
Eessa
Mar 13, 2013 @ 00:19:29
Yes I married a woman from Somalia on the suggestion of my father. The marriage was arranged, but before I took the plunge I made sure to find out about her as much as possible. We communicated for 6 months, and I eventually married her. I still remember that cloudy Saturday afternoon in a Somali cafe in London. The Nikah was conducted with my father and uncles being witness to the event. I spoke to the sheekh via a telephone on loudspeaker after agreeing on a meher, and that was that.
6 Months after our Nikah I went to Somalia to consummate the union. As soon as I set foot in Somalia (my family is from the Puntland region) I started to feel slightly nervous and excited all at the same time. I travelled from Bosaso to Garowe taking in the amazing scenery whilst imagining how my first encounter with her would be like. I had obviously seen pictures she sent me, but now I was going to meet her in person. It was early afternoon when I pulled up to the hotel which we had arranged for our first meeting. I can still see myself walking towards that big wooden door knocking with my father standing by my side. The door slowly swung open, but I could not see anyone as she had been standing behind it shyly. My father bade my good luck and went his way. I can tell you from my first encounter with my wife I thought that she was the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. A tall modelesque figure standing in the corner of the room, her face covered with an Arabian Islamic veil. She slowly removed it to reveal a beautiful smiling symmetrically featured face, and it was then that I realised I had made the right choice.
I can tell you now that me and my wife are very happy, and actually expecting our first child in a couple of weeks, praise be to Allah.
I guess my marriage to a woman from Somalia was indeed my fate, something that Allah had prepared for me, and I can honestly say it had nothing to do with wanting a submissive woman. But I do realise that many sisters in western countries have similar views to yourself. Maybe it’s because there aren’t any places where we can meet in the west. I can tell you university would have been a good place for me to meet compatible Somali women, but gave up on that idea as I saw that there was too much drama resonating around the whole subject.
Anyway that’s my story and fate is fate!
Reply by Elyas to Essa
@Essa
Thanks for sharing the story with us. I have been back home a lot of times and I must say that the most prettiest ones were left back home. You cannot imagine how many times I dropped everything for ones I came across strolling down Hargeisa. One time I was waiting for a minibus to catch to downtown Hargeisa and this girl walked right next to me and just stood there waiting for the bus. You could not imagine how gorgeous she was. If it was in the states I would not have hesitated to chop her down but this is Hargeisa and it was on a daylight, meaning that her men folks were all present all over the place, therefore I could not make the move on her. Then we hopped on the bus and that whole time I was contemplating how to approach her but the bus was full of people and I was warned before hand to watch out for my reputation because everyone in Hargeisa is somehow related to me and will put out the story that I had broken the custom and tradition of the country. I felt so suppresed. Then I told myself ill get off the bus where she gets off. Luckily she got off the bus at the same place I was getting off. However, I got too shy to approach her because I was so out of my element. I just didnt know how to use the local way of chopping down a girl. There and then I understood how nerds felt. I followed her for a minute and when I realized it was a lost cost I swallowed my pride and walked the other way. Till this day I have been wondering what it would've been like. A lost chance I must say.
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