i don't get why gaalo folks bother getting married

[surria]

Urayso,

There is no rarity about the reality here, and these are not fabricated stories. I'm talking about women with children who are divorced, sometimes they even get married again and have more kids, then once again they are divorced. They are walking around my neighborhood everyday with children from different fathers.

[Ureysoo]

Mike....

Perceptibly, marriage is important since it secures married couples 2 certain degree. As I declared previously, if they wandered off and each party went his/her separate way, financial arrangements can be granted and agreed on. However, in the B/F-G/F affiliations no party is in bond and accord whatsoever, 2 support the children or his/her significant other. Plus, the thought of the married couples ending up in partition/divorce, and the unmarried lovers rearing their kids in a steady environment is a hypothetical example and wishful thinking on ur behalf and contributes less 2 this dispute my friend. The thing which counts is --- can u trace back ur significant other, and get some asset out of him/her after separation (If yes, u are protected financially). In divorces, yes u can, but in lovers partition u'll only accumulate stress, Lol....


Surria....

The cases u mentioned are indeed infrequent weighted against the one Zulikha outlined. And "Yes" the single-mom trend is at present, but it's actually used more 2 deceive the system. Apparently, there are real single-moms, but they count up 2 45% or even less. In contrary, almost all the Non-Muslims are engaged in B/F-G/F affairs that seldom happens as expected.......

[kenyan4life]

in africa divorce is higher amongst muslims

the reason is because in african culture divorce is not permitted at all.

in islam divorce is allowed and is acceptable, its even become a trend amongst some somalis. in nigeria divorce is highest amongst the muslim hausa.

personally i like the african way and not the islamic way even tho' im a muslim

[QansaGabeyle]

The ones I work with are like that too and the women were the worst. I think they marry for the financial benefits and maybe just to have someone while they continue to sleep with the whole country.

[Megatron]

Ureysoo

Actually, laws regarding common law are just as stringent as those for married couples, and just as punitive when concerning child support. So, the actual status of the couple is irrelevant to the courts.

I do disagree also, with your assertion that it is just wishful thinking. If in fact you do the research, you'll find that the hypothetical I used isn't that farfetched. In fact, you'll find it's quite common.

And yes! you can DEF get $$ out of someone, if you can demonstrate that you were in a committed relationship, wedded or no, and sacrficed and contributed financially to the relationship. And if a child is produced, than NOTHING can stand in the way of financial redress in the form of child support.

[Enlightened~Sista]

walahi they are bound to have affairs. kuwan ila shaqeyo almost all of them got someone else on the side its sickening..uff. so depressing to hear their damn infertility stories all the time.

forget gaalo...you have to wonder in this day and age..why some somalis who have had countless girlfriends/boyfriends..bother to get married..because they too wont be satisfied with sticking to one person for the rest of their lives..thus leading to affairs

[gurey25]

For a gaal i dont really see why they should get married.
the state and the law looks like its set up to discourage marriage.

incase of divorce the wife is more likely to end up with more than half of the assets ,
and the kids..

[Ureysoo]

Alright, I think u are considering common-law couples.
To be forthright, the rights and obligations married couples enjoy are quite parallel (not the same) 2 the privileges and compulsions common-law couples have. However, it diverges in the amount of the privileges and remedies they enjoy, plus there are severe terms and conditions which should be fulfilled and met by common-law couples 2 attain such advantages married couples benefits from (like being in MARRIAGE-LIKE relationship which lasted 4 more than 2 years, etc).

Not 2 mention, it's so easy 2 hitch ur wagon, and abandon ur significant other in common-law relationships through separation, nonetheless, married couples requires more than partition 2 end up their affiliation - "Divorce 2 be precise", and at that stage, the court involvement is a necessity. Additionally, I bet u know that only married couples are privileged 2 divide the family's property, and there are set of laws and restrictions which holds back the eligibility of unmarried/common-law couples 2 gain spousal support. Perhaps, nothing will be gained (apart from child-support) since there's no regular prerequisite 2 pay spousal support in common-law relationships, yet it has more 2 do with the connection they share.

Therefore, married couples = secured rights, but unmarried/common-law couples rights are up 4 disputes and challenges (under strict conditions) --- Sxb, I think u are in a long-term relationship with someone (without marriage). If am right, then obviously am not in a position 2 get all religious on u, but STOP DEPRIVING THE GIRL OF HER RIGHTS 4 GOD'S SAKE. Thanks 4 reading it, although I doubt u'll pay heed 2 it, Lol......

[HELWAA]

wager...gaaladi soomaalidi baa ka dartey huuno..atleast gaalado dad diin leh maaha.

[zulaika]

helwaa,

good to see u back as helwaa..drop that granny sh!t dee...you're too damn reserved when u that ayeeyo geezer.

[Basra-]

Gaalo's WORST fear is to be alone. They abhor lonelyness. Somalis are nomads, so solitude is something they are bred in.Somali women kick their husband out when they reach Menopause - one for fear to be rejected by the youthful obsessing somali man and two-- somali women tend to to think sex after 40 is abnornal. Somali women seriously believe sex exist solely for reproductions purposes. A gaal will commit suicide if they cannot find someone, they often do.They marry for financial reasons as well- u will see-- a gaal with a two inch with a wife and kids. The wife gaal is happy to use her toy when he is done, is happy to maintain the 'marriage' facade, she just doesn't want to be alone. So of course affairs are inevitable. Billaa diin waaye --helloooo they are called Gaalo-- kafiirs?

[HELWAA]

looool na zuli i replied by mistake because Granny dont have acces to the MSS so i forgot to log out...by the way my personalty is the same dee...it doesnt matter which nick i use

[makumba59]

[quote="HELWAA"]looool na zuli i replied by mistake because Granny dont have acces to the MSS so i forgot to log out...by the way my personalty is the same dee...it doesnt matter which nick i use [/quote]

[zulaika]

looool na zuli i replied by mistake because Granny dont have acces to the MSS so i forgot to log out...by the way my personalty is the same dee...it doesnt matter which nick i use

by mistake? oo is that why you said basically nothing?? coz you thought u was still granny and keepin' the conservative code?

yes you're the same but you're more reserved as granny.

[Ureysoo]

Gaalo's WORST fear is to be alone. They abhor lonelyness. Somalis are nomads, so solitude is something they are bred in.Somali women kick their husband out when they reach Menopause - one for fear to be rejected by the youthful obsessing somali man and two-- somali women tend to to think sex after 40 is abnornal. Somali women seriously believe sex exist solely for reproductions purposes. A gaal will commit suicide if they cannot find someone, they often do.They marry for financial reasons as well- u will see-- a gaal with a two inch with a wife and kids. The wife gaal is happy to use her toy when he is done, is happy to maintain the 'marriage' facade, she just doesn't want to be alone. So of course affairs are inevitable. Billaa diin waaye --helloooo they are called Gaalo-- kafiirs?

Hi, Basra. Can I marry u Abaayo....

Merely, something I call Cyber-Marriage, and apparently no sexual thoughts involved.....

--- I forgot 2 add - "Don't u dare call me Afdhere". Thanks in advance ......