Would you put off having kids until your 30's?

[gegiroor]

troll account ^


when will the madness stop?

I am new to the forum sister PLATINUUM, however, if you find my comment offensive, please point it out. I didn't intend to troll in any (way) shape or form!

Theres a lot of people that have multiple accounts on here. i thought you were one of them. ill give you the benefit of the doubt

Thanks for placing me in probation period. I am also picking up some telltale signs from you, and it seems may be it is time we privately start something going. What do you think?

[CaliQase]

How about full time job (7:30 to 5:00), part time university (THU & FRI) and Marriage? Is that a good idea?

[zulaika]

Great topic. Thanks Zulaika

You're welcome, but it's not my topic

[Murax]

I never really planned, I remember hoping to be a mother and also finish my studies, get some work experience as part of my goals before focusing on family life. Alhamdullilah I didn't face the scenario you presented of having to choose between them. One of them was a study progression from the previous course I was on. Most girls I know my age found ourselves transitioning right into work life after uni. Marriage did not lie in waiting at the door of graduation, whereas an ensuing career most likely was. This is still the case for many young ladies still in school. So arriving at the crossroad of motherhood and career is more complex.

Personally I've seen these types of questions playing out in retrospect. 30+ unmarried career oriented women asking themselves should I have chosen motherhood over career... and vice versa with mothers feeling cheated out of career years vs their present stay at home mommy status.

When all options are weighed, the reality is biology plays a deciding factor. I would encourage any young girl out there with hopes of becoming a mother, to try before 30... Fertility issues spike after 30. It's never too late for eduction and whatever success therein lies, but unfortunately success in delaying motherhood yields far more hurdles.

Allah knows best!

Zulaika,

This is just pure logic and biological realities coming from You. With Men I'd say the opposite, their window to have babies is very long. Not being chauvenestic here but just speaking reality.

[zulaika]

Murax,

Yes men have plenty of time, this isn't a matter that plauges their thoughts...hence why this topic is in the women's section.

Ps, I'm glad we are no longer fertile past certain age.. A man can be old but still be able to get a woman pregnant, can u imagine if that woman was old too? He's not the one carrying the baby, lovingly suffering through it for nine month and endure so much pain in labour.

God bless mothers

[sovlsworn]

Stuff holding degrees and/or a neat job without being able to provide for 12 kids. Work to live folks.

If I don't have 3 by 27, baadka iga tuur. My Somali is terrible, kill myself yeah?

[YummyMummy]

Stuff holding degrees and/or a neat job without being able to provide for 12 kids. Work to live folks.

If I don't have 3 by 27, baadka iga tuur. My Somali is terrible, kill myself yeah?

Your Somali is but perhaps 3 is too much to fit in by that time? Getting to know +marry takes min. 1yr, pregnant + baby = 1 yr, breastfeeding + weaning + pregnant + baby = another 2 yrs... Its good to do it young but think it through in shaa Allah walaal

[sovlsworn]

^^How old do you think I am, I have time. I think. Oh shivers, there's another person involved...WHAT ON EARTH IS WEANING

[Bella18]

Lol@Solvsworn, you are too adorable
Indeed you have plenty of time till your 27th b'day.

As for me, the chances of me being a mother waa iska ilow

[YummyMummy]

^^How old do you think I am, I have time. I think. Oh shivers, there's another person involved...WHAT ON EARTH IS WEANING

I meant 3yrs is too little considering you want to fit in so much in that time, so it's better to regroup and hold your horses dearie


Bella you have plenty of opportunities my dear coming your way, don't lose hope, ha ku dagdagin, I'm sure all the respectable ladies here will be off the market in 2-3yrs and wondering what the hoo-haa was all about

[ChiefKimbo]

isn't 30 the age where ovaries are expired?

[BlackVelvet]

isn't 30 the age where ovaries are expired?

No, that's 21

[SelfD]

@ BV lol


I didn't..under 30 and having babies if u can is the best. Then you get to play with your kids and spend time with them. Im hoping to pop out another 1 or 2 before I turn 30 in sha Allah ( Praying for twins)

[BlackVelvet]

MashaAllah, congratulations again SelfD

[SelfD]

MashaAllah, congratulations again SelfD

lol BV I don't mean to misguide u..im still preggers. In my last trimester tho.