do u chase after them or should they come to you?

[salool]

I thought it was the other way around, it's the men who rush intu marriage not the ladies.

Either way it's good to put all ur cards on the table, why waste anyones time.Life is to short to wait for someone who have no desire to get married.

[Somaliman50]

interesting views. so we have some people saying why should girls rush? though its not good to be suspicious, she could be hiding something so she might offer herself in an attempt to seal the closet. then again, everything (especially since we are muslims) should be based on honesty, and only then would it be ok for her to be pragmatic.

salool, sxb i highly doubt men would rush into marriage because marriage = male responsibility. thats one of the reasons why girls usually get married a lot younger in age than men.

princedaadi, sxbow give me the lowdown for calafku in muqdisho, tolow ma fursadaa taal?

[greenday]

Would i say ninyahow i aroos? NO but people in relationships talk about their future plans and aroos is part of it.

Twist you are mean walahi and please 6years your junior waa habar no wonder they wanted marriage

[Twist]

Daadi, first things first. Was I interested in them? Kinda, yeah. Did I do background check on them? Didn't reach that level but I was into character check & what was in front of me & that's when I had to stop & retreat before I went to the second phase.

Both of the two girls I was talking about were in a hurry just to get hitched & did almost anything they could to have that. They were young, finished high-school and did some college. Almost all the girls in town got married or were in the process of getting married. Somehow they felt they were left behind hence acting desperate for marriage.

Now, both of them got married respectively four & three years ago. The one who got married first had one baby and the guy left her for another girl. Lucky for her about a year ago she remarried. The second was married almost for 3 years and was divorced just a few months ago.

Daadiyow, I lived long enough to at least have some sort of radar to foresee what can or can't work, matey. The only thing I will never rush into is marriage. After all, I don't have a clock that stops around 40's. Xitaa haddii howl-gab la noqdo waa la is farsameyn karaa, abti. That's the good thing about being a guy.

Niyada intaas ku qaboojiso ogoow nolosha dhabta sidaa inay ka duwantahay oo oday cad ah naagi ma hunguriyaynayso. Farsamayntaad sheegayso kaniinki baas haddaad ka wadid aan kuu sheego duqa, nin duq ah jiradiisaa badan oo sidii ciyaal in loo xanaaneeyuu rabaa.

Dag-dag badnidaa ma Dayr baad dhalatay? All I said is 'farsamo' and you got that as kaniini? Don't you know the younger/fresher they are the more effective than any kaniini on earth?

greenday, ..I..

[sexy-kitten]

Let them all come to me. Then I can put a number tag on them. Bachelor #1, bachelor #2, bachelor #3, bachelor #4... Then I can weave them out one by one. Bachelorette style!

[Lillaahiya]

Waxaas waan ka xiishooda. Even macking a guy before he steps to me is just desperate-nimo in my books.

[Alphanumeric]

I'm not sure what to say on this. I guess it depends on how ready I am.

But, I can vouch there's a certain percentage of sisters more interested in marriage, than the person they're talking to. On that, I side with Twist. But I also say there's no sense in leading on a girl for several months to a year, without intending to marry her.