who cares what you think, this topic is about society and in particular the stigma that is associated with a mother living with her daughter.greenday wrote:Because back home, the mother payed for all the things her son used to get married its like she owns waxa eey ku nool yihinlakiin gabarteeda iyaa qawan ee dirte
Ani i would not like his mother living with me as much as i would not like my mother living with my brothers wife, naag sidi gabarta kuu dhowreeyso malahan, all wiilkeyga intee jeceshay weey ii jeclaane is qashin
i would not like my mother living with my sisters, people will make assumptions, like they will say "Islaanta wiilka ee sodoh utahay bee dhibeysaa" "maxee ugu kornooshahay wiilka islaameed miyeesan dhalin wiilo" this is simply because men are traditional bread winners, it does not matter if my sisters husband is unemployed or not, it is tradition. even if my sister and my family are extremely rich the stigma will persist, this is the way of the Somalis, deal with it.
So for my mothers sake and for my own sake, i would not allow her to live with my sisters, also who cares about my wife hateful thoughts, by the time my mother is old i will inshallah have children in their teens who can protect my mother from their mother's hatefulness and maintain harmony in the household, i will debrief them and what not.
I agree though, the mother will be best treated by her daughter, this is why i think it is good for the daughter to live nearby wherever the mother is staying, so she can stay in touch constantly and it is also good for the granddaughters who will learn from their aunt how to take care of their ayeeyo.