Shaking hands with the opposite gender

[FAH1223]

i hate shaking hands with either gender because people don't wash their shid

[NoAngst.]

Shaking hands with the opposite sex is ok but only if you murmur Bismillah before you shake hands.

Eebbe knows best.

[Alchemist]

Shaking hands with the opposite sex hmmm. From my understand in the shafi'i madhab touching the opposite sex is discouraged. But what if you do, then the majority oppinion is that it breaks your wudhu, but another opinion is that if the other person does the contact (like they bumped into you skin to skin) then they brake your wudhu and you keeps yours, and another minority opinion is that if there is no desire derived from the touch (being so common it doesn't stir anything within you) then neither brake wudhu. So, the worse thing that can happen is breaking of wudhu. Interesting enough, the Hanafi and Maliki position is that touching the opposite sex doesn't break your wudhu, and the hanafi going so far as to say that even if there is desire initiated it doesn't break your wudhu. I don't know the hanabali position.

That being my understanding from what I got from my teachers who studied shafi'i fiqh. That being said, aniga I generally avoid touching hands with the opposite sex such as shaking hands, but I don't go crazy if I do shake their hands, the worst thing that happens is that I brake my wudhu.

I was thought is xaram according to the madhab. This is what it says in majmo Nawawi. I could be wrong though cause it was long time ago.

What city are you in btw and are there a lot of shafi culama?

[union]

I think people need to stop oversexualizing everything that has to do with the opposite gender.

[Lillaahiya]

Shaking hands with the opposite sex is ok but only if you murmur Bismillah before you shake hands.

Eebbe knows best.

LOOOOL Comment of the day!

I shake hands..matter fact, I get all up in it. Ka dib, waan weysaysta

[MizHargeysa]

Its all about body language once they see your not gonan shake their hand they'll get the deal .. or you could wear gloves if it a must with noway around it


Here is where my problem with shaking hands with opposite sex lie ; i have non-muhrim cousins and uncles who wanna hug me and shake my hand especially if i haven't seen them for years. I see them as my brothers and uncles and have grown up with them and think nothing of it. However this is not allowed in Islam since in the islamic ruling they can marry me. This really makes things awkward because they get the wrong idea and start to think that i don't like them and "xumaan ban ka fikiraya" they feel embarassed and somehow offended. arghh one cousin don't visit no more coz he thinks we don't like him i can't change it so they'll have to get used to it.

[DisplacedDiraac]

Shaking hands with a member of the opposite sex *who's not your mahram*, is not permissable and sinful!

There's a hadith of an event where the Prophet *saw* said ''It is better for you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle than to touch the hand of a woman who isn't permissible to you''.

[XaliimoFarax]

Its all about body language once they see your not gonan shake their hand they'll get the deal .. or you could wear gloves if it a must with noway around it

That reminds me of the somali ladies ‘maro-handshake’ using their jilbaab or gabasaar to shake hands it just looks weird and off. Either shake their hands or don’t know compromise.

With the relatives it could get uncomfortable I had few cousins reunited after many years of living different states the only way around is to explain it to them no buts or ifs. Now we cool was bumpy road but we got there at the end even though there is the occasional forgetfulness around wedding celebrations etc

[Advo]

Issit haram to do the chinese bow? I like that much better then shaking hands with anyone but somehow I think its more wrong.