Why Can't a Successful Black Woman Find a Man?

[Serena]

it was actually a random guess. i was being sarcastic in the initially post you quoted and i continued from there.

[Murax]

it was actually a random guess. i was being sarcastic in the initially post you quoted and i continued from there.

So, are You gonna play the WIfe role with Your Husband, cook the food, take care of the kids, be a homemaker, or are You on the feminist trip too?

[abdisamad3]

again more bullshit and assumption..where do you know there is more educated girls then guys in the Somali community..ma liis beey kugu jiraan qof kasto oo soomali ah wuxuu sameeyo?..and how can you compare an AA problem wich involves about 70 procent of their women being single to the Somalis..even if the Somali guy travels to Somalia he is still marrying into his people unlike the African american's..now can you see how retard your comparision between the two is..no offense but sometimes you need to use the brain walaal before you let the fingers type..

As a matter of a fact we can get list together, if everyone snet to collects data of how many Somalis in their area go to higher education, and whether they are male or female, we could have data in no time, you willing to participate? And don’t chicken out on me the last minute. You can even go around to unis and higher education institutions and ask them you are doing research about Somalis and under the freedom of information act you want to get hold of the list of Somalis that go your uni, (something like that) and their gender! Simple as, and mate no need to insult me because i wouldn’t agree with your statement, that’s a sign of weakness and only known among the uneducated folks. I hope you erase that habit which i have seen you do many times. This is not my way or the high way, this is discussion board if you can’t handle people’s comments, just leave them, otherwise mature up. Back to the point i was making, My last statement stand correct, Educated Somali men and many at that do go back to African to marry uneducated xalimo, because they feel less threaten by her, and that’s a fact! In my opinion.

even if they go back home they are still marrying into their own people..that means you cant compare this to the AA problems..marka bal intaas soo faham and we discuss more..

[abdisamad3]

Right! Is it because you can’t get to them? is ok waa naloosheegay the likes of you despise educated women because the very reason i was stating before. Wasalaam.

What do u mean by 'can't handle them' ?

she thinks no Somali man can handle her...

[Murax]

Abdisamad,

Waa ku salaamay Abti,

If only gabdhaha dhan ee ahayeen sida gabdhaha Habar Cisse

[abdisamad3]

Right! Is it because you can’t get to them> is because waa naloosheegay the likes of you despise educated women because the very reason i was stating before. Wasalaam.

surrender i was joking

surrender is on war mode..rebelling againste the Somali men..dont throw joke's at her or she might think your serious and confirm her stupid assumpations
that is (Farax=all khat chewing loosers) (xalimo's back home easy to get wifes who are ignorant) (western xalimo's=universal educated succesfull black women who have no man that can handle them becouse they are so educated they will figure what the western living farax is up to)....surrender is indeed a funny girl..

[abdisamad3]

Abdisamad,

Waa ku salaamay Abti,

If only gabdhaha dhan ee ahayeen sida gabdhaha Habar Cisse

wa calaykum ma salaam abtii...

[razzberry]

I and every other black female I know is either dating, married, or is attractive enough to be hit on enough to where is she wants a man she can have one.

I find it interesting that I constantly see this type of stuff about blacks in general but when I walk out of my front door I don’t see it on as large of scale as the media says it is.

[qoraxeey]

no man wants to marry me cuz im too successful

maxaa sameeya

you must be joking right.

[bareento]

no man wants to marry me cuz im too successful

maxaa sameeya

you must be joking right.

Qoraxey,
r sure its because u r too succesful?
or is it because of all those kacan slogans on your bag? men r afraid of LOUISE MICHELs u know

B.

[qoraxeey]

Qoraxey,
r sure its because u r too succesful?
or is it because of all those kacan slogans on your bag? men r afraid of LOUISE MICHELs u know

B.

loool

I guess it must be both cases

btw who is louise michel that u are compearing me with

[abdisamad3]

I and every other black female I know is either dating, married, or is attractive enough to be hit on enough to where is she wants a man she can have one.

I find it interesting that I constantly see this type of stuff about blacks in general but when I walk out of my front door I don’t see it on as large of scale as the media says it is.

razz..the media is constanly potraining a mad image of the black/immigrant community..if you notice its the same with africa when ever africa is mentioned in media its always something negative..like all africans are starving or they dying of an aids epidemic..to hell with the western white media.

[Gh0st]

a sccessful woman is a woman who raised o children and stays her home.

no one marries a jareer woman because they stink and have attitude

[HELWAA]

You guys are 20+ years old, where the fuck is your LOGIC? This shit doesn't take relationship experience or a psych class to figure out.

I don't know how to put this exactly but here is the reality; a successful woman is a busy woman, and what man wants a woman who has no time for a family? Who will take care of his kids and household duties? That's the reality, women. I don't blame women, go and chase your dreams, but don't expect a successful man to want anything to do with you. Successful men aren't looking for a 2nd income through you as you might hope, they want a wife. Don't wanna fulfill that role, don't complain that he doesn't want you.

Its just f-king nature, you don't need a magazine to tell you that. A male naturally feels inclined to be a caretaker type, and with a woman that isn't buying into his natural role, he won't feel any desire to want that shit. This whole model goes against a man's nature, you are pushing him to evolve into a more feminine and less dominant creature and for guys its offensive.

To be honest, I've always held the belief that if my wife earns more than me then I am more than willing to sacrifice my career/job and stay at home to take care of our children and the household chores. I don't conform to this shitty Somali tradition in anything. I'm not a sheep who will do things just because our culture says so. I understand I will receive a lot of flak in the Somali community for going against the grain and doing something they disapprove of, but I don't give a shit.

If we both made more or less the same, then I would encourage her to stay at home until our child is at least school age. If she earns far more than me, then I would do it. If it made more financial sense that she worked and I didn't, then I'm willing to sacrifice that for my family. A man should do what's best for his family, and not follow the customs set by our culture. If you have to go against the grain of society, then do so. Don't do what's expected of our society. Do what's expected of your family. I'm exceptionally good with children, and I'm a very good cook, so I won't struggle at all if it came to that. But we'll see what happens.

[gedo_gurl]

Depends what you mean by successful...there are loads of successful nurses and teachers who get married....mise one only becomes successful through money? If its money, then yeah thats a huge problem...its a about masculinity....men like to feel needed, Ive seen it even amongst my friends..they like to be responsible and in charge. If that gets taken away from them, even the most liberal of men will begin to resent his wife slightly.

Women who earn a lot and are educated will have a lot of trouble on their hands...as someone here said, a successful man rarely needs or wants a successful woman. If he is working all day, and she is working all day...when will they see each other? Who will look after who? Someone has to stay at home with the kids...someone who has 'made it' doesnt need the second income, they'd prefer someone who looked after their other assets. Sad as it might sound but there is an economy to marriage...who the hell still believes in love?

The Somali race will die out just like the black race in the States is systematically being washed away. Successful Somali women will continue to marry other races and their male counter parts will do the same. Unless more Somali men get into higher education and stop emulating AA by not achieving academic success and going straight for the money...that gap between them and the sisters will remain. Ill tell you why, going into university changes the way you think...you might not realise it but you do get institutionalised to think differently. I've noticed it even on these forums, the brothers who go to Uni are usually the ones who are the least sexist, the ones who think in a balanced way. The others (I only mean those who had the chance and opted out) failed miserably with and hated, women. The couple who have both been to university might not agree with one another, but they can see where the other is coming from...I.E THEY CAN ACTUALLY COMMUNICATE!!

The woman who said something about finding a brother with "potential" is an idiot...how did she expect that one to work out...of course he was going to find a dummy who liked **** more than ambition.

African American women have it the toughest and Somalis are not far behind. There will come a time when neither exist.

I need to stop rambling, that didnt make a lick of sense....and Someone ban ghost...he is a troll and an attention seeker.