30 reasons...

[salool]

Beans, older women have more patient and can handel problems better then 19yrs girl.Laakin the same energy yeealan maayan.

It should't matter anyway, having a child is a blessing.Wax qorana cidi joojin kari mayso.

[Beans]

Beans, older women have more patient and can handel problems better then 19yrs girl.Laakin the same energy yeealan maayan.

It should't matter anyway, having a child is a blessing.Wax qorana cidi joojin kari mayso.

Humans are special creatures Salool.For most,the grass is always greener on the other side.

U would see those who had their kids at a very young age complain of their live passing by them,and not far away from that u will see those who wished their had them young so that they are not chasing after a kid at age 50+.

U gain some,u lose some. The most important is trying not to make regret ruin ur life.Whatever decision one makes,they should know it was the best they could at the time.

[salool]

Beans, older women have more patient and can handel problems better then 19yrs girl.Laakin the same energy yeealan maayan.

It should't matter anyway, having a child is a blessing.Wax qorana cidi joojin kari mayso.

Humans are special creatures Salool.For most,the grass is always greener on the other side.

U would see those who had their kids at a very young age complain of their live passing by them,and not far away from that u will see those who wished their had them young so that they are not chasing after a kid at age 50+.

U gain some,u lose some. The most important is trying not to make regret ruin ur life.Whatever decision one makes,they should know it was the best they could at the time.

Exactly.

I realy hate pple who complain about their children and blame them for all their problems.And all the IFS, if i just waited few yrs, if i only had 2 kids, if only my husband helped, if i did't had kids like chickens every year...i'm sick of all their BULLSHIT! i always tell to them : you made ur choice just accept it and do the best of it.Nobody had a gun in ur head when you decided to have a kid every year, nobody forced u to get married at so young age.The only person you should blame is urself.

It doesnt take a genius to figure out that our livs will change once we've children.They should have thought of all that before they got married and prepared for it mentally.And asked themselves: waxan ma ka dabaalan kara horta? am i willing to give up my career, my social life, my hobbies and become a housewife and do everything that is expected of me? bring kids to this world and raise them well? am i strong enough mentally to handel all of that?

You cant just throw urself in the sea when you know you cant swim or run a maraton when you never exercised a day in ur life.Ilaahy maskax wuxu inu siyey ina wax ku kala garano, qof kastaana isaga naftiisa yaqaan iyo wixi muhiim oo ah og.

[BlackVelvet]

Do you think we've become spoilt? Think back to our grandmothers' generation. I bet none of them asked "am I ready" "will I be a good mother" "am I mature enough". They got married, had children and raised them as was expected. Now we have the luxury of asking ourselves all these questions and with that the naivety of expecting a perfect life, with perfect children and a perfect husband. Articles like this promote the idea that you can have it all, if only you wait until you're 30.

I am not saying don't prepare yourself or don't wait until you're ready. Lakin are we going too far, to the point of putting ourselves and our future children at risk by waiting too long?

[salool]

Sadly Bv, time has changed and pple are more selfish then ever.When i see women in their 40s acting like they were in their 20s and trying to catch the life they missed , i just get pissed off.Yeah you can have fun at that age when you've no responsibilties at home, but when you leave 6-8kids to take care of themslves and you've no idea what they're up to you're unfit mother.They should have done all that in their in 20s and had fun but they missed it and their children should't pay for it.

Our grandparents lived in diff time and they had so much help from family and maids.And whenver they felt tired someone els could help them...i could never forget my grandmothers advices and how much she showerd us with love and kindness.I wish we all had the same luxury they had.we would't have so many divorces and problems we are facing today.

Nothing wrong with being prepared and selfish, otherwise an innocent child whoever never asked to be born will pay for it.

[BlackVelvet]

Yeah life is just not the same. I can't imagine raising kids in the West, inshallah I would love to have a family back home and the way things are going that could be a real possibility

[Beans]

Salool;Gotta love ur stance.

It is all about choices.

[salool]

Inshallah Bv, dhulkan gaalada wax caruur lagu koriya maaha.

Salool;Gotta love ur stance.

It is all about choices.

Indeed, is all about choices.

[Lillaahiya]

If I'm not married by 30, I'm going to purchase a husband from Hargeysa.