My kind of mother in law!!

[black velvet]

Good luck

You should know a daughter is very unlikely to ditch her mother no matter how difficult she may be, and the one who would is not trustworthy.

[surrender]

And oh my daughter, make sure you speak only when spoken to and keep your eyes glued to the floor.

Ilahey hana cadaabin

lol. i guess thats what perect daughter in laws meant to do. in that case, noo soo duceeya!

[Madd_Scientist_]

Black Velvet,

They do. If a woman adores her man & he is good to her, then she will do anything for him.

True most women would lakin some of the expectations are sky high like telling her she has to be his slave for goodness sake. If I felt I had to do every single thing someone told me I'd feel claustrophobic and do the opposite.





loool hyper I hope your wife turns out to be just as reserved as her mother because it is not always like mother like daughter

BV,

what would a woman have to do in order to fall under this category? What would her husband ask of her which would make her his slave? (realistically speaking)

[Hyperactive]

that is very reason i want to choose a mother in law of my liking than the girl.
islam who is an angel to her husband ban raba inan teeda.

[eyes-only]

Hyper

I think you're in the wrong century if you're expecting that from your future wifey or mother in law for that matter.

[Hyperactive]

eyes believe there's many families still have daqan like me.

it's where you look like these kind of people and i know i wouldnt find here.

[black velvet]

Black Velvet,

They do. If a woman adores her man & he is good to her, then she will do anything for him.

True most women would lakin some of the expectations are sky high like telling her she has to be his slave for goodness sake. If I felt I had to do every single thing someone told me I'd feel claustrophobic and do the opposite.

BV,

what would a woman have to do in order to fall under this category? What would her husband ask of her which would make her his slave? (realistically speaking)

Being someone's slave is having no free will in that you are forced to do whatever is asked of you. I should point out the mother said the man is supposed to be her "slave" as well. It has nothing to do with feminism it's the cutting of two people in half and sowing them back together as one that disturbs me.

I see nothing wrong with having a personality and opinions and making decisions together with that in mind. If you disagree then so be it, I would never ask a woman to be the one to compromise 100% of the time because that would be hypocritical. I have a tendancy to speak my mind, I might shut my mouth maybe once, twice or even three times to keep the peace but no way would I do that for my entire life as someones wife. That is what I think a slave would have to do.

[eyes-only]

eyes believe there's many families still have daqan like me.

it's where you look like these kind of people and i know i wouldnt find here.

Walaahi I've never come across any Somali woman willing to be a doormat for any man. Maybe it's your arab side walaal.

[Hyperactive]

eyes no one wants doomat kind of woman.

neither naag nagging 24/7. doesnt know husband's rights and yell about her her and more her!!

marriage in consent issue. and each better to be clear in the begging instead disappointments later on.

[Madd_Scientist_]

Being someone's slave is having no free will in that you are forced to do whatever is asked of you. I should point out the mother said the man is supposed to be her "slave" as well. It has nothing to do with feminism it's the cutting of two people in half and sowing them back together as one that disturbs me.

I see nothing wrong with having a personality and opinions and making decisions together with that in mind. If you disagree then so be it, I would never ask a woman to be the one to compromise 100% of the time because that would be hypocritical. I have a tendancy to speak my mind, I might shut my mouth maybe once, twice or even three times to keep the peace but no way would I do that for my entire life as someones wife. That is what I think a slave would have to do.

But what would your own husband, whom you yourself choosen to marry ask of you which makes you his slave? Give me concrete examples. If your husband asks something of you does that undermine your personality, your opinions etc?


Maybe i've missed the slave part where does it say that?

[Hyperactive]

maddy she referering this line i guess:

`O my daughter, you are about to leave the home in which you grew up, where you first learned to walk, to go to a place you do not know, to a companion with whom you are unfamiliar. By marrying you he has become a master over you, so be like a servant to him, and he will become like a servant to you

if my wife making me happy im proud servant of her. no one close to me to my wife in this world.
she is my secrate keeper and would know things no one even my mother would ever know.

[eyes-only]

eyes no one wants doomat kind of woman.

neither naag nagging 24/7. doesnt know husband's rights and yell about her her and more her!!

marriage in consent issue. and each better to be clear in the begging instead disappointments later on.

Well that is a totally different matter then isn't it?

A marriage should be based on mutual respect, love and admiration. I don't think any woman who cannot express herself in the presence of her husband and is totally subservient to him is living at all.

I hate couples who nag constantly but that is just as bad as expecting one person to be subservient to the other in my opinion....I think there's a middle ground somewhere, like similar to the types of marriages my parents and some of my relatives have.

[black velvet]

But what would your own husband, whom you yourself choosen to marry ask of you which makes you his slave? Give me concrete examples. If your husband asks something of you does that undermine your personality, your opinions etc?


Maybe i've missed the slave part where does it say that?

Someone who has chosen me would know my hard headedness and so if he wanted to have a wife in the morning he would never speak to me like this lakin an example would be ordering her to do or not do something i.e "I forbid you to go out" "I forbid you to wear that" "I demand..."

I mean fair enough you are her husband but dude you do not own her. Even if he asks her nicely, I still think it is her choice to choose not to go out with friends or to not wear a head scarf (especially if she wasn't wearing one when they got married)

[Hyperactive]

eyes no one wants doomat kind of woman.

neither naag nagging 24/7. doesnt know husband's rights and yell about her her and more her!!

marriage in consent issue. and each better to be clear in the begging instead disappointments later on.

Well that is a totally different matter then isn't it?

A marriage should be based on mutual respect, love and admiration. I don't think any woman who cannot express herself in the presence of her husband and is totally subservient to him is living at all.

I hate couples who nag constantly but that is just as bad as expecting one person to be subservient to the other in my opinion....I think there's a middle ground somewhere, like similar to the types of marriages my parents and some of my relatives have.

that's why o said my kind of mother in law.

i know my self i dont even talk leave alone nagging. even if she doesnt want to cook, i really dont care.
i eat outside as long no jaqjaq. shanqarta even ennoys me leave alone constantly talking.

marka i deserve some one like me.

[eyes-only]

You're right, you should end up with someone more like you. Otherwise you'll get emasculated really fast. Try a traditional arab girl