sudden???



'Sometimes she might even help the guy save face and pay on his behalf or contribute by depositing the money into his account fooling everyone else into thinking the guy has money'


This quote sounds like a very familiar personal experience.My goodness-- u are either the farah who got lucky getting his wedding paid for by his rich wife or u are a wedding monger.(Frequenters of somali weddings, uninvited)



Gama- something tells me u dont have good opinions about the parents of the girls you like.Maybe they were tribalists or as you say-materialistics, a trait i find nothing wrong with!