Married or previously married people - in hindsight what would you have done differently?

[BlackVelvet]

given your response to Blue, your premise is on a partner you don't quite know. You would have these thoughts only if the relationship has a rocky foundation, you are unsure of him given previous events that made you highly suspicious and/or lastly you're paralyzed by boredom. Besides we can't corroborate disinterest on his side of he leaves the toilet seat up etc....that never should warrant a stalkerish behavor from a spouse. Some men are by design forgetful and lack the capacity to understand little things that matter to women.

I feel like I am coming across like a crazy person

This really makes sense when you think about it.

If a woman has a reason, whatever it may be (no matter how solid or shaky a foundation) to doubt her man, then she should find out for sure before she goes off accusing him or throwing tantrums. If you have a hypothesis, go ahead and prove it. No need for drama.

Also a man who doesn't pay attention to the little things will eventually make a mess of the big stuff. That's why I rate people on little things that they don't realise they're doing, good or bad. IMO that's what it comes down to.

BV
Xaajiyada never asks me where I'm going or who I'm with. I have never given her a reason to doubt my commitment to her.

Tii hore, was just like you. lol...j/k

crazy women are not for everyone

I'm happy for you and xajiyada

[COOL-MAN]

Thanks for the advice bro. And may ur next marriage be a fruitful and long lasting one. Aamiin.

Amiin bro. You too if you have one.

[TheblueNwhite]

BV
Marriage perfect ah ma jiro.

Gabar caqli badan nin aan caqli badan lahayn ayaa ku soo aada badanaa. Marka waa in aad marwalba ka dulqaad badanaato xaajigaaga. Sasabato, madaxana u salaaxdo.

Waxaa doonto ayaad ka dhameysan kartaa odeygaaga haddaad caqligaaga iyo jirkaada ka shaqeysiiso.

Just do not nag him. Qaladaad badan ayuu sameyn intuu kaa cararaayo.

[BlackVelvet]

BV
Marriage perfect ah ma jiro.

Gabar caqli badan nin aan caqli badan lahayn ayaa ku soo aada badanaa. Marka waa in aad marwalba ka dulqaad badanaato xaajigaaga. Sasabato, madaxana u salaaxdo.

Waxaa doonto ayaad ka dhameysan kartaa odeygaaga haddaad caqligaaga iyo jirkaada ka shaqeysiiso.

Just do not nag him. Qaladaad badan ayuu sameyn intuu kaa cararaayo.

Hmmm I didn't know I could feel pissed off and nauseous at the same time

Thank you for that. Goodbye.

[salool]

BV
Marriage perfect ah ma jiro.

Gabar caqli badan nin aan caqli badan lahayn ayaa ku soo aada badanaa. Marka waa in aad marwalba ka dulqaad badanaato xaajigaaga. Sasabato, madaxana u salaaxdo.

Waxaa doonto ayaad ka dhameysan kartaa odeygaaga haddaad caqligaaga iyo jirkaada ka shaqeysiiso.

Just do not nag him. Qaladaad badan ayuu sameyn intuu kaa cararaayo.

Hmmm I didn't know I could feel pissed off and nauseous at the same time

Thank you for that. Goodbye.

Which part pissed you off...salaaxida mise jirkaaga ka shaqaysii

[EvolSyawla]

^ lool I would say most of that post.

Marry an imbecile basically that you can manipulate into doing anything you want... Sounds fun, but that is not the man you marry.

[salool]

^^ Sadly you will never know till you marry the idiot.When you liv together for a while, markaas bay xaqiiqada so baxaysa.Ilaahyna wuxu qorayna cidina ma joojin karto.

[TheblueNwhite]

Lol

BV. Didn't mean to put you off. But Branjelina doesn't exist.

Most men can't understand women issues. You have to teach them hence (sasabidda iyo salsalaaxidda). "Babe, we will not have Xalimo iyo Xalane over anymore. Xalane is telling Jamac iyo Kalun he makes more money than you. Bunch of haters right".

"Babe, If you want to get that ministerial post don't go to that baashaal house in Xamarweyn. Somalis are haters by nature and will use your presence at that house to tarnish your rep".

Do not expect a man to think the way you do. 1 more thing, you will always carry the bigger load of the relationship. 70/30. You will find this reality when the honeymoon phase is over.

[Advo]

Ashley Madison

[TheblueNwhite]

Lol

[SelfD]

BV,

You without this forum is the chocolate cake without the chocolate....

But yeah listen to Salool, she knows best....dhinac oo agony aunt ina loo furoo wa! Best advice and keeps it 100% legit

I want chocolate cake now...thanks ladies

You are married, stay in your lane

Chocolate cake is for single ladies

yeah but im preggers....rubbing chocolate cake in front of me is not nice. Don't make me oriin you

[InaSamaale]

Hmm... good topic. What is the summarised version though? -__-

[FarhanYare]

I had no idea we had so many divorcees.Ilayen wa waxa mesha loogu ciil baxo.

Euphoria i suspect u is a divorcee waa maxay the terrible terrible terrible advice you trynna give to the girls. If you cut off connections with his mum do you expect things will go your way . The bucks stops there maliinta aad ayaadada (Step mom) aad isku diirto is when aad deegaha qiic ka keento

lol its not terrible advise. Mother in laws are kinda evil so the less you mix with her the less chance you will clash. It's always good to see her once in a while buy her a gift and just be nice, but see her everyday and you will both start to get under each others skin.

Ok just put urself in mother inlaw seat 4 a sec: your daughter in-law wants to distance from you, she has no probs with ur son, but you only need to stay in your lane . How does that sound? respectable? you be ok with it?

[Advo]

Lol

I didn't expect anyone to get that

[gegiroor]

^ Nin hablo la saaxibey ha guursan ba.