Somali women and Ajanabi men

[misterioso]

Somali women are golddiggers. Cadaan woman dont give a fuck about that. They accept you no matter what.

Are you saying cadaan women are less gold-diggers than Somalis?

What makes you think they are unhappy?

Excommunication from family & community, their children having identity issues, incompatibilities that developed over the years, and a host of other issues.

[SummerRain]

You haven't addressed the root causes of the issue though. Why is there a gender gap in education and profession? Is it because Somali men don't value education as much as Somali women? Do Somali men lack motivation or desire? Or do Somali men face more obstacles that prevent them from obtaining a diploma/degree or job? Perhaps women pursue diplomas/degrees that lead to gendered occupations which may be in higher demand (nursing, teaching, etc) while their male counterparts study fields that may not necessarily lead to a job right away (economics, chemistry, mathematics, etc)? If we don't collectively take a step back and look at the bigger picture, quick fixes such as marrying ajnabis won't help the current situation. I don't mean to knock personal preferences; however, I think if you're going to marrying someone who isn't Somali, then that decision shouldn't be based on the plight of Somali men but be a conscious personal choice. Without raising awareness, prescribing solutions, and learning through trial and error, we'll never reach a solution, which means the gender gap will only become worse.

p.s. @ all the "who cares, orod guurso xyz". Stop projecting your insecurities.

Your questions have already been addressing in the following topic.


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[SummerRain]

Somali women are golddiggers. Cadaan woman dont give a fuck about that. They accept you no matter what.

Are you saying cadaan women are less gold-diggers than Somalis?

What makes you think they are unhappy?

Excommunication from family & community, their children having identity issues, incompatibilities that developed over the years, and a host of other issues.

I think any rational parents who care for the welfare of their daughter wouldn't might if she wants to marry a compatible man considering he is Muslim. As for the community...who cares, they don't raise the kids or pay the mortgage for people. As for the identity crisis, you don't think SOmali kids already have such struggles despite having both parents Somali? I think provided the parents instil good islamic values...or whatever other values they had on the kids, identity should be a no issue.

[Osob101]

Even though most Somali men today are bunch of useless, lifeless and demented beings, at least I would still be able to control him and after a few kids just divorce him and walk away with my Somali Kids. With an Ajnabi you end up with confused non Somali children who might not take care of you when u grow old

[GeoSeven]

Even though most Somali men today are bunch of useless, lifeless and demented beings, at least I would still be able to control him and after a few kids just divorce him and walk away with my Somali Kids. With an Ajnabi you end up with confused non Somali children who might not take care of you when u grow old

Holy smokes...Osob, I always thought you were a guy

[misterioso]

As for the community...who cares, they don't raise the kids or pay the mortgage for people.

Let me quote Hillary Clinton: "It takes a village to raise a child."

As for the identity crisis, you don't think SOmali kids already have such struggles despite having both parents Somali? I think provided the parents instil good islamic values...or whatever other values they had on the kids, identity should be a no issue.

The case of identity crisis is even more dire with mixed-race children.

[Osob101]

Even though most Somali men today are bunch of useless, lifeless and demented beings, at least I would still be able to control him and after a few kids just divorce him and walk away with my Somali Kids. With an Ajnabi you end up with confused non Somali children who might not take care of you when u grow old

Holy smokes...Osob, I always thought you were a guy

It's Osob not Cosble, maybe you need to update your reading glasses

[GeoSeven]

Even though most Somali men today are bunch of useless, lifeless and demented beings, at least I would still be able to control him and after a few kids just divorce him and walk away with my Somali Kids. With an Ajnabi you end up with confused non Somali children who might not take care of you when u grow old

Holy smokes...Osob, I always thought you were a guy

It's Osob not Cosble, maybe you need to update your reading glasses

My bad abaayo. I always skimmed it as Osoble

[DANGIRL]

They can marry aliens, chinese and zimbabwians.
Not my damn business.

Somali women are golddiggers. Cadaan woman dont give a fuck about that. They accept you no matter what.

I would say most women in general are gold diggers, but xalimos are gold diggers when it comes to Farrah's and very lenient with other men.

[DANGIRL]

I think any rational parents who care for the welfare of their daughter wouldn't might if she wants to marry a compatible man considering he is Muslim. As for the community...who cares, they don't raise the kids or pay the mortgage for people. As for the identity crisis, you don't think SOmali kids already have such struggles despite having both parents Somali? I think provided the parents instil good islamic values...or whatever other values they had on the kids, identity should be a no issue.

Excuses, excuses, excuses... Nayaa if you want your back blown by ajanabi go ahead.

[Sophisticate]

I'm a Somali female with a couple degrees under my belt, three citizenship and a family full of educated relatives. I'd be damned... if I had an ajnabi on my arm. I'm not about to give those people a +1 and my people a -1. I don't want anjabis to get my citizenship(s) and financial contribution. I love my Somali boys and have met many fine, intellectual and well-adjusted ones. I am not fond of fixating on the disproportionate numbers of educated Somali boys to girls. I have met enough educated people and well to do ones to realize if you aren't a good person (male or female) and contribute nothing of substance to your people (Somalis) then you are more of a liability than a benefit. You must realize that Somali boys have the same intellectual capacity as the girls. Motivation, along with child rearing practices is where the divide occurs. Too much attention is fixated on the girls and the boys are given an abundance of freedom = inequality. The Somalis I met that were doing well male or female seemed to have supportive parents that did a wonderful job at policing them. Yes there is great benefit from being a benevolent dictator to your children. Also, who are you to say that Somali boys aren't on their level that seems like an elitist statement and western frame of reference you are coming from.

I do have another issue though, same goes for the gentleman. I find it disgraceful when they marry out and are financially and academically in check. I had one relative that had everything and married one and she was a fob, he gave her a double citizenship. We could have hooked him up with an intellectual beauty queen of a Somali girl, such is life. I honestly think its poetic justice, all these years of his hooyo saying Somali girls were bad and saying he'd go for indoyar actually came true. Be careful what you say to your children.

[FAH1223]

I'm a Somali female with a couple degrees under my belt, three citizenship and a family full of educated relatives. I'd be damned... if I had an ajnabi on my arm. I'm not about to give those people a +1 and my people a -1. I don't want anjabis to get my citizenship(s) and financial contribution. I love my Somali boys and have met many fine, intellectual and well-adjusted ones. I am not fond of fixating on the disproportionate numbers of educated Somali boys to girls. I have met enough educated people and well to do ones to realize if you aren't a good person (male or female) and contribute nothing of substance to your people (Somalis) then you are more of a liability than a benefit. You must realize that Somali boys have the same intellectual capacity as the girls. Motivation, along with child rearing practices is where the divide occurs. Too much attention is fixated on the girls and the boys are given an abundance of freedom = inequality. The Somalis I met that were doing well male or female seemed to have supportive parents that did a wonderful job at policing them. Yes there is great benefit from being a benevolent dictator to your children. Also, who are you to say that Somali boys aren't on their level that seems like an elitist statement and western frame of reference you are coming from.

I do have another issue though, same goes for the gentleman. I find it disgraceful when they marry out and are financially and academically in check. I had one relative that had everything and married one and she was a fob, he gave her a double citizenship. We could have hooked him up with an intellectual beauty queen of a Somali girl, such is life. I honestly think its poetic justice, all these years of his hooyo saying Somali girls were bad and saying he'd go for indoyar actually came true. Be careful what you say to your children.

You probably have your father around in your life.

Most of the Somali girls that hate Somali males don't have aabo around and their brothers don't do anything to help their hooyo around the house. Plus, if they live in a Somali dominated metro area, they are victims to the uneven gender discrimination and double standards.

[Marques]

I'm a Somali female with a couple degrees under my belt, three citizenship and a family full of educated relatives. I'd be damned... if I had an ajnabi on my arm. I'm not about to give those people a +1 and my people a -1. I don't want anjabis to get my citizenship(s) and financial contribution. I love my Somali boys and have met many fine, intellectual and well-adjusted ones. I am not fond of fixating on the disproportionate numbers of educated Somali boys to girls. I have met enough educated people and well to do ones to realize if you aren't a good person (male or female) and contribute nothing of substance to your people (Somalis) then you are more of a liability than a benefit. You must realize that Somali boys have the same intellectual capacity as the girls. Motivation, along with child rearing practices is where the divide occurs. Too much attention is fixated on the girls and the boys are given an abundance of freedom = inequality. The Somalis I met that were doing well male or female seemed to have supportive parents that did a wonderful job at policing them. Yes there is great benefit from being a benevolent dictator to your children. Also, who are you to say that Somali boys aren't on their level that seems like an elitist statement and western frame of reference you are coming from.

I do have another issue though, same goes for the gentleman. I find it disgraceful when they marry out and are financially and academically in check. I had one relative that had everything and married one and she was a fob, he gave her a double citizenship. We could have hooked him up with an intellectual beauty queen of a Somali girl, such is life. I honestly think its poetic justice, all these years of his hooyo saying Somali girls were bad and saying he'd go for indoyar actually came true. Be careful what you say to your children.

[metamorphosis]

Women in general and irrespective of race and ethnicity tend to be more liberal whereas the men almost always remain conservative. Even mathoows would get upsett when they see non black men with black females which is something that I always found peculiar because they should be thanking God for every fat ghetto ill mannered female of theirs that gets taken by others. Somali girls are very liberal and they always have reasons to try to justify why they date ajnabees and almost always, those reasons start and end with "somali men" I think every female that dates ajnabes should be chipped and monitored from afar lest she tries to return when reality hits them. The Somali community doesnt except traitors.

[BlackVelvet]

You are an individual, people need to stop factoring in the whole of the Somali community when it comes to this topic.

If you met a man who loved you and was in it with you, who had your back and you could count on, who could be a good friend and husband and a good father to your children. A man who wanted to go on the journey of spiritual enrichment with you and was loyal - you'd be an idiot not to give him a chance because of the body his soul was put in. Now I pray to God that man is not OG or Abgaal even if it's a massive contradiction But my point still stands.