Arranged Marriages....

[garowegal]

For fu.cks sake, why cant everyone just marry their cousin...you could just tell ayeeyo on them is they mess up

[DisplacedDiraac]

I know one or two females who ran away from their respective families because of them being forced to marry someone they didn't want (so they say), but does it not say in the Qura'an that you can't force someone to get married against their will?

You do know there's a difference between arranged marriage and a forced marriage, the marriages you're chatting about isn't really an arranged marriage, since the girls have ran away from their families, due to being ''forced'' to marry some random dude, against their will.

An arranged marriage is basically your family/relatives introducing you to a known guy who they think is worthy of you, since they know his background and what he's all about. But at the same time, you have a choice to agree or disagree to get to know the brother or marry him.

No one has the right to force marriage on you, but you're family has the right to *arrange* suitable brothers.

[surrender]

forced marriage isnt allowed in our religion, but arranged is allowed so long as the girl can choose if she's going to marry the man her family found for her. but no forcing her thats just baberic/uncivilized and uncultured attittude!!!

[Murax]

^ thats the islamic way--u can know eachother in marriage

arranged marriages for girls

boys can choose

[ms.nalia]

If my family was to introduce to me a man and I actually had a connection with him. I dont think I can ever marry him b/c it would be like giving in 2 my parents......it would be like "well nalia, since you couldnt do a better job, heres what we found" ....and Im to bull-headed to think otherwise.

[xidigow]

Arranged marriages are the way to go. The I chose my own for the first 5 wives, but the last one was arranged by our families. An guess what, She is 10000000000000000% better then those I thought I fell in love. So, at the end arrange marriages may not be bad att all.

[ms.nalia]

Arranged marriages are the way to go. The I chose my own for the first 5 wives, but the last one was arranged by our families. An guess what, She is 10000000000000000% better then those I thought I fell in love. So, at the end arrange marriages may not be bad att all.

If you went through 5 women...dont you think the problem is you not them???

[Starscream]

Arranged marriage started out as a noble project to help ugly people find a slightly betterlooking partner, yet produce even uglier kids. Just like alcohol, which helped ugly people get laid for centuries, arranged marriage can be used excessively to the point that families can be destroyed.

[xidigow]

If you went through 5 women...dont you think the problem is you not them???[/quote]

Ms Nl,

I admit the 5, but they were all XALAAL...what about you?

[Madd_Scientist_]

"You do know there's a difference between arranged marriage and a forced marriage, "- Shawty


Yes.

[Boqor__Daarod]

nothing is wrong with arranged marriage some people do it and others dont. you cannot force anyone into marriage. if both parties are happy to get to know each other and then marry then

i personally would not mind, what is the difference between finding a good wife by your own or your family helping you find a good wife.

[Cawar]

"You do know there's a difference between arranged marriage and a forced marriage, "- Shawty


Yes.

Are you settling for an arranged marriage??

I think it has some benefits provided the intention is good(which is most of the time) and the 2 ppl get some time to get to know each other..even if its for 1 or 2 months.

[ms.nalia]

If you went through 5 women...dont you think the problem is you not them???

Ms Nl,

I admit the 5, but they were all XALAAL...what about you?[/quote]


Me? I cant relate bro ...Ive never been married.....

[Madd_Scientist_]

Cawar-

Walaal, nowadays it's hard to find a decent hardworking somali guy (graduate), and trust me i've been looking everywhere , so if my parents/friends decide to hook me up i wouldnt mind. As long as i get the final say....

And u?

[Gedo_Boy]

There's no set or defined rule....

It can or can't work.