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Then I suppose it depends on the couplePerfect_Order wrote:Impossible, she is more likely to believe his true loyalty lies with them. It's like when someone gossips to you, you never think they are gossiping about you to others, until word gets back to you.BlackVelvet wrote:True. He'll also fail the loyalty test if he cavesPerfect_Order wrote:LOL These women lie, it would kill them to not know. Nothing's curiosity is as strong as a woman's.
If the secret involves the wife and her lack of children...or lack of girls, or any other nonsense that threaten her relationship with her husband, trust me she will find out one way or anothergegiroor wrote:The husband should be telling his wife the information that involves in his immediate relative, since it came down to the point where his wife knows something is there that he is not telling her. It is husband's fault of initially giving signs and causing his wife to have doubts or worries. Once the concern is raised, imo he should come clean. Keep in mind, if the couple is married for awhile now and they don't have children, his family would start pressuring him to try and marry another wife. It also happens if they have children but the children are daughters only. His family would say, "are you going to stick with those girls?" It is an old age Somali mentality that strangely favors boys over girls. Since the concern is there at this point - where the wife is struggling why he is not telling her, it is becoming a trust issue. If he can't tell it, it is his responsibility to convince his wife that there are things that he can't tell her, and at the same time assure her that the secret does not involve them as a family.
so best for the husband to come clean on these types of close quarter family charter. No doubt we'd probably want to know...Perfect_Order wrote:LOL These women lie, it would kill them to not know. Nothing's curiosity is as strong as a woman's.
Zulaika, are the family members - who are thorn in that family's business - women? If there is an older sister who wants to settle score with her brother's wife, oops, my goodness, she can be a thorn in that family's affairs. Especially, if the guy is a wimp who can't tell his family members off, and there are many guys like that. Tell that woman to draw a red line in the sand that her husband needs to come clean, but tell her as well not push it too hard where it causes a divorcezulaika wrote: If the secret involves the wife and her lack of children...or lack of girls, or any other nonsense that threaten her relationship with her husband, trust me she will find out one way or another
