Marrying from another qabiil.

[theyuusuf143]

I prefer non isaaqs especially Darod.

[gegiroor]

A Somali Muslim and a white Muslima with Middle Eastern culture is what I would go for.

[kulmiye21]

A Somali Muslim and a white Muslima with Middle Eastern culture is what I would go for.

what about Somali culture

[gegiroor]

A Somali Muslim and a white Muslima with Middle Eastern culture is what I would go for.

what about Somali culture

I said Somali Muslim, so that includes Somali culture.

[VeiledGarbasar]

Aayo we call mothers sister. Step mother we call Eedo. But yeah habar wadaag I understand too, and yeah I mean that. I always used to hear it isn't good, apparently the kids always don't turn out good. Etc etc.

Your mum's sister is habaryar (junior mother).

Your aayo is your stepmother or the wife of your uncle who in our Somali tradition is technically your stepmother.

The kids of your habaryar are habrawadaag since both mothers shared mother/womb.

Eedo is your parental auntie or father's sister. Her kids are your inabti or ilmambti.

Af Soomaliga saxda wa sidas.

Wa hada ka yeelo.

Habar - we actually hate that word. It has negative connotations.

Aayo is my maternal aunt.

Aayo we call mothers sister. Step mother we call Eedo. But yeah habar wadaag I understand too, and yeah I mean that. I always used to hear it isn't good, apparently the kids always don't turn out good. Etc etc.

I have never really seen aayo used, only as I grew up I learned what it means. My step mom I call eedo.

If you knew moi, then you'd hear me say Aayo

Btw, it is nice seeing you mA.

Yaaa! Haasha! Abgaal agoonyar aa katahay right?

I'm gonna have to look for mid warsangal-abgaal?

No. I am Owbakar.
Don't look for a man from beesha.
Look for the one aad sheekada isla fahantaan ee
reerkana raali ka yihiin


Edit: Ma la socotaa only Abgaal & Murasade say Aayo when referring to habaryar

Okay MashaAllah. Ilahaay haa ku barakeeyo your marriage abaayo. Amiin.

Maxaa ka ogahay, I knew others say habaryar...and I try to accommodate them to the best of my ability. But my own aunt I call Aayo. So they think I'm speaking to my step-mother LOL.

[Vivacious]

VeiledGarbasar, amiin abaayo.
Reer aabahey markaan soo dhex galay lee bartay aayo.

[Sumubaridi]

2 married twice and non of them were my Qabil. I came to know my wives qabil when I was introduced to her mom at our wedding preparations. They raised the question and I answered.

[Hyperactive]

I never heard world "aayo" I know habo and I call my stepmom and uncle's wives "khaalah" but when I am with Somalis I say my eedo.

any women not my biological paternal aunt, I call them khaalah/khalati um....

[Togdeer]

Back in the day it was shameful to marry within the qabil.
For example a Isaaq would would not marry a Isaaq women.

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

37 members have voted most of us don't care abt qabiil but would about the region

[Rambie]

I do not think it is really an issue for men but if Allah wills that I have daughters, I will advise them not to marry from a Qabil that neighbour us due to the volatile nature of Somali clan relations. I cannot imagine them having children for another Qabil that might be at war with their own kin. Can never get my head round how Somalis of old would on one hand be killing each other whilst on the other hand giving their daughters away as part of a peace settlement. It is as if they did not attach much value to women and viewed them as commodities that could be exchanged in return for camels or to settle clan feuds.

That being said, I would ideally like to marry from my own clan because it is more practical when it comes to paying Qadhan and results in less complication during times of conflict or when interacting with the extended family. However, Allah has his own plans and if I end up marrying one of the Rwandan clans, so be it.

Your post remind of that story about Dhulbahante man who divorced his Isaaq women when SLAND toke over Laascanod in 2007!

[zumaale]

I do not think it is really an issue for men but if Allah wills that I have daughters, I will advise them not to marry from a Qabil that neighbour us due to the volatile nature of Somali clan relations. I cannot imagine them having children for another Qabil that might be at war with their own kin. Can never get my head round how Somalis of old would on one hand be killing each other whilst on the other hand giving their daughters away as part of a peace settlement. It is as if they did not attach much value to women and viewed them as commodities that could be exchanged in return for camels or to settle clan feuds.

That being said, I would ideally like to marry from my own clan because it is more practical when it comes to paying Qadhan and results in less complication during times of conflict or when interacting with the extended family. However, Allah has his own plans and if I end up marrying one of the Rwandan clans, so be it.

Your post remind of that story about Dhulbahante man who divorced his Isaaq women when SLAND toke over Laascanod in 2007!

The paranoia is real bro.

p.s That nigga went too far.

[AGENT447]

Lol walaahi dadkii si fiican ayaad u waraysatay. And by the look of it we are all consumed by qabyaalad and qabiil preference.

Insamaale was baffled but this is just a reflection of this website as well as reality on the ground.


Cigal, ragedii, always brilliant threads our resident social anthropologist

[MarsinQorahay]

I dont care which qabiil or region she's from.

[InaSamaale]

Thanks Lam, laakiin waa maxaa qorqod?

Qorqod; nin jikada gala (the Mecca of women)...Imagine if he goes to Somalia and given his qorqodnimo he heads for the jiko; that is the end of your marriage because the women will be singing "qorqod qooraansi dheer, dheryaha qooraaminaayo, qoloduu yahay qurun buu u keenay, ee qaadirow qolo ha noogu dhigin"

Qorqod= man who goes to the kitchen to look for leftovers in the pot

Lool I wouldn't be surprised. Behind every patriarchial tradition, are a group of women peddling it.

Qorqod sounds so demeaning. I'm not sure whether to be offended on his behalf or thank you yet again for another Somali language lesson.