Settle this argument.

[Nanees]

So i'm of the school of thought that if somebody approaches a chick for marriage, or if you are the dude approaching a chick for marriage... that you're better off getting all the real nitty gritty out of the way. Ask the hard questions, like do you expect your wife to cook for you? What do you think are your wifes responsibilities to your family? ect.


My sister, disagrees. She thinks these are things you get to know about a person as the relationship progresses.

My rationale: as soon as you start talking to somebody and become invested your not gonna be as hard of a judge on them once feelings are involved as you will before. Plus, when somebody gets to know you they can figure out what you want to hear.

Her rationale: somebody can easily pretend to be somebody their not if you dont know them.

Who is right?

[xiimaaya]

she is

[XaliimoFarax]

I go by ur logic, two-three hours should be the hard talks.

[Nanees]

I go by ur logic, two-three hours should be the hard talks.

she is

so you trust yourself more to be able to tell if somebody will be a good wife or mother, after shukansing them for a bit?

[Nabeela]

How about letting nature take its course, you can ask them all the hard questions, but there is no guarantee that they'd be truthful with you regardless. Sometimes there's nothing better than relying on your gut instincts, no matter how much you are feeling somebody, deep down you know if they are rotten or otherwise..

[Nanees]

How about letting nature take its course, you can ask them all the hard questions, but there is no guarantee that they'd be truthful with you regardless. Sometimes there's nothing better than relying on your gut instincts, no matter how much you are feeling somebody, deep down you know if they are rotten or otherwise..

[xiimaaya]

I go by ur logic, two-three hours should be the hard talks.

she is

so you trust yourself more to be able to tell if somebody will be a good wife or mother, after shukansing
them for a bit?

Because knowing them well the person you would have good intentions and not mislead her but if i dont know the girl that well i would tell her anything to get in her Niigis.

[Nanees]

I go by ur logic, two-three hours should be the hard talks.

she is

so you trust yourself more to be able to tell if somebody will be a good wife or mother, after shukansing
them for a bit?

Because knowing them well the person you would have good intentions and not mislead her but if i dont know the girl that well i would tell her anything to get in her Niigis.

since when is that an option, lol, we're talking aroos not dating and then aroos.

[Nabeela]

Nanees, I'm not happy with our relationship, you have cheated on me way too many times, It's not easy nursing a broken heart

[Nanees]

Nanees, I'm not happy with our relationship, you have cheated on me way too many times, It's not easy nursing a broken heart

if i cheated its cuz i wasnt getting everything i needed nooh it takes two to tango.

[Daff]

Nanees better marry a chef ...how come cooking is more important to you than all the other stuff ur future husband baahi baa dileysa

[Alphanumeric]

How about letting nature take its course, you can ask them all the hard questions, but there is no guarantee that they'd be truthful with you regardless. Sometimes there's nothing better than relying on your gut instincts, no matter how much you are feeling somebody, deep down you know if they are rotten or otherwise..

What does "rotten" mean here?

People who've been good their entire lives can turn out to be two faced manipulative scum. IMO, you can never know, regardless how many questions are asked or when you ask them.

[Nanees]

How about letting nature take its course, you can ask them all the hard questions, but there is no guarantee that they'd be truthful with you regardless. Sometimes there's nothing better than relying on your gut instincts, no matter how much you are feeling somebody, deep down you know if they are rotten or otherwise..

What does "rotten" mean here?

People who've been good their entire lives can turn out to be two faced manipulative scum. IMO, you can never know, regardless how many questions are asked or when you ask them.

getting to know each other= false sense of security.

[Alphanumeric]

Then why ask immediately? Wouldn't that create a "false sense of security" if their responses align with your views?

[Nanees]

Then why ask immediately? Wouldn't that create a "false sense of security" if their responses align with your views?

No more so then postponing doing it an getting feelings involved. I really think marriages should be approached like business deals as much as possible.