Dating - what's your style?

[BlackVelvet]

In a Somali context how do you date?

Are you the astaqfurullah did she just say dating, a man and a woman shouldn't talk on the phone let alone be in a dark place watching fitna

Is dating just going out to starbucks with someone every so often before you decide they're okay to marry

Do you date for fun even though you know you're not going to marry at that time/marry that person?

[Methylamine]

Are you the astaqfuruallah did she just say dating, a man and a woman shouldn't talk on the phone let alone be in a dark place watching fitna

Is dating just going out to starbucks with someone every so often before you decide they're okay to marry

Sure I guess, though I'd take her somewhere where I wouldn't be caught by the feds (hooyoyinka) so Starbucks doesn't sound bad

Do you date for fun even though you know you're not going to marry at that time/marry that person?

[EvolSyawla]

I date to marry personally. I can't be around the type of guy I can't see myself with in the future. Looks, intelligence, ambitious and great sense of humor...its got to all be there.

[SultanOrder]

Depends on which girl I'm dating.

[SelfD]

Oy Jasmine...when I saw this, I thought of you..lol Go on a do ur job

I don't know man. A month ago, my answer would have been different but of recent, I've been afflicted with a disturbing amount of fondness for someone so my advice would be that you stay true and be patient...a sidepiece isn't worth risking someone you really wan, it's a dilemma

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[BlackVelvet]

Sure I guess, though I'd take her somewhere where I wouldn't be caught by the feds (hooyoyinka) so Starbucks doesn't sound bad

So every girl you go out with is potentially your future wife, dating is like an assessment centre/interview?

I date to marry personally. I can't be around the type of guy I can't see myself with in the future. Looks, intelligence, ambitious and great sense of humor...its got to all be there.

How does the marriage conversation come up?

[BlackVelvet]

Oy Jasmine...when I saw this, I thought of you..lol Go on a do ur job

I don't know man. A month ago, my answer would have been different but of recent, I've been afflicted with a disturbing amount of fondness for someone so my advice would be that you stay true and be patient...a sidepiece isn't worth risking someone you really wan, it's a dilemma

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Maya walaaley ha i masabidin

[BlackVelvet]

Depends on which girl I'm dating.

PO have you ever dated a girl with the intention of marrying her? Been waa xaram

[SultanOrder]

Yeah of course, eventually, but not at that instance. But have I dated for nothing more than a fling.

[gulaid111]

Girls love someone with a future plans, someone who doesn't just want to smash and never call again, Somali girls are so gullible I always bring the marriage topic make her feel special and when I smash I never call works everytime.

[Methylamine]

Sure I guess, though I'd take her somewhere where I wouldn't be caught by the feds (hooyoyinka) so Starbucks doesn't sound bad

So every girl you go out with is potentially your future wife, dating is like an assessment centre/interview?

Lol not necessarily like an interview, but I would date a girl for the intention of finding out if she'll be the one whose feet will be my kids' Jannah
In my defense, I've never gone on an official date

[SelfD]

Girls love someone with a future plans, someone who doesn't just want to smash and never call again, Somali girls are so gullible I always bring the marriage topic make her feel special and when I smash I never call works everytime.

May Allah punish u more severely.

[EvolSyawla]

Girls love someone with a future plans, someone who doesn't just want to smash and never call again, Somali girls are so gullible I always bring the marriage topic make her feel special and when I smash I never call works everytime.

You are disgusting. Hoorta how do people talk/act like this and feel proud?? I hope your 'boy'hood falls off.

@Jasmine, If it comes up too early, you know he's after the goods. Just gotta be careful, somali guys (Like gulaid) are snakes, and aplenty.

If it comes up naturally, eventually, well, you go with the flow.

[BlackVelvet]

Sure I guess, though I'd take her somewhere where I wouldn't be caught by the feds (hooyoyinka) so Starbucks doesn't sound bad

So every girl you go out with is potentially your future wife, dating is like an assessment centre/interview?

Lol not necessarily like an interview, but I would date a girl for the intention of finding out if she'll be the one whose feet will be my kids' Jannah
In my defense, I've never gone on an official date

MashaAllah

Ilahey gabar kheyr qabto oo guri barakeysan isla dhisatiin ha ku siiyo

[BlackVelvet]

If it comes up naturally, eventually, well, you go with the flow.

You've actually clarified my question for me


How can you go with the flow and not be on a one track mind (marriage) if you're not dating for fun by going with the flow?