Waa yaab - a phenomenon in the Somali community

[Alphanumeric]

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BV, I'm in agreement with you, but I don't want to rely on the formalized and cold method of a contract, though it seems to be the safest method. But romance goes right out the door.

[grandpakhalif]

^^ they can meet one another and we can all chill out together.

Why do people make marriage so complicated in the west?

It's simple, you pay the mehr, you have a small, modest walimah. And Walla! Your married.

Are you okay with your wife to go to work after marriage? Walk around the xafaad, shopping, movies etc without you?

Are you crazy? My wife is not working, that is my job to provide for the family she needs to take care of my beloved children and raise them. Ma waalantahay whose she going with movies? She can walk around xafaad for grocery shopping. If she wants social life i'm her social life (or my co-wives)

[BlackVelvet]

[BlackVelvet]

Alpha you don't really understand romance if you think honesty and straigh forwardness about important life decisions take away from it. And OMG it just hit me you are talking about romance

Why do people make marriage so complicated in the west?

It's simple, you pay the mehr, you have a small, modest walimah. And Walla! Your married.

Are you okay with your wife to go to work after marriage? Walk around the xafaad, shopping, movies etc without you?

Are you crazy? My wife is not working, that is my job to provide for the family she needs to take care of my beloved children and raise them. Ma waalantahay whose she going with movies? She can walk around xafaad for grocery shopping. If she wants social life i'm her social life (or my co-wives)

Exactly so why not just make sure the person you are marrying has the same views. You don't want a workaholic or a xalimo wareegtooy

[Alphanumeric]

So, please explain what "romance" entails then, if a signed, sealed and notarized contract is needed to ensure the reliability of your partner's word. I'd like to take some notes, just in case.

[BlackVelvet]

You are mixing up the 2. They are not mutually exclusive, neither does having one negate the other. Romance is all about honesty and trust. So in this scenario you are honest about what you want in the contract and you trust that the other person will stick to it. Voila! Romance is in the air

[Alphanumeric]

Honesty and trust are also necessary for a restraining order lol.

[BlackVelvet]

Let's just leave it at

BV, I'm in agreement with you

[KingMJ]

If ur hubby wanted another wife (whom Allah made xalaal for him), there is very little u can do abt it.I rather we trusted each other enough to support what other needs to do.

Beans walaalo did you just say you will support your husband in finding another wife. That is the most romantic thing I have ever heard in my entire life, if that isn't love I dunno what love is. True love

[Nanees]

If ur hubby wanted another wife (whom Allah made xalaal for him), there is very little u can do abt it.I rather we trusted each other enough to support what other needs to do.

Beans walaalo did you just say you will support your husband in finding another wife. That is the most romantic thing I have ever heard in my entire life, if that isn't love I dunno what love is. True love

[Alphanumeric]

Let's just leave it at

BV, I'm in agreement with you

How did I not see this.

[Beans]

If ur hubby wanted another wife (whom Allah made xalaal for him), there is very little u can do abt it.I rather we trusted each other enough to support what other needs to do.

Beans walaalo did you just say you will support your husband in finding another wife. That is the most romantic thing I have ever heard in my entire life, if that isn't love I dunno what love is. True love

True love it is eh.

[KingMJ]

If ur hubby wanted another wife (whom Allah made xalaal for him), there is very little u can do abt it.I rather we trusted each other enough to support what other needs to do.

Beans walaalo did you just say you will support your husband in finding another wife. That is the most romantic thing I have ever heard in my entire life, if that isn't love I dunno what love is. True love

I re-read it a bunch of times it can mean nothing else. I particularly enjoy when she says there is very little she can do, therefore leading to her wonderful decision to support her husband in this. Preach sister beans

[Beans]

Allah hana cafiyo

[KingMJ]

Beans you should be on the front page of this: