LIVING THE SINGLE LIFE....

[surrender]

ducaysane acting cocky eh! goodluck finding your young bride! this is the west my dear, life back home was way diffrent than this! marriage isnt the only thing that keeps women happy these days, they realised there is more to life than relying on a man! there's the education, the career, the life as a single women is more interesting than back home. back home they wanted to get married as soon they hit puberty because thats the only way they thought they had some sort of control, and fufilment, and of course our jahilnimo dhaqan! which by now died down, hopefully. my cousin who's 32 just got married! after her long degree as a Dr, she still managed to get a husband and has two kids, lives like any other xalimos with exception that she's Dr and earns more than him! hey who's said getting married as 30 is not good! i think most somali men feel threaten to marry a women who's educated, and has enough life experence and wont take sh!t from him! i think is more to do with the fact that most men are feeling weaken by the idea of hard working somali women!! well goodluck in whatever age you go for.

[MrPrestige]

ducaysane acting cocky eh! goodluck finding your young bride! this is the west my dear, life back home was way diffrent than this! marriage isnt the only thing that keeps women happy these days, they realised there is more to life than relying on a man! there's the education, the career, the life as a single women is more interesting than back home. back home they wanted to get married as soon they hit puberty because thats the only they thought their had some sort of control, and fufilment, and of course our jahilnimo dhaqan! which by now died down, hopefully. my cousin who's 32 just got married! after her long degree as a Dr, he still managed to get a husband and has two kids, lives like any other xalimo with exception that she's Dr and earns more than him! hey who's said getting married as 30 is not good! i think most somali men feel threaten to marry a women who's educated, and has enough life experence and wont sh!t from him! i think is more to with the fact that most men are feeling weaken by the idea of hard working somali women!! well goodluck in whatever age you go for.

seriously i am happy for all those educated sisters but - the sooner you get married the better you can stay away from Fitnah dont you think
on a second though this is not about education issue - its when its best for woman to get married me personaly i think 22-27 and carry on your education who cares atleast have some kids something meaningful

[surrender]

seriously i am happy for all those educated sisters but - the sooner you get married the better you can stay away from Fitnah dont you think
on a second though this is not about education issue - its when its best for woman to get married me personaly i think 22-27 and carry on your education who cares atleast have some kids something meaningful

Maybe, maybe not! Though I don’t understand what’s that got to do with YOU wanting to marry a young xalimo? Are you telling me you doing her a favour!? By marrying her young, you keeping her from FITNAH? Anyways everybody has their own age range they want to get married, I just don’t see the reason why our dhaqan looks down on girls who marry when they above 20? Marriage is a blessing and people should marry when they want to, not when they forced to. Our dhaqan back home used to force girls to marry at a young age! And to older men! I doubt forced marriage is allowed in our religion, plus not to a man who’s like your dad’s age! I remember when I used to live in west London, there was this man who went (remember he’s 54) to somalia and married a 15yr old. When he came back he was a hero amongst the men both Somalia and UK. But the girl wanted to come to Europe desperately, so she kept on insisting in lasoo dhoofiyo, and when she came here a yr later, somalidii oo dhan baa kuqososhay! Ba’ayeye naa maxaad guursatay, naa waa nin awoowe kuunoqonkara, the girl felt so embarrassed she asked for divorce, and aduuyadeeda aya dhinaca kagashay! But why, why did even bother with 15yr old who don’t know jack about looking after 54 yr old? I bet thats what he wanted, someone who can look after him in he’s old age! Waa bacda waxaas. Anyways few yrs down the line, the girls’ still single, and happy!! Moral of the story: is WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY! i Doubt any girl who’s single is single because she couldn’t find a husband, but because she wants and likes her single life!!

[MrPrestige]

seriously i am happy for all those educated sisters but - the sooner you get married the better you can stay away from Fitnah dont you think
on a second though this is not about education issue - its when its best for woman to get married me personaly i think 22-27 and carry on your education who cares atleast have some kids something meaningful

Maybe, maybe not! Though I don’t understand what’s that got to do with YOU wanting to marry a young xalimo? Are you telling me you doing her a favour!? By marrying her young, you keeping her from FITNAH? Anyways everybody has their own age range they want to get married, I just don’t see the reason why our dhaqan looks down on girls who marry when they above 20? Marriage is a blessing and people should marry when they want to, not when they forced to. Our dhaqan back home used to force girls to marry at a young age! And to older men! I doubt forced marriage is allowed in our religion, plus not to a man who’s like your dad’s age! I remember when I used to live in west London, there was this man who went (remember he’s 54) to somalia and married a 15yr old. When he came back he was a hero amongst the men both Somalia and UK. But the girl wanted to come to Europe desperately, so she kept on insisting in lasoo dhoofiyo, and when she came here a yr later, somalidii oo dhan baa kuqososhay! Ba’ayeye naa maxaad guursatay, naa waa nin awoowe kuunoqonkara, the girl felt so embarrassed she asked for divorce, and aduuyadeeda aya dhinaca kagashay! But why, why did even bother with 15yr old who don’t know jack about looking after 54 yr old? I bet thats what he wanted, someone who can look after him in he’s old age! Waa bacda waxaas. Anyways few yrs down the line, the girls’ still single, and happy!! Moral of the story: is WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY! i Doubt any girl who’s single is single because she couldn’t find a husband, but because she wants and likes her single life!!

15 and 56 years old alright thats some crazy shit got to admit - still whatever rocks your boat but message that is mostly is would you put career ahead of family

[Niya]

I wish Somali parents could read the reminders in this article, and quit pressuring their daughters to get with the first Farah that approaches them. Somebody needs to pay attention to the ramifications of the high divorce rate and increasing numbers ofsingle parent households in our communites.

Good post Helwa.