sidee loga aarsada qof

[Garbo_Gedo]

This happens all the time, I am about to leave a one aanu wada soconay for more than a year for another and marry her.

Things happens, and apparently I am about to do what you ex- done to you and chance that I'll be bothered to explain myself is Zero even though I have legitimate reasons which convinced me that she would not be the ideal wife/mother I would have imagined afterall.

[Walaashiis]

This happens all the time, I am about to leave a one aanu wada soconay for more than a year for another and marry her.

Things happens, and apparently I am about to do what you ex- done to you and chance that I'll be bothered to explain myself is Zero even though I have legitimate reasons which convinced me that she would not be the ideal wife/mother I would have imagined afterall.

Waaw, do not you think she desreves explanation? and did you know this one while you weree talking with the other one?
miyaadan ka baqeyn nabsi iyo naxdinteeda. I am an educated woman and not that young yet I find difficult to cope with this emotional anguish. At the end of the day we are humans and qalbigu waa qarsho.

Why guys do not tell us first what is wrong, so we can go on our way. Instead you chose to keep us hanging around and shock us with 'I am marrying someone else'.

I curse my ex the minute I open my eyes and see that I do not have much choices left for me. Waxaan dhahaa sidii iiga nixiyey Ilaahow uga nixi. Farhadaada ha soo gaabato. I now this is horrible, but even if I do not say it aloud, niyadeyda ayaa habaarta.

marka walalo waxan ku oran lahaa ka fiirso before you do anything.
The best thing is to break up with her first citing your reasons ( unless it is that you find her ugly or find a prettier young one). Then la qabso kuwo kale.

It is cowardness to keep a woman in the dark

[Walaashiis]

Garbo_Gedo,

Can you tell me some of the reasons that you are dumping her, so I am find some closure myself

[Garbo_Gedo]

Garbo_Gedo,

Can you tell me some of the reasons that you are dumping her, so I am find some closure myself

Sorry I can't, what if she logs on this forum and faces the naked truth I kept secret from her stated on some random forum.

I feel inaan meel inanta shaqsiyadeeda uga dhacayo hadaan shakhsiyadeeda iminka falaqanqeeyo. Inkastoon kala dhamaaneyno forever qiimo iyo qaayo bay agtayda ku leedahay oo ku yeelan.

[Walaashiis]

Garbo_Gedo,

Can you tell me some of the reasons that you are dumping her, so I am find some closure myself

Sorry I can't, what if she logs on this forum and faces the naked truth I kept secret from her stated on some random forum.

I feel inaan meel inanta shaqsiyadeeda uga dhacayo hadaan shakhsiyadeeda iminka falaqanqeeyo. Inkastoon kala dhamaaneyno forever qiimo iyo qaayo bay agtayda ku leedahay oo ku yeelan.

You are either not telling the thruth or a joke.

you already said you are going to dump her and you have another one. It is the samething is not it?

I thought you were a serious person. Thank you for wasting my time. I hope you are not one of the moderotors so you do not ban me for telling this:

You are a liar

[Navy9]

Walaalo,

I am sorry for all what you are going through and there are no words enough that can be said to comfort you but for you to not jeopardize the next four years of your life and for you to be able to move on, the only thing you can do is forgive him. I know that is hard but that is the only medicine otherwise his memories will haunt you and over shadow any potential person who you might come to know.

And as some said, put your trust in Allah, He knows what is good for us. And try to make yourself busy, volunteer some where, go do some zumba classes, dye your hair purple

[Walaashiis]

Walaalo,

I am sorry for all what you are going through and there are no words enough that can be said to comfort you but for you to not jeopardize the next four years of your life and for you to be able to move on, the only thing you can do is forgive him. I know that is hard but that is the only medicine otherwise his memories will haunt you and over shadow any potential person who you might come to know.

And as some said, put your trust in Allah, He knows what is good for us. And try to make yourself busy, volunteer some where, go do some zumba classes, dye your hair purple

Navy9,

Thank you. I read your posts to me before and appretiated it

Walalo I know iney fiicnaan laheyd inaan cafiyo but I cannot do that at the moment. I wish I can stop cursing him but that happens automaticcally.

I know I need to work on my deen and eemaan. This is my main problem. I have to do something about this, Insha Allah. It cannot go on like this.

I like the purple idea

[Navy9]

[The_Patriot]

Walaashis what use will it be to you if he tells you things that are not reserved to be told?
I mean do you expect him to say I am sorry and I am stupid and blablabla.

You see there was not contract at the beginning of your shukansi and thus its not binding nor a legal obligation. Do you know his history maybe a Xalimo did the same thing to him.

But surely we folks at SNET did him a wrong?

To be just we need both sides of the story you gave yours and we showered you with sympathy and empathy.

So Walaashis we the Jury of SNET cannot pass a verdict on your ex.

We will simply advice you to move on.

[Walaashiis]

Walaashis what use will it be to you if he tells you things that are not reserved to be told?
I mean do you expect him to say I am sorry and I am stupid and blablabla.

You see there was not contract at the beginning of your shukansi and thus its not binding nor a legal obligation. Do you know his history maybe a Xalimo did the same thing to him.

But surely we folks at SNET did him a wrong?

To be just we need both sides of the story you gave yours and we showered you with sympathy and empathy.

So Walaashis we the Jury of SNET cannot pass a verdict on your ex.

We will simply advice you to move on.

The thing is he is not the one in pain, I am. Plus whateever I have done to him he did not say anything instead this left me with a whole load f confusion to deal with. I wrote to him and phoned him asking what went wrong while making clear that I will never reconcile with him. The other time when I called him he shouted at me. It was only few days after the break up. I knew this man for a long time. He should at least treat me with some respect.

As far as I am concerned his reason is that he fallen in love with younger pretty new woman ( waxii caalamkaa jecel hablaha cisubna caashaqa).

Had he broken up with me first or raised issues then I would have understood it. Instead he kept me in the dark until he made sure the woman reciprocates his love interest. He became hurtful overnight and cut communication with me. How would you explain that other than he could not help himself with the new look

Walahi I have no desire to be with him just anger.

CAN WE PLEASE END THIS THREAD SO I CAN MOVE ON FROM IT.

[The_Patriot]

OK Walaashis
But he is not the only fish in the pond (this is what we Faraxs say for Xalimos but you can use it)

[RuralMan08]

Walaashis what use will it be to you if he tells you things that are not reserved to be told?
I mean do you expect him to say I am sorry and I am stupid and blablabla.

You see there was not contract at the beginning of your shukansi and thus its not binding nor a legal obligation. Do you know his history maybe a Xalimo did the same thing to him.

But surely we folks at SNET did him a wrong?

To be just we need both sides of the story you gave yours and we showered you with sympathy and empathy.

So Walaashis we the Jury of SNET cannot pass a verdict on your ex.

We will simply advice you to move on.

The best advise written so far.

Walashiis, time to move on, forget the past.

[SummerRain]

Walaashis,
We dont always gets closures and not everything in this life will have a sensible explanation and life is too short to entrap yourself with them.You said you dont pray anymore or have difficulty doing.If that is the case,I suggest you start being consistant in your salah and make alot of dua so Allah can ease your pain.Also,as Navy said, forgiving him is one way to moving on with life and if you cant now,then still make dua so that Allah can make it easy for you to forgive him inshallah. Communicating with Allah will bring peace to your heart and inshallah you wont be disappointed.