The laws of Nikaax:

[Enlightened~Sista]

oh rite...well im sorry cant be of much help!

[The-Screw]

where is that old snet nanny when you need her? we should get Basra to write a play.

[Young Wadani *]

Just be upfront with her and show you are dead serious

[The-Screw]

Young Wadani, you are obviously inexperienced. yaa kugu dhahey girls like to be serious? if you do that you come off as an emo who is desperate. you have to take it easy oo waad inaa jacaylk ku abuurtid qofta and that takes time.

[Young Wadani *]

Screw I'm better with undress their panties then address their emotional needs

[The-Screw]

loool


than you are a man's man...man.


8)

[Young Wadani *]

Screw,

There's a problem sxb, I think I'm in love

[The-Screw]

aw. sh!t.

[ms.nalia]

I think when you meet someone, (islamically) your intentions are for marriage. Hence, once you start dealing with that person (with a chaperone of course) you begin to unravel what they want for their future. If this is someone you would like to be your spouse, then you would speak to her father or immidiate male realtive for her hand in marriage. In most cultures the fathers meet with the future husband present in the discussion.
Then an imaam is called upon to do the religious ceremony, the nikkax.

[Shirib]

In most cultures the fathers meet with the future husband present in the discussion.

In Somali culture the groom is usually not present when the girls hand in marriage is being asked for. Its usually a male constituency of father, uncles granfather, brothers etc. who go ask for the girl.

The guy who is gonna marry the girl usually does not go.

[ms.nalia]

contingency?

you mean constituency .....right?

but yea.....I wouldnt know about Somali marriage rituals...I just know dirac and wedding that costs the amount of a nice sports car.

[Shirib]

loool, yea I meant constituency, thanks for putting me on blast

[Cawar]

Screw

I have an easier way for you..make your brother/uncle etc..a wakiil. he will sit infront of the qaali , so you dont have to go through all that shit.

Anyways, I heard that you make a deal with the girl and her family(well your mom should with her mom) and they will het the judge..and everything is done.
Thats as much as I know.

BTW, there is that old saying I used to hear when I was a kid..once you read it ..she will become your wife..it goes like this:

Nab nakatun nikaaxatun nak
Haday ku yeesho, yeel
Haday ku diido, diid

etc etc.

[Kolombo]

i'm curious about the whole nikaax thing, how it works, how its supposed to work, when and why and all of that. the difference between old school nikaax and new school nikaax, the do's and don'ts, when to nikaax and when not to nikaax, etc...

According to the Sunnah, the nikaax ceremony should be simple. The bride must have a Wali (guardian) present and the groom himself or a Wakil (representative) should be at the ceremony as well. Also, the imaam or a religious figure must be present to recite a brief Khutbah (usually about the rights & responsibilities of both spouses), then the imaam/religious figure performs the nikaax contract.

The Wali of the bride says to the groom: "I marry my daughter so and so to you" and the groom should say "I accept." This should be witnessed by two Muslims (Males), and the bride should give her consent, in order for the contract to be valid. Some scholars say without the bride's consent, the contract is invalid. It is also well-established that without the consent of a Wali (guardian), the nikaax contract is invalid according to this Sahih hadith:

"There is no marriage without a wali." Narrated by Abu Dawood (2085), al-Tirmidhi (1101) and Ibn Maajah (1881) from the hadeeth of Abu Moosa al-Ash'ari; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.

Also,

"Any woman who gets married without the permission of her wali, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid." Narrated by Ahmad (24417), Abu Dawood (2083) and al-Tirmidhi (1102); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami, no. 2709.

Khutbah al-Nikaah is the same as Khutbah al-Haajah, which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) taught his Companions, and it should be said at the beginning of the 'aqd (contract). This is sunnah, not waajib (obligatory).

The bride must request madax furasho and the groom must pay it up front or at any other time as agreed, as long as it is paid before a divorce takes place, if a divorce takes place, the husband is obligated to pay it all in full.

[Enlightened~Sista]

Shirib..actually thats not always the case..the guy comes along with parents markaa lasoo doonayyo gabadha