children: to spank or not to spank

[Aiman]

[quote="Sir-Luggoyo"]Spanking is the most efective tool of disciplining children, Somalidu waxay ku maahmaahdaa "Carruuri kor naxay leedahaye kal naxa ma leh"

No matter how much you scold, threaten, give them time out, deny them shows they like, confiscate their favorite toys and gadgets, they won't badge, they know eventually they will get all those things back. But if you kick them in the ribs (and maybe break one or two in the process) they will be straight like an arrow[/quote]


I concur with Sir Luggoyo. I can't stand spoil little brats who don't listen to their parents and their elders. When I use to be a kid back then if I did something wrong my mother use to make a face and I automatically stop doing what I'm doing. Western style "you are grounded" is lame and ineffective way of discipline the child. I endorse Karbaash (belt) is the most effective way of discipline if the child doesn't obey their parents and elders.

[SummerRain]

^^^

loool, The goal of disciplining your kids is not for them to fear you but to respect you as their parents. Once kids respect you, they are more obeying of you and listening, thus becoming more open with you and talk to you about their problem or what not. That does not mean you become your kids' friend but their parents. However, karbaashing your kids will only create fear in them and they tend to become rebellious.


Fah1223,

Whats wrong with grounding?

[Naaima]

Salam alaikum

DON'T TELL ME THAT I BECAME WESTERN!. ...anway spanking is not the first action wlaahi but it is the last resort.... spanking is not the basis to discipline your kids, what about make to a point to talk to them even though they are young , kids are innocent ..there are a lot of ways to discipline a kid without resulting to spanking..patience coupled with understanding will do the trick, explaining things to them are better...teach them to obey maka ay yar yar yiheen

[Aiman]

[quote="Ismahan123"]^^^

loool, The goal of disciplining your kids is not for them to fear you but to respect you as their parents. Once kids respect you, they are more obeying of you and listening, thus becoming more open with you and talk to you about their problem or what not. That does not mean you become your kids' friend but their parents. However, karbaashing your kids will only create fear in them and they tend to become rebellious.


Fah1223,

Whats wrong with grounding?[/quote]

Still I respect my parents and all but if they would have spoiled me I could have become disrespectful little brat. Also when I needed something I could still talk to my parent and give me what I wanted or when I had a problem I use to go to them. Grounding is useless they could do it again and again all they will get is "grounding" and teaches them nothing. If you beat them will learn a lesson or two for not doing or repeating that same mistake again.

BTW I didn't accuse no one being a western.

[Koronto91]

It's all about balancing. I remember kids who used to get whopped like nobody's business and used to have a horrible attitude, no matter how much you whop a kid, if you don't back it up with some talk, the kid will only be scared and hate your guts...he will still be a bad @ss.

[SummerRain]

[quote="Aiman"][quote="Ismahan123"]^^^

loool, The goal of disciplining your kids is not for them to fear you but to respect you as their parents. Once kids respect you, they are more obeying of you and listening, thus becoming more open with you and talk to you about their problem or what not. That does not mean you become your kids' friend but their parents. However, karbaashing your kids will only create fear in them and they tend to become rebellious.


Fah1223,

Whats wrong with grounding?[/quote]

Still I respect my parents and all but if they would have spoiled me I could have become disrespectful little brat. Also when I needed something I could still talk to my parent and give me what I wanted or when I had a problem I use to go to them. Grounding is useless they could do it again and again all they will get is "grounding" and teaches them nothing. If you beat them will learn a lesson or two for not doing or repeating that same mistake again.

BTW I didn't accuse no one being a western.[/quote]

We have different approaches here. Again, the goal is not the create fear but respect and obediance. Thats something that needs to be tought at an early age without any spanking. like Koronto 91 said, you can beat your kids over and over again but it will only create fear and terrible attitudes/anger within the kid. Children are very innocent, if they are treated with respect and kindness and tought about respect at an early age there should not be any problems. Moreover, with rules and standards they will know what you expect from them.

[Naaima]

[quote="Koronto91"]It's all about balancing. I remember kids who used to get whopped like nobody's business and used to have a horrible attitude, no matter how much you whop a kid, if you don't back it up with some talk, the kid will only be scared and hate your guts...he will still be a bad @ss.[/quote]


Salam alaikum

mashallah well said

[*zabah]

won’t say I’ll never spank because in a fit of anger one day, I just might but would teach them how to be responsible for their behavior.