Alxamdulillaah I am single at 40 and Childless

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

Sumu, you have a great amount of imaan and that's wonderful but getting married doesn't have to be so complicated and financially demanding as you describe it.

Go to your local Mosque and chat with the imam, there are plenty women looking for marriage.

Fuck this other shit. Marry a woman who wants to get married for the sake of Allah and you will grow in love together.

As a 40 year old man, your a bit late on the children's part, your kids should have been in their early teens now.. Marka somalinet ka kac e masaajidka tag!

The problem is Sumu doesn't want to face the reality, waxay kaga dhagtay 23 years old oo maraykan joogta.

[Hyperactive]

lol war he doesnt want to marry in america any more, he has plan in Africa.

i know this retarded somali teacher after 27 years teaching here in doha. his 6 kids grown and work. he collected his elder son's money trelling him he will invest in kenya. while he was there, married 18 years old and after one year he back so pissed off "why new wife not pregnant" he was thinking to try another 17 years and check if he can have kids!!! at age of 72 he wants kids!!!

it's so disgusting walle this culture of marrying young poor women when i do not think they can even do the job.

[SimplySerene]

Hyperactive it is truly sick that there people out that take advantage of young people who still need to gain experience in life but they also go after poor young people.

Truly sick mentality

[SimplySerene]

Yes, I am 40 years old and I have no wife and children That is exactly how allah planned and its not my job to change. If allah wants me to be single and childless for another 40 years faciyaadu billaah, then I will be happy and thankful to allah. How do I even know I can be a good father or those children will be good or will be khair for me. Allah in uu shartooda iga yahoyo ayaa laga yaabaah oo ay diinta iga bixin lahaayeen ama ayba idili lahaayeen

What matters is, I sujuud for allah, I am healthy and allah has given me what to eat. A lot of people are worried about the future and who will take care of them, Well, I have my allah that will take care of me. Alxamdulillaah. Maybe I will be healthy and strong till I die and I won't even need anyone's help. Alxamdulillaah ya allah calaakuli xaal.

I am happy and healthy now alxamdulillaah and that is all I care. I have about $1500 in my account and another $800 coming back from my taxes. Super Rich maasha allah.

Sumu - Do you man. Don't let people pressure you into a situation you don't want or not ready for

I am taking my time. When I am ready for marriage and kids it will happen. I am not stressing myself

Even I wait to have kids in my 40s or 50s. I am okay with it. Adopting kids is always an option. I probably will do it even if i can have them or not. Maybe I can have 2 or 4. That would fun too

With anything in life prepare yourself. And if your not ready ignore others who pressure you.
Live the life you want to live

[Sumubaridi]

lol war he doesnt want to marry in america any more, he has plan in Africa.

i know this retarded somali teacher after 27 years teaching here in doha. his 6 kids grown and work. he collected his elder son's money trelling him he will invest in kenya. while he was there, married 18 years old and after one year he back so pissed off "why new wife not pregnant" he was thinking to try another 17 years and check if he can have kids!!! at age of 72 he wants kids!!!

it's so disgusting walle this culture of marrying young poor women when i do not think they can even do the job.

Hyper,

All I want is to live life that is simple, calm, happy, with sacaada and sakiina. As long as Allah is happy with me today, i have something to eat, where to sleep and caafimaad, that is all i care. Allah knows tomorrow and we will see tomorrow if we reach tomorrow.

I wanted to do a little saving, maybe build a house in Kenya then move. This do not seem to be having the patient or the intention of moving back with me. I told her if you are not married by the time i save the money, we will marry each other. Ofcourse every girl has plan A, B and C. So lets say if her plans work in my favor till next year

[Hyperactive]

lol samu. i like your thinking as long you are not wasting some one's time.

i was looking for quite and simple life since i was 15.

i need 24 hours water running and waste system and i am happy man keep cleaning and teaching quran.lol

i just cannot bring myself with hamaam with a hall to do my bussness. flush is important man.

[Sumubaridi]

lol samu. i like your thinking as long you are not wasting some one's time.

i was looking for quite and simple life since i was 15.

i need 24 hours water running and waste system and i am happy man keep cleaning and teaching quran.lol

i just cannot bring myself with hamaam with a hall to do my bussness. flush is important man.

Hyper,

I have a solution for you. You need to face your fear. Visit the Ghettos more and where people stay in dirty Hamaams. Wallahi you will easen up and get used to it. OCD is all about facing your fear. Do you have Slums in Doha? Visit more and even touch the children and even bath them. Touch as many dirty things as you can. Meelaha qashin qubka ah inta tagto nadiifi xitaa. War madhiman doontid. When I was in high school in Kenya, we used 2 bathrooms among 500 students with no flush water. Even in Kenya now, you just have to dumb water into the toilet to have the xaar sink. Waa iska caadi dee.

[Hyperactive]

sumu, I always clean the dirty, cleaning is fine, cannot just sit and watch wasaq. if no water running how you can clean well??

I used to clean in jigjiga, I even cleaned street front of house. people thought I was crazy. I had too much time so I bought broom and plastic bags.

any ways, I need to think project to get water delivered in the house. in Doha long time ago, the rural area, there is water tranks comes , every morning, to put water into a huge tanks on top of the houses/buildings. so water always available .

[smooth]

Samburadi

You have no one but yourself to blame for your singlehood, you see if you told me, you earnestly tried and tried to the best of your abilities using all means at your disposal with dua's but still failed to get married, now that's a story that's touching that one can be sympathetic towards, but I didn't see any of it, in fact it read like the typical western women in her 30's with several cats to keep her company because of her stuck up horrible decisions in life.

You make marriage look like it's some grand achievement, at your age you can easily pick up a 20 year old back home for next to nothing, but you just don't have the will, desire or cajones it seems, be a man sxb, forget the westerners here, go back home and get married to a women in the village.

[Sumubaridi]

Samburadi

You have no one but yourself to blame for your singlehood, you see if you told me, you earnestly tried and tried to the best of your abilities using all means at your disposal with dua's but still failed to get married, now that's a story that's touching that one can be sympathetic towards, but I didn't see any of it, in fact it read like the typical western women in her 30's with several cats to keep her company because of her stuck up horrible decisions in life.

You make marriage look like it's some grand achievement, at your age you can easily pick up a 20 year old back home for next to nothing, but you just don't have the will, desire or cajones it seems, be a man sxb, forget the westerners here, go back home and get married to a women in the village.

Fiiri, No one just travel one morning to go get married. Marriage is a process that starts with meeting someone one day, talking to them, liking them and developing mutual understanding between the 2 of you. You then work for few years to save the money for Walima and Aroos and aqal. That is when marriage comes to reality. Why would I go home and get married to someone that I don't even know or talked to. So I go home, meet some old poor man and ask him to betrothal me to his daughter? seem like Business deal to me. Why would I need to take advantage of someone's situation and marry them even I might not be that girl's dooq or choice. The whole notion of arrangement and hook up seem like a big mockery to marriage. Honestly speaking, I don't even care much about tomorrow. All I know is that, today am happy, single and alxamdulillaah have not done a major sin whole day. We will see tomorrow when we reach tomorrow. Maybe a wife will show up, maybe I will die or maybe some business opportunity will knock at my door. But that is tomorrow. Stop messing up my today's happiness for a tomorrow that we are not there yet

[AirBitaale]

Yes, I am 40 years old and I have no wife and children That is exactly how allah planned and its not my job to change. If allah wants me to be single and childless for another 40 years faciyaadu billaah, then I will be happy and thankful to allah. How do I even know I can be a good father or those children will be good or will be khair for me. Allah in uu shartooda iga yahoyo ayaa laga yaabaah oo ay diinta iga bixin lahaayeen ama ayba idili lahaayeen

What matters is, I sujuud for allah, I am healthy and allah has given me what to eat. A lot of people are worried about the future and who will take care of them, Well, I have my allah that will take care of me. Alxamdulillaah. Maybe I will be healthy and strong till I die and I won't even need anyone's help. Alxamdulillaah ya allah calaakuli xaal.

I am happy and healthy now alxamdulillaah and that is all I care. I have about $1500 in my account and another $800 coming back from my taxes. Super Rich maasha allah.

Am I the only one who saw that?

[BeyondQabil]

lol samu. i like your thinking as long you are not wasting some one's time.

i was looking for quite and simple life since i was 15.

i need 24 hours water running and waste system and i am happy man keep cleaning and teaching quran.lol

i just cannot bring myself with hamaam with a hall to do my bussness. flush is important man.

Hyper,

I have a solution for you. You need to face your fear. Visit the Ghettos more and where people stay in dirty Hamaams. Wallahi you will easen up and get used to it. OCD is all about facing your fear. Do you have Slums in Doha? Visit more and even touch the children and even bath them. Touch as many dirty things as you can. Meelaha qashin qubka ah inta tagto nadiifi xitaa. War madhiman doontid. When I was in high school in Kenya, we used 2 bathrooms among 500 students with no flush water. Even in Kenya now, you just have to dumb water into the toilet to have the xaar sink. Waa iska caadi dee.

Which school is this that you went to?

[Sumubaridi]

lol samu. i like your thinking as long you are not wasting some one's time.

i was looking for quite and simple life since i was 15.

i need 24 hours water running and waste system and i am happy man keep cleaning and teaching quran.lol

i just cannot bring myself with hamaam with a hall to do my bussness. flush is important man.

Hyper,

I have a solution for you. You need to face your fear. Visit the Ghettos more and where people stay in dirty Hamaams. Wallahi you will easen up and get used to it. OCD is all about facing your fear. Do you have Slums in Doha? Visit more and even touch the children and even bath them. Touch as many dirty things as you can. Meelaha qashin qubka ah inta tagto nadiifi xitaa. War madhiman doontid. When I was in high school in Kenya, we used 2 bathrooms among 500 students with no flush water. Even in Kenya now, you just have to dumb water into the toilet to have the xaar sink. Waa iska caadi dee.

Which school is this that you went to?

90% of Schools in Rural Kenya use latrines. Kenyans do not use water for the choo anyway so it does not matter whether there is water or not. There is Got that you dumb and you can hear xaar sound when it hits the floor.