They're asking for mehr I can't afford...

[Negritude]

Weddings are naff

[FarIyoAlif]

Samatr that's the first thing I thought of.

Man like me paid off my ex wife's mehr on the wedding day, the thought of being owing your wife money is just

[Samatr]

That part is true. The meher is supposed to be something the guy can afford and is not burdensome on him. The price the woman is asking for maybe ridiculous and silly but the meher is not a silly tradition, it's part of our diin.

I may have worded it wrong, I meant the tradition of paying money you don't have, meher/nikaax are part of diinta which I can never say anything bad about.

fariyoalif
she gotta be Muslim was the only stipulation my parents gave me.

[FarIyoAlif]

^ you are happy by the looks of it.. A lot of interracial marriages between somalis and others don't work out because of culture differences. Is that an issue with you?

[Somalistan]

Pack up and find yourself another girl, man. An honest brotherly advice right there. Sure you love her and all, but after few years of marriage, things will start to change and you will have to deal wth mountains of debt considering that barrow to cover the Mehr. This isn't just about her, it's also about your future.

[KingWaslawi]

Somali girls asks mucho dineros nowadays...waar mid yaroo Hindiyad muslima ah iska doono, oo ku guursanaysa adiga!!..timaheeda oo kaliya ay u dhigmaan 10 Xaliimo.

[Colonel]

Unless her puss.y is lined with gold and gushes forth the elixir of life, i wouldn't bother...

[Marques]

You're worried about meher and i'm thinking about the sooryo Need to pull a quickie on that tip.

[Titanium]

Somali women sicken me. They demand a 20K wedding. Many of them don't end up working once you marry them and use the "who will look after the kids" excuse despite the fact that they haven't produced you any kids in over a year. They want an unreasonable mehr amount. They become a hybrid of a walrus and a manatee within 5 years. Waa xoolo.

Somali men are better off with converted White women or Muslims of another ethnicity.

[FarIyoAlif]

You're worried about meher and i'm thinking about the sooryo Need to pull a quickie on that tip.

It's a tradition for the girls family to give back some of it, for example when I was getting married the family gave the inlaws 2k then they gave us back 1k. Somali weddings wadankii bay ku fiicanyihiin, back home if you spend 5k on a wedding the whole city will know about the wedding yacni waa mid caalami ah

[Cumar-Labasuul]

on top of paying the dowry to the bride I have to give her parents some dough too

The only good thing about somali weddings is when your female relatives are getting married, you get gabaati just because you're tol*

*qaad is given out also, but I give mine to others

[Corruption1]

the mehr is too high and I'll have to take out loan to afford it.

Dont waste your time saxiib, you know those Pay phone-boxes on the street, if you look inside you will see many women and their numbers, call them and forgtet about this greedy family

[Lillaahiya]

^ You have 0 game Meeshu ma Soomaliya ba?

[kambuli]

Gabdhihiina guursada..number 1 formula weeye. If you don't you will regret later on, believe me.. If God forbid you divorce you won't see your child again...

[Zeivira]

Somali women sicken me. They demand a 20K wedding. Many of them don't end up working once you marry them and use the "who will look after the kids" excuse despite the fact that they haven't produced you any kids in over a year. They want an unreasonable mehr amount. They become a hybrid of a walrus and a manatee within 5 years. Waa xoolo.

Somali men are better off with converted White women or Muslims of another ethnicity.

I'm a Somali woman.

a) I don't even want a wedding.
b)I will work till the kids start popping out.
c) My mehr amount will be reasonable.
d) I work out (exercise) now, what would stop me from doing so and ballooning up after marriage?
e) I am human.

War, generalisationska naga daa. Everyone is different.