WHO HERE HAS LOST A LOVED ONE?

[1nemansquad]

or someone very close
how did you dealt with it? if you have ..

[1nemansquad]

or how do you console a loved one who lost a loved? specially when you're not familiar with these sort of situations

[sadeboi]

Never have, I don't know how I would deal with it, increase my cibaada and ask for their forgiveness all the time.

[greenday]

Not yet alhamdulilah, i've only lost one awoowe and i was young. Ilahey cimri dheere cafiimaad iyo cibado fiican, dadkeena hasiiyo.

[1nemansquad]

i haven't either but someone very close to me has, so I'm quite confused on how to deal with them

[HELWAA]

Just be there and listen, be gentle and hug them.Pple in shock dont care about words, just show them that you care.

[Voltage]

From what I heard, don't pretend to "know" what they are going through. Try to be there for them, don't try to get them out of grief. Basically just be a shoulder to lean on without putting your opinion, your 2 cents, judging, or attempting to "know" what they are going through.

[Twist]

Inta dhimatay Ilaah ha u naxariisto.

I lost loved ones & the loss of a brother is the most painful and unforgettable, even more painful than a parent's in my opinion.

Well, we're all on that same route sooner or later so may Allay forgive our sins & guide us into the right path with husn al-khatimah Insha allah.

PS: As most people mentioned, there's nothing we can do about it whether it's us who lost a loved one or someone who is close. If it happens to us, all we can do is say "La Xawla wala quwata ilaa Bilaah" & tell ourselves that death is xaq. And likewise, u tacsiyay wixii asxaab ama qaraabo ah oo laga geeriyooday & remind them that it's inevitable.

[ahmedbrant]

Inta dhimatay Ilaah ha u naxariisto.

I lost loved ones & the loss of a brother is the most painful and unforgettable, even more painful than a parent's in my opinion.

Well, we're all on that same route sooner or later so may Allay forgive our sins & guide us into the right path with husn al-khatimah Insha allah.

PS: As most people mentioned, there's nothing we can do about it whether it's us who lost a loved one or someone who is close. If it happens to us, all we can do is say "La Xawla wala quwata ilaa Bilaah" & tell ourselves that death is xaq. And likewise, u tacsiyay wixii asxaab ama qaraabo ah oo laga geeriyooday & remind them that it's inevitable.

What could possibly be more painful then ur parents death assuming you've had a good relation ship with them?
I dread that moment probably more then my own death allahu'alam

[Twist]

I don't know, Ahmed, but I lost parent & brother and somehow my brother's death made me feel more depressed than my parent. I don't know may be I was young when my parent died whereas I was an adult when my brother died.

[Hyperactive]

i remember when my father lost his older brother who was like second father to him to look up in to him!! after we came back from graveyard, there was a lot of people, in and out but that night when every one left. he didnt sleep a second that night, he was reading quran very loud the whole night like he wanted to distract himself. i was so worried for him. my advice is let them grief as long as they need. time is the healer.

[Nabeela]

Everyone deals with grief differently, personally I lost someone who was really close to me, I never thought I will get over it, the pain was excruciating, just be there for them, and don't pretend you understand their grief, thats the worst thing you could do.

[1nemansquad]

Everyone deals with grief differently, personally I lost someone who was really close to me, I never thought I will get over it, the pain was excruciating, just be there for them, and don't pretend you understand their grief, thats the worst thing you could do.

when you lost your loved one (ilahe hau naxaristo)
did you wanted your space?
someone to talk to? or talking to you?
people being around you?
a reminder of that person you lost or dead silence like 'his or her name not being mentioned'

[The_Emperior5]

Begin this year i had to tell my mum her brother passed away i have never seen my mum so devastated she was like i so wanted to Call him that same day but something told me you can call him tomorrow. I loved my uncle he was a great man may allah bless your soul he did so many good things for me he was much older than my Mum and when Awoow passed away in the 70s he basically raised my Mum and the young Children of the Family he was a father figure to her since awoow died when Hooyo was very young.I have never seen my mum so sad but My Mum is Muminiad and has a strong iman and said reer walba uu buuxa geeri ba xigi. It feels terrible if you lose a loved when i was told My uncle died i could not respond i was just quiet. But Mum sees her brother still in her dreams him walking up a stare all the way up and under neath there is the world people busy doing all kind of things.

Allah forgive our sins and that of our loved once we will all die sooner or later may allah have mercy on all of us

[Cinque Mtume]

AUN to your lost loved ones.

Me personally, when I lost my loved ones during my life, I just wanted to be left alone but I appreciated the offers of consoling me by everybody. I regret that, because when one time the conversation was about a lost loved one, I started tripping. I had to go away and broke down. I probably didn't deal with the loss the right way.