Do you sometimes or maybe alot more than you realize

[SummerRain]

tend to get attached to situations or people you are otherwise not obligated to go to such lenght with? For instance if you knew someone was diabetic or homeless and you did all you could using all the resources you have; yet worry days or months later if they are alright or safe?

How do you detach yourself and not be guilt ridden?

[Advo]

dehumanize them, convince urself those people would react in a negative way if u were in their situation, or imagine them calling u ugly and u cant read. It's very easy to make urself deslike them.

[FAH1223]

miskin ismahan....you mentioned this to me the other day

[Babygirl-]

That's normal, what matters is if you help them out & do what you can do for them.

[SummerRain]

Adv,

There is good in all of us, and when somone is in need, its hard to say no...least in my case.

Babygirl and Fah,
When you know an 50s and some yrs old woman will spend the night out in the streets, how can one sleep? This is someone who has a college degree, hardworking and decent but b/c of the economic situation, they had nothing now. I can talk about million stories wallahi, its not that easy to just walk away sometimes.

[Cawar]

Do what you can, and let the Creator of all.. take care of the rest. He is the one with the knowledge, power and 7ikmah.
You might feel an overwhelming guilt, but your life should not stop and sit worrying about them..thats not even Islamic.

You do what you can to change a situation with your action, if you cant with your mouth and even if you cant..with your mind/thinking.

[Kolombo]

Never let your work influence your real life, that's what I've been telling myself for years. When I was a newbie, we once had to tell a Bantu patient to abort her fetus because she had a potent type of T.B. which the kid was going to contract and probably die from it since he/she didn't have good immune. I was the only Somali on staff and had to interpret everything to her. She could not grasp any of it, she kept asking how they knew with certainty her child was going to contract her illness and die from it. That bothered me and stayed with me for a very long time.

Find a way to detach yourself from your work or it will fuck you up. Social work, healthcare, customer service where there is a lot of human interaction is a major pain in the ass.

[SummerRain]

WOW Kolombo I cant imagine doing that.

Its easier said than done wallahi. I tried to convince myself I dont have to solve every problem and every situation to make others happy. All I can do is the best I can but still....sidi aa ahay

[ciyaal_warta]

tend to get attached to situations or people you are otherwise not obligated to go to such lenght with? For instance if you knew someone was diabetic or homeless and you did all you could using all the resources you have; yet worry days or months later if they are alright or safe?

How do you detach yourself and not be guilt ridden?

dont expect me to tell u how not to be positive abaayo...but one thing i know the best feeling is to help someone and expect nathin in return... i help pple when i can and when i cant i pray for them so the lord of all creations can protect 'em, feed 'em and shelter 'em...May ALLAH be wif us all..amiin

[S.dot.P]

[black velvet]

There is no hardship without relief - that keeps me going, focusing on the bigger picture and knowing that in some way everything fits into a big puzzle with a meaning greater than I can understand. That kind of helps but be strong the idea is to help them out of misery not join them