Avicenna wrote:Monk - I've never doubted that you're a young man who has been blessed with foresight and grand ambitions, may they come out to be true, inshallah. I only meant to bring to your attention that simplicity as you define it may prove to be more elusive to acquire than the equation you've conjured up in attaining it. From experience, younger women are a handful; they're often times shallow, easy to please, have little or no grasp on the realities around them and may lack loyalty. So, rather than limiting yourself to a certain age group, it might do you more good to focus your energy on someone with similar ambitions and background. In the end, it all comes down to your long-term goals. If your plans are to return to your family's farms in Jamaama - I doubt a ph.D. holder carries any weight. But, if your plans are to wed here and raise a family in North America, then a resourceful wife who can be a companion as well as a partner in raising your children becomes crucial.
This is where I always tell my male relatives to marry from their peers (there are plenty decent, simple girls looking for decent, simple men in the West). For compatibility and practicality reasons. I see it as a grave injustice to import a gullible, ignorant, wide eyed teenager from Somalia to North America as though she were a commodity, when there are numerous good girls here to begin with. These girls usually end up locked away in some run-down apartments day after day. After leaving behind their family and friends, and everything theyve ever known, they silently suffer from seperation anxieties. Getting knocked up every year, living in perpetual loneliness, alienation and never-ending post-partum depression. This isn't her environment, it may be for the husband, but certainly not her. If anything, she will be a burden, constantly needing reassurances, consoling and time to adapt to her new surroundings.
It may surprise you, but women actually desire to be wooed by someone with similar traits, than someone they fear, are unsure about or find to be alien. I've met enough women who swore by me that if some women had d!cks, they would rather be in relationships with them than any man. Basically, they want a man who's a rough neck, but able to get all feely and emo with them once in a while. Women love drama and are easily bored without it. Simplicity is an alien term in their vocabulary, it's pure biology, they can't help it. Sometimes, I create drama for no reason with them, just to balance things and have some peace.
This is the best post I've ever read on this site, I love it so much I want to take it behind the middle school and get it pregnant. Single? You got any brothers farax?
---as for saying I'm anti-social, I think that's just ridiculous; I am the king of socialization, able to spark debate and enlightenment in every dull circle I've ever walked into. At no point in this topic did I say that I didn't want a wife that is unsociable, I have no idea why everyone equates Westernized etiquette & lifestyle to some gold standard or default worldview. I prefer a non-Westernized Somali partner or one who lives in the West yet understands old school values & lifestyles, you guys are drawing so many irrational conclusions from that simple premise.
good luck may allah give you a suitable wife when the time is right.
