What do you do if you suspect a close relative of trying to.

[Advo]

Take her out "away" from the house like to the local comedy jam, funny movies, play etc.....try to make her forget about what she's going through, find out what she enjoys doing etc.. and become her friend and advise her all the time, try not to over do it though, so she and her family dont get suspicious.

[Basra-]

Advo...funny u and Qansa gave the SAME advice. Fascinating, isn't it?

[Advo]

^STFU

[Basra-]

[QansaGabeyle]

It is a great advice Basra...........you can't understand it since you are for depopulation. lol

[Basra-]

[quote="QansaGabeyle"]It is a great advice Basra...........you can't understand it since you are for depopulation. lol[/quote]



Qansa@lol


Miaah?? Hayee.. Macaanto.

[Firefly]

Oxy:- First of all, you shouldn't have read her diary. A diary is a personal item.

It's normal for teenagers to feel depressed at some stage in their life. Being a teen is quite tough - she's just developing a self-identity, peer pressure, living up to expectations set by parents & trying to find self autonomy - so it's a period of confusion & anxiety. Try and talk to her, it's important to keep the lines of communication open. Let her know you're there for her - support her & encourage her. Try to do some fun activities with her but make sure that she is happy with it. So do things which she enjoys & let her choose the activities.

People who are depressed often feel that they don't have control over their lives, so by letting her make small decisions - you're giving her that control she is lacking. She needs a lot of love & support. Statistics show that boys are more likely to succeed in committing suicide, but girls think about suicide twice as much as boys. So I don't think she'll commit suicide, Insha-Allah.

The diary is a way for her to relief her frustrations & pour out her feelings - it might be that she doesn't have someone she feels comfortable talking to - or it could be that she's too afraid to share those feelings. Don't go in there all guns blazing - just listen to her, she wants someone to listen to her, and to understand her situation. Be a friend to her & not a domineering adult. Hopefully, it work out all fine Insha-Allah.

[Awe]

It is a great advice Basra...........you can't understand it since you are for depopulation. lol

Walaahi sxb this girl is focking mental, I swear I'd love meet her.

[Awe]

These people have become so westernized, kulaha "you shouldn't read her diary", what if the girl is a lunatic? Wouldn't you want to save her? It just helps the reader help the author.

[Basra-]

[quote="Awe"][quote="QansaGabeyle"]It is a great advice Basra...........you can't understand it since you are for depopulation. lol[/quote]


Walaahi sxb this girl is focking mental, I swear I'd love meet her.[/quote]


Awe Dont call me mental waryaa, u dont even know me!! Idiot waxiid!




PS: nothing wrong with reading diary?? U must love gossip huh? Men gossiping, allaa there is nothing worst than that.




Firefly-- I concur-- even tho its a little like an essay memoir u gave.

[QansaGabeyle]

Basra.......you are selfish............you need to contribute to world human depopulation...........

[Firefly]

These people have become so westernized, kulaha "you shouldn't read her diary", what if the girl is a lunatic? Wouldn't you want to save her? It just helps the reader help the author.

You don't have to read someone's diary in order to find out if she/he is depressed. There are other warning signs - such as, isolation from family & friends, experiencing changes in eating/sleeping habits, losing desire in her/his favorite activities, not communicating, trouble concentrating in school etc...by reading her personal diary you're just adding fuel to the fire...if you play close attention to their behavioral changes you can clearly see for yourself..

[Lil_Cutie..]

I dont understand why people keep diaries? What the heck?..
Anyways good thing you did read it, morally it is completly wrong and violating her privacy but you must be smart about it. Dont do it again.

Basically its simple walal, it happens alot, she is clearly living what seems to be a double life. Too often when the kids step out of the house they lead a different life to the house (i am not insinuating she is smoking crack or anything, SubhanAllah God forbide) or when they step into thier bedrooms. Its one face for the family another which is perhaps thier more true face. This is often because they are pushed into a role when they are in the house,and can not get out of it and has no flexibility. Somali families are often very on the surface they do not touch deep down with what thier kids are up to or feeling. So its your role to fill that. Go ahead talk to her about stuff that occupy 13yr old kids minds, yes Boys, Socialising/partying weddings, shopping, looking good, make up, glamour or whatever, it may be something completly different but try your luck. Allow her to express herself in other ways.
The diary thingy is a way to express herself, I remember as a kid I was more into art so I would do loads of paintings,drawings and craft. Much better than words.
Dont let her know you read it.

[Awe]

These people have become so westernized, kulaha "you shouldn't read her diary", what if the girl is a lunatic? Wouldn't you want to save her? It just helps the reader help the author.

You don't have to read someone's diary in order to find out if she/he is depressed. There are other warning signs - such as, isolation from family & friends, experiencing changes in eating/sleeping habits, losing desire in her/his favorite activities, not communicating, trouble concentrating in school etc...by reading her personal diary you're just adding fuel to the fire...if you play close attention to their behavioral changes you can clearly see for yourself..

But that wouldn't the case here, right? The thread starter already told us she seems happy, and she doesn't show signs of loneliness, depression etc. You have to find alternatives, and her reading her diary isn't such a bad idea.

[Awe]

Basra,

I use to go by the nick of zackabdul and I've read enough of your posts to conclude that your a psychopath.