Who else grew up without Aabbo in the house?

[MaliPrince]

I just realized that me and almost all my cousins grew up just in a single parent household. I was wondering how common this is in the diaspora? Are there anymore two-parent Somali households?

[Caesar]

No my father supported my family and still does, to those affected by this case of abandonment , seek Allah's refuge , everything is a test to make you stronger and believe in God. We are all tested in different ways.

[KingWaslawi]

I just realized that me and almost all my cousins grew up just in a single parent household. I was wondering how common this is in the diaspora? Are there anymore two-parent Somali households?

Adeer magaal, ma taqaanaa waxa la dhaho?

[Titanium]

Well what are your circumstances? What's the reason you live in a single family home?

[MaliPrince]

Well what are your circumstances? What's the reason you live in a single family home?

are u serious? what else do think? pops left and started another family in somalia.

[MaliPrince]

I just realized that me and almost all my cousins grew up just in a single parent household. I was wondering how common this is in the diaspora? Are there anymore two-parent Somali households?

Adeer magaal, ma taqaanaa waxa la dhaho?

nope never heard of it.

[Titanium]

Well what are your circumstances? What's the reason you live in a single family home?

are u serious? what else do think? pops left and started another family in somalia.

Well he could have passed away or lived somewhere else due to a job to feed your family.

Do you talk to your dad?

[Caashaqa]

I just realized that me and almost all my cousins grew up just in a single parent household. I was wondering how common this is in the diaspora? Are there anymore two-parent Somali households?

Awe how cute you have something in common with your friends tyrone, malik, and hakim

[bluelovelady]

There are many divorced Somali couples. There are definitely more divorced instead of married. Moving to new countries, war, and refugee life put a lot of stress on couples. It is easy to stay together when times are good but difficult to stay together when times are hard. The only ones that I know that stayed together were the ones that understood that it was hard and did not blame each other. But that is hard to remember for most. It is easier for them to blame their wife or husband for all their problems instead of working together to make their life better.

P.S. Just because your mother divorced your father does not mean that you divorce him too. Call your father at least once a week to say hi. Men have too much pride to admit that they miss their children so make sure you call him. It will make him very happy.

[salool]

^ It's the fathers job to keep in touch with his children.He brought them to this world, masuuliyada isaga saaran tahay.Laakin nimanka somalida marba haday naagta furaan way yar yehiin kuwa caruurtooda la so xidhiidha.

[thehappyone]

Two parent household isn't necessarily a good thing especially when there's a lot of arguing and fighting going on

[SummerRain]

Yes, since most of my teen years. We miss him, May the mercy of Allah be with him. Ameen.

[Khadijaaah]

Salam Guys: The story of Nabi Yusuf teaches us a lot of morals in them is the importance of a family When it mentions the dream about the 11 stars :

From it i understood a great analogy which goes: the Sun is the father... it shines bright and provides the right nourishments for the plants to grow .... for obvious reasons We can’t look the sun in the eyes, which can be seen as a sign of respect..... we learn from the father figure how to follow rules how to manage things in life.... for a father is indeed a person having authority within set boundaries and plays a big role in the house hold

On the other hand The moon doesn’t have the light of its own; the moon gets the light from the sun, if the father plays his role then her role will be effective. And the stars will shine VERY bright... similarly, When the sun comes out the stars don’t come out suggesting the kids will know their place. But during the night you see the stars shining alongside the moon, meaning that the kids have that close relationship with the mother. it is in such a environment that you can find fruits growing.



If any of the parties are messing the cycle of balance is ruined.... this is what shaydaaan wants he wants to ruin family relationships. If the family relations ships are broken great fitnah arises from it.Its quiet evident that shaydan has taken a great hold on the greater society as a whole, people now consider the concept of marriage degrading and foreign, the idea of parenthood is no longer a sought out thing.......divided we fall united we stand.



POint of this is we should be patient with our spouse instead of being so hasty to divorce i know many parents who sacrificed there happiness for there kids and mashallah the trials and tribulations they went through have paid of. Have sabr inshallah all will work out.


wsalam

[IRONm@N]

I just realized that me and almost all my cousins grew up just in a single parent household. I was wondering how common this is in the diaspora? Are there anymore two-parent Somali households?

Its sad that almost 90% of the kids growing up in the diasparo today are growing up without fathers. even my nephews who are now almost 10yrs and never seen their father.
its the African America disease affecting the Somalis. but we are Muslims and we were suppose to know the importance of family values and family union.

I blame the state for taking the role of a father, so now the woman could get rid of the father, and doesn't worry about someone to pay her rent or food, since the state will take over. back in Somalia, the woman use to stay with her husband no matter what, because, she won't get any financial or security if he leaves.

that is why if I'm married, ain't putting my wife on a low income house or on welfare, we will struggle together and depend on me through out.

[Hodan94]

I think most Somali men realise that they can just have a great time without their families, maybe go back home and marry others, not worried about the kids outside as the government there would look after them....(welfare)

I see that with many Somali parents who have divorced, most don't give a damn about their kids. maybe a phonecall once in 2 months minimum.
some kids however do excel without a father in the house as they have tough mothers who push them to achieve something...

at the same time there are many fathers who are still married to their wives and are active in their childrens life... who also work hard to make ends meet, who hate begging or be seen in jobcentre even if they are qualified to receive extra financial support, even if this months salary means that they won't be able to buy shopping or maybe wouldn't pay the bills on time.

so this is just a sterotype. there are fathers who are not active with their families as well as those who are.
w