my parents told me a somali proverb that backs up the statementBlackVelvet wrote:
Sounded like it was true for you.

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my parents told me a somali proverb that backs up the statementBlackVelvet wrote:
Sounded like it was true for you.
abdisamad3 wrote:bv your very smart girl, you just created this thread to fish and see which guy is broke and which guy is marriageable so ma ahan..duqda siirtaada maanta waan ku fahmay.![]()
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btw you should teach qoraxey how to fish if you know what I mean.![]()
I take my hat off to your very smart trick.BlackVelvet wrote:abdisamad3 wrote:bv your very smart girl, you just created this thread to fish and see which guy is broke and which guy is marriageable so ma ahan..duqda siirtaada maanta waan ku fahmay.![]()
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btw you should teach qoraxey how to fish if you know what I mean.![]()
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Now that you've pointed it out I think I just separated the men from the boys
I agree it says something about their character that they would not be completely infused in their family but you do realize whatever she gives to the family bowl is "sadaqo" and not a responsibility on her part. It is voluntary for her. Whether she has income or not, your whole income belongs to the family whereas for her it is optional.zingii wrote:I have seen women who get into hegbad/ayuuto while their husband is struglin with the bills.
If they have an income that comes their way on a regular basis they should be able to contribute.
If they are not willing to spend their income towards the family they are trying to build with their patner
what/who are they saving it for?
Voltage wrote: lately I see a prevalence of "hell no I'm not cooking or cleaning" from women. You are out of the door in a jiffy then. There is plenty of fish in the sea that will meet me halfway.
Anyone else see the contradiction in that? You want in fact you think its spiritually better to go to the Bahamas were canoodling couples in their Bikinis and trunks are ten a penny because you want to avoid the oh so objectionable celebrations of a Muslim married couple in front of their Muslim parents, Muslim sisters & brothers, Muslim aunts & uncles, Muslim grandparents, Muslim cousins, Muslim nieces& nephews, Muslim guests the old & young , middleagedVoltage wrote:
As for wedding and all these things, I am actually not a fan of the lavish weddings. I have been to more than I can count and there is nothing that is unique or interesting about it not to mention being responsible for all the danbi that occurs in it. I actually think it is spiritually better for the couple if the guy has a nikaax luncheon and the women have their own thing and use the money to jet off to the Bahamas the next day.
Enlightened~Sista wrote:Anyone else see the contradiction in that? You want to go to the Bahamas were canoodling couples in their Bikinis and trunks are ten a penny because you want to avoid the oh so objectionable celebrations of a Muslim married couple in front of their Muslim parents, Muslim sisters & brothers, Muslim aunts & uncles, Muslim grandparents, Muslim cousins, Muslim nieces& nephews, Muslim guests old & young alike?Voltage wrote:
As for wedding and all these things, I am actually not a fan of the lavish weddings. I have been to more than I can count and there is nothing that is unique or interesting about it not to mention being responsible for all the danbi that occurs in it. I actually think it is spiritually better for the couple if the guy has a nikaax luncheon and the women have their own thing and use the money to jet off to the Bahamas the next day.
no i dont see the contradiction at all. no one forcing you to wear bikini or even look at them. as matter of fact, just a a month a half ago i was in miami with my family, went to the most beautiful beaches(in my eyes) and yacht cruses, and my mom and some of my sisters wearing niqaab and their 3abayas. people can enjoy the beauty of life without committing any sins.Enlightened~Sista wrote:Anyone else see the contradiction in that? You want to go to the Bahamas were canoodling couples in their Bikinis and trunks are ten a penny because you want to avoid the oh so objectionable celebrations of a Muslim married couple in front of their Muslim parents, Muslim sisters & brothers, Muslim aunts & uncles, Muslim grandparents, Muslim cousins, Muslim nieces& nephews, Muslim guests old & young alike?Voltage wrote:
As for wedding and all these things, I am actually not a fan of the lavish weddings. I have been to more than I can count and there is nothing that is unique or interesting about it not to mention being responsible for all the danbi that occurs in it. I actually think it is spiritually better for the couple if the guy has a nikaax luncheon and the women have their own thing and use the money to jet off to the Bahamas the next day.