Its safe to say

[ms.naliaa]

That m o s t men are intimidated/thrown off by women who are successful and got their shit together.

At first, they're cool with it...even congradulate you...and after a few weeks they realize you have a packed work schedual, you have friends and family that are always ringing/visiting you. And for retarted reasons they think that their presense wouldnt make a difference and start making little comments like "oh ms.independent"
And normally, it woudlnt bother you....but the attitude is what annoys u (and by you i mean me)

Rubbish.

lool @ congradulate you
Nalia Iam so special so special iam so special

I'm so special, I'm so special so special so special.....Tell 'em mi nuh fear two face expression guy fi do.....Dutty mouth caan trace nor dettol mi hear dem chat...Im so speciall...lol

[admin]

Many ppl avoid girls/guys with too much involvement in family and friends business simply because time is $ and all other commitments are direct in competition with the person. I'd rather have time with a lady who sees her family on holidays rather than the one who cooks for them and worries about her grandma's diet... life is short

when it comes to susses in career - it doesn't bother me a bit unless she travels a lot - another inconvenience...

[ms.naliaa]

People we are all one the same page.

He chose you for who you are and your success is part and parcel of that. Like Peace said, it's the looking down on him or belittling him that I'm talking about. Please remember offense is not how you mean something to look/sound but how the other person takes your words/actions. When problems arise look at it from his point of view as well, are you putting him 2nd, 3rd, 4th on your list? If so of course he would be upset, especially if he's serious about you.

Talking down to someone have never been an issue, Im not like that. But the priority thing, I do have bit of an issue with that cause theres always shit going in my life and if someone cant be supportive then I cant be with him...Im not being selfish, I know to compramise...but at the same time, I could use a hand and if hes not reaching out..then Im better off alone...right?

[shaamboo]

Many ppl avoid girls/guys with too much involvement in family and friends business simply because time is $ and all other commitments are direct with competition with the person. I'd rather have time with a lady who sees her family on holidays rather than the one who cooks for them and worries about her grandma's diet... life is short

when it comes to susses in career - it doesn't bother me a bit unless she travels a lot - another inconvenience...

YOu must not be a Somali then ?? is it ok for your mom not to worry about her mothers and sisters??

[black velvet]

Talking down to someone have never been an issue, Im not like that. But the priority thing, I do have bit of an issue with that cause theres always shit going in my life and if someone cant be supportive then I cant be with him...Im not being selfish, I know to compramise...but at the same time, I could use a hand and if hes not reaching out..then Im better off alone...right?

Yes he should be supportive and reach out to you lakin relationships are a two way thing. You wouldn't feel it's fair if you had to be the one to do all the reaching out and all the compromising, would you? Same applies to him. If he is a selfish cow then yes you are better off alone but if he just feels left out then don't give up, you can make it work

[ms.naliaa]

Many ppl avoid girls/guys with too much involvement in family and friends business simply because time is $ and all other commitments are direct in competition with the person. I'd rather have time with a lady who sees her family on holidays rather than the one who cooks for them and worries about her grandma's diet... life is short
when it comes to susses in career - it doesn't bother me a bit unless she travels a lot - another inconvenience...

Thats awful Admin......how can you expect ur girl not to care about her friends and family?
You know how a person treats their family is going to reflect how they treat you in the future.

[ms.naliaa]

Talking down to someone have never been an issue, Im not like that. But the priority thing, I do have bit of an issue with that cause theres always shit going in my life and if someone cant be supportive then I cant be with him...Im not being selfish, I know to compramise...but at the same time, I could use a hand and if hes not reaching out..then Im better off alone...right?

Yes he should be supportive and reach out to you lakin relationships are a two way thing. You wouldn't feel it's fair if you had to be the one to do all the reaching out and all the compromising, would you? Same applies to him. If he is a selfish cow then yes you are better off alone but if he just feels left out then don't give up, you can make it work

I think you misuderstood me BV.
Im not gonna leave him alone at home and tend to my friends and family. Im not saying I will put him at the bottom of barrell....no Im just saying that I want him to accept my life and Ill accept his life...and we'll find a middle ground...but dont expect me to be all about him...
I mean...my family and friends were there b4 him and if he doesnt stick around...they will still be there...

[black velvet]

That mentality that he is dispensable is what will always cast a shadow of misunderstanding and might cause your relationship to fail.

[ms.naliaa]

That mentality that he is dispensable is what will always cast a shadow of misunderstanding and might cause your relationship to fail.

If I dont feel that way about him....why should he?
Contrary to beleif...Im actually pretty caring when it comes to my man...so there wont be doubt in his mind that he is despensable in my eyes

[1nemansquad]

That m o s t men are intimidated/thrown off by women who are successful and got their shit together.

..i can speak for myself, i get put off by females who aren't successful and i hate b!tches who aren't driven and who only wants a home and children and expects the same from a man

[black velvet]

That mentality that he is dispensable is what will always cast a shadow of misunderstanding and might cause your relationship to fail.

If I dont feel that way about him....why should he?
Contrary to beleif...Im actually pretty caring when it comes to my man...so there wont be doubt in his mind that he is despensable in my eyes

Perfect

In which case there is no reason why you can't work it out

[admin]

shamboo, it is a matter of choice. If you are presented with two ladies: one that cooks breakfast for her siblings before she goes to work/school and does all other home chorus 7 days a week and the other one who lives alone with more stable and understandable daily schedule, which one would you go for? I did not say something is wrong with the former but if you have the choice, which one would u pick?

sis nalia, lol ---- family comes 1st for every1 but would u date a guy who spends most of his time with his family over a fully independent guy? Maybe I didn't present my case gently but I am sure everyone would love to have as much time as possible with his/her significant other without many interruptions.