Would you abandon your child if you discovered they're not yours?

[PureQ]

I'm more interested in the Islamic point of view.

The question is simple, and to keep it simple, I'm ignoring the relationship with the wife-- You've raised what you believe are your children for 4 years only to discover they're not actually your own offspring. What do you do?

Before you answer, I urge you to consider the children themselves. You've raised them as your own, and they love you. Likewise, you love them. They trust you as their father and are completely innocent. There's no doubt that if you leave, they'll be destroyed, and being 4, they may possible never fully recover.

Do you abandon them, do you still raise them as your own, or do you take a middle-of-the-road approach and distance yourself, but not completely?

I'm having a difficult time answering this question to myself, so I'd like to see where the WR stands.

[DatBreh]

[TheLoFather]

I'm more interested in the Islamic point of view.

The question is simple, and to keep it simple, I'm ignoring the relationship with the wife-- You've raised what you believe are your children for 4 years only to discover they're not actually your own offspring. What do you do?

Before you answer, I urge you to consider the children themselves. You've raised them as your own, and they love you. Likewise, you love them. They trust you as their father and are completely innocent. There's no doubt that if you leave, they'll be destroyed, and being 4, they may possible never fully recover.

Do you abandon them, do you still raise them as your own, or do you take a middle-of-the-road approach and distance yourself, but not completely?

I'm having a difficult time answering this question to myself, so I'd like to see where the WR stands.

I would leave and abandon inkaar qabtada beenta sheegtey and not the children

[PanSomaliNationalist]

I'd put him/her up for adoption

[Adali]

Yh and the childs mother too.

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

I wouldnt abandone them i would just let their father raise them and marry their mother.

[Basra-]

Run......

[FarhanYare]

The emotional attachment and bond will not be there as soon as i found out, so, to answer the question; i would throw her out and her children. That's some eff'ed up situation to be in

[AbdiWahab252]

Depends on the age and how successful the child becomes. Imagine if he is the next Steve Jobs

[BVSNet]

If the kids are born while you are married to the mother then from an Islamic perspective they are your kids.

Humans are held to a higher standard than animals.

[Revolutionary]

Marriage would be effectively over immediately.

Kids later in the age won't remember anything when they were 4 so I'll lie to them like I'm going to work overseas and will come back next year or something like that but it would permanently affect me tho.

[TheLoFather]

May I just add that since the mother of the children had committed zina (sexual intercaurse outside of marriage aka adultery), she is condemned and condemned to stoning under Islamic Law and whether the execution is carried out or not she is as good as dead and has no right to raising the children as far is the deen of Islam is concerned. Therefore, the cheated husband should accept and remain a Father to them and raise them as his though they're not the fruits of his loins.
Basically what I am trying to say is a muslim man in such a predicament should do all he can to deny the adulteress to raise muslim children even if it means rasing and being a Father to children that are not biologically his .

[AyeeyoH]

May I just add that since the mother of the children had committed zina (sexual intercaurse outside of marriage aka adultery), she is condemned and condemned to stoning under Islamic Law and whether the execution is carried out or not she is as good as dead and has no right to raising the children as far is the deen of Islam is concerned. Therefore, the cheated husband should accept and remain a Father to them and raise them as his though they're not the fruits of his loins.
Basically what I am trying to say is a muslim man in such a predicament should do all he can to deny the adulteress to raise muslim children even if it means rasing and being a Father to children that are not biologically his .

Badanka masiibada dhacda wa danbi oo ninku hore oo galay uun oo ilaahy ku cathaabeyo.What goes around comes around.

[wadnahadhiiga]

duh a kid is a kid doesn't matter if its your kid or not

[paperino]

If you're someone like menace2society, who impregnated married & non-married women, then it would be poetic justice.