So today 12.30 I got a text;
"Hi darling, saw you coming into work this morning. I miss you, lunch at ****** at 1pm?
I nearly dropped my phone on the floor. I showed to my colleague friend; she laughs and says "well, I've been trying to tell you but you over exaggerated, didn't wanna know" (what the f!). "what do you mean" I asked.
"well, he came in over a week ago, looking for you and I told him you took time out for family emergency" (what!) she continues " but when I tried to tell you, you just cute me off, cos you didn't want "second hand information".
I died all over.I wanted to kill her.
So I reply to the txt.. ok.
Got there 10 mins late- practically shaking, I looked f-up, puffy eyes from the lack of sleep and crying from inside (I can't actually cry tears, not healthy).
He is sitting there looking all dandy -with no care of the world- smiling ear to ear.
Greeting and I sat down.
Him: How is your family, was your nephew sick again?
Me: Nephew? (am I dreaming)
Him: Yeah, H (my colleague) said you took time out for family emergency.
(I have a nephew who is sick regularly and I've taken time out to help before")
Me: He is fine, everyone is well.
Him: That's good.
Skip a while - had lunch, general chitchat.
He tells me how he has been busy helping out his brother after work to move to new house, painting etc .
skip again
I wanted to know what he wanted to tell me.
Me: You sent me a text two weeks ago asking to speak with me?
Him: Oh, I had a crazy idea, non-issue now.
(wanting to dump me)
Me: Go on.
Him; well, since your mother has been away for a year now and no sight of her coming back, I thought maybe we could ask your dad over the phone.... If your big brother could be your wail so we can have nikah (we both agreed we didn't want wedding or big fuss)...
But my mother talked me out of it he continues.
Am sitting there looking, feeling like an idoit, mourning the time, the sleep I lost and the cursing (I cursed him a lot)
Me: It's not bad idea.... Why didn't you tell me?
Him: You seemed busy and I didn't want to pressure you and my mum remained me how much a girl needs her mother, I wasn't thinking straight. (he told his mother about me!
they are very close, scary sometimes.)Me: Ok, so nothing else?
Him: No. You been very quite lately, I was kinda worried. (he was KINDA worried!! the most underestimate statement of the year)
So there everyone; laugh away.
over 2 weeks of hell over misunderstanding.
He thought I was busy and I thought he left me