What are Some Red Flags in Somali Men?

[FAH1223]

You're always talking about how you work 2 jobs and you're the sole provider as if we're supposed to stare incredulously in awe. You wouldn't talk so much about work if you didn't want everyone to know what you do, whether or not it's salaried, what you do on the weekends, and how many bills you pay, etc. We get it. You want us to acknowledge a young Somali guy who is a college graduate without a criminal record.

I should know my place and not speak unkindly to someone who's defied the odds.

As for my father, I'm planning to see him this summer to work out some unresolved issues. Your attempt to make me feel like shit didn't work. I'm not afraid to talk about things that are vulnerable in nature.

Now, who's saying I should be looked at in awe? I never said that I should be. I'm just an average joe who is really insignificant. All I'm doing is what I'm supposed to be doing. I never have seen myself as anything more than that. Just do what I need to do. I'm nothing special and never will be.

And whatever issue you have with your father is present in your writing and your hatred for Somali men. It's not making you feel like shid, YOU'RE THE ONE WHO BROUGHT IT UP. It's a recurring theme.

[Alphanumeric]

[SavySallySupersedes]

Now, who's saying I should be looked at in awe? I never said that I should be. I'm just an average joe who is really insignificant. All I'm doing is what I'm supposed to be doing. I never have seen myself as anything more than that. Just do what I need to do. I'm nothing special and never will be.

And whatever issue you have with your father is present in your writing and your hatred for Somali men. It's not making you feel like shid, YOU'RE THE ONE WHO BROUGHT IT UP. It's a recurring theme.

Maybe some other people can't pick up on your tone of writing, but I'm certain I'm not the only person who thinks this is so.

Stop projecting your issues onto me. If you're so average, why do you go to lengths to prove it? I don't have a hatred for Somali guys. I think you're trying to derail the conversation away from the real issue here. Why Somali men wince at the thought of how strenuous it is to raise a family in America. I just enjoy calling it like I see it.

[FAH1223]

Maybe some other people can't pick up on your tone of writing, but I'm certain I'm not the only person who thinks this is so.

Stop projecting your issues onto me. If you're so average, why do you go to lengths to prove it? I don't have a hatred for Somali guys. I think you're trying to derail the conversation away from the real issue here. Why Somali men wince at the thought of how strenuous it is to raise a family in America. I just enjoy calling it like I see it.

You're the one who has a rigid view of what people should be and seeing them as black and white.

There's a lot of Somali males raising great families in America and they are being successful at it. Kudos to them.

[SavySallySupersedes]

You're the one who has a rigid view of what people should be and seeing them as black and white.

There's a lot of Somali males raising great families in America and they are being successful at it. Kudos to them.

Ugh, you're so pretentious. I'm not too surprised. I mean, you do demonize Somali single mothers, and here you are, glorifying Somali men for doing what they should be doing. I'm so disgusted by your rationale or lack thereof, actually.

[CilmiDoone]

whats going on here

[CilmiDoone]

So, you're saying that my father walking out on my family is why I label and generalize Somali men? Would you like us all to applaud you for taking on responsibility? To recognize your efforts and tenacity? To celebrate just how much responsibility you have? You're not doing anything amazing.

See, I am right. Somali men would rather avoid responsibility, but when they're fulfilling their obligations, they want to be celebrated. Boy, please.

I don't need to be celebrated for doing what I'M SUPPOSED TO BE DOING. I'm my parent's oldest kid, I'm supposed to do what I do. I'm just laying a fact. And there's plenty of Somalis doing that but you ignore it and focus on the negatives

And yes, your father walking out on you is your problem and you label all Somali men with it. It's pretty clear. Or you had a Somali boyfriend who messed around with your emotions or something to that fact. Or you just hate Somali men for how Somalia is in it's current condition.

Whatever it is, you have a vendetta

Why is it what you're supposed to do? Unless your parents are not able to survive without your help, thats a different story.

[FAH1223]

Ugh, you're so pretentious. I'm not too surprised. I mean, you do demonize Somali single mothers, and here you are, glorifying Somali men for doing what they should be doing. I'm so disgusted by your rationale or lack thereof, actually.

I don't demonize single mothers.

Wow, you'd be a great politician. Putting words in people's mouths.

Cilmi,

My parents went through some financial hurdles but alhamdullilah they're good but even during the tough times they were there for me so naturally I'm there for them. My father has been able to go to Somalia and use his skills there, so I'm glad to be of help to him during a time of transition.

[SavySallySupersedes]

Ugh, you're so pretentious. I'm not too surprised. I mean, you do demonize Somali single mothers, and here you are, glorifying Somali men for doing what they should be doing. I'm so disgusted by your rationale or lack thereof, actually.

I don't demonize single mothers.

Wow, you'd be a great politician. Putting words in people's mouth.

Yes, you do. You say things like: "She probably didn't have a father" to explain a woman's transgression. I have plenty of friends who have 2 parents, and I have more of an attachment to my family and norms than they do. You may not know this, but women can turn out A-OK. Your fear of the truth is disconcerting.

I'm sorry to break it to you, kid, but upward mobility isn't as attainable for folk like us.

[Rockstar]

This is good.

[SultanOrder]

So, you're saying that my father walking out on my family is why I label and generalize Somali men?

Top class trolling

If not

I don't think Fah knew what hit him

Sally walal I wish you the best

[FAH1223]

Yes, you do. You say things like: "She probably didn't have a father" to explain a woman's transgression. I have plenty of friends who have 2 parents, and I have more of an attachment to my family and norms than they do. You may not know this, but women can turn out A-OK. Your fear of the truth is disconcerting.

I'm sorry to break it to you, kid, but upward mobility isn't as attainable for folk like us.

Upward mobility is tough for any people of color. White privilege is everywhere you turn.

And more often than not it's a lack of a father that causes destructions of the family unit. The African American community is the perfect example of that with their women running around everywhere and their boys going to jail or being useless. Somalis have replicated it to a point with many men abandoning their families leaving a void that Hooyo can't do by herself esp when she has 6 kids to feed.

[Sophisticate]

There are maladaptive personalities everywhere. These are the most dysfunctional and maladaptive types of men in general. These individuals are a subset of Somali men. There is the Pimp, Player, Predator (abusive), Impregnator (this rolling stone has serial marriages or multiple wives, he specializes in spreading his seed but is unable to fulfill parental duties and responsibilities). The couch potato, he isn't as bad as the others. However, he is spoiled rotten by his mother and he seeks out a replacement hooyo.

[kambuli]

As a matter of fact it is plus for a 22 yrs old to live with his family. We are Somalis who help each other. It is a good idea for any man at that age to live with his family. In this case he can easily pay his school loans, save money for marriage and help out his family at the same time.

[Hyperactive]

Women: What are some red flags in Somali men?
Men: what are some red flags in Somali women?

‣Spotty/inconsistent employment in the past 5 years.
‣Has children.
‣Over 22 and lives at home.
‣Credit score under 750
‣Considers places like Chili's and Olive Garden gourmet.
‣Smoker
‣A man that is constantly telling you he wants a "massage"
‣Can't find on google.
‣Damaged relationship with his mother
‣Unresolved issues with either parent.

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مخ lol reasonable list , except few i dont understand , like chili and olive.

im 22 going soon 23 and ive no plan moving out. we are culture people who do not move from home except for school overseas or marriage. and you assuming those who stay home they dont do well for them-self and depend on parents!

my parents didnt rise bisad, yeah i can pay my bills so byee see you occasions! wahas wa shoqol gaalo.

other than that