ladies is this acceptable to you

[HELWAA]

loool@ kambuli...you're right!..sheeko badan ba maqan meshan walle

As for the topic i guess One woman's trash is another woman's treasure....

Would i accept that: no. never been a big fan of HAMBO... funture bad tidhiye, xita isaga kama ag wareegen.

[Warsan_Star_Muslimah]

Helwaa.

What is hambo? A divorced man...I just heard people using the same word for both genders. Garoob?

Another thing, I assumed every person has their own taste, especially in things like this?

[HELWAA]

Salaam Warsan

Hambo means leftovers....waliga ma maqlin..naa ciyaalka hambadooda daadiy

[Warsan_Star_Muslimah]

Waalikum Salaam,

LOL, helwaa never. Walle my Somali is rubbish. I don't even know a Somali word for leftover? The closest word that I have on my mind is, "haraay"

[HELWAA]

@ haray...cuntada markaad ka dharagtid inta soo hadhay waa HAMBO.

Atleast you learned a new word.

[Paddington Bear]

A man that proposes every time he meets a new woman! Brilliant.

[zulaika]

kam,

yeah, there's alot beneath the surface, but he says it ended because of too much differences, i didn't pry too much and asked what those diff.were...but personally i think they didn't know each other too well. laakin i'm quite shocked his doing the same thing AGAIN with this other girl, rushing to marry her after short courtship

all an all.... i put the burden on these girls, naag walba waa in ay ka fiirsataa where she lets her hair down.

[zulaika]

there's this guy i know who in less then a year of marriage got a divorce from his wife, and shortly after that met another girl and decided to marry her right away.....now here's the problem. he spent a lot of money in his previous marriage paying for the wedding and furniture for the house etc., when he split with his ex, he kept everything...i mean down to the last fork(mainly because his ex walked away without a big fight: i'm still tryna figure out why she did this..but i digress )...anyways, he told his new lady she will be furnishing her new home with the old stuff he bought the other girl....basically alaab uu inantii hore u iibiyey buu ku guursadey this other girl. i'm sure its fine if they are in agreement, but seriously?? talk about living with baggage from his previous life..literally.

my question, how many of you ladies would accept this sort of arrangement.

Salaam my darling.

Ofcourse it is not acceptable!

If I'm going for a divorcee, I want to forget that it ever happened. That would mean, I don't even want to live in the same house they lived in, forget about using furniture intend for another women. In fact I wouldn't want to live in the same city as his ex-wife, no; how about country?

I'm not too keen on divorcee's.

divorce happens a lot these days and it really shouldn't be a deal breaker for choosing someone if they've been married before, sometimes it's not meant to be. can't hold that against someone can u?

[zulaika]

No, I wouldnt be okay with that at all.

But can we just talk about why a woman would be willing to marry a man knowing shes a rebound?

nai,

so u got a waiting period or something...wouldn't give a man who just got out a relationship a chance huh?

heeeeeeeeeeel no I wouldnt give a man who just left a relationship a chance!
Thats a recipe for disaster.
Would you?

when i say chance i'm not talking about rushing into marriage or anything but simply giving chance to get to know that person. who knows what could come of it right?

[Amethyst]

I know its a recession, but DaYumn.

A divorced man lugugu si daro used furniture is like adding insult to injury.



lol...Seriously tho, Zulikha, you know what it all boils down to dontchu? The clear example of the difference in thinking between men and women. Different emotional frequency levels, I guess. A house and a home means something different to a Wife than it does a man. A couch's just a couch to him,while she cites models and types. Tan labaad yaa u sheego that its about the process of putting together the home rather than having it. When it should be her house, her pride and joy, it'll now be naag baas (oo weliba clearly ah mid doqon since she left it all behind, but thats beside the point lol) In a weird way it sorta reminds of the underestimation of men oo aan u dhigin a wedding for a woman, regardless of how humble she tries to be in saving up for their future or something. Just not right. Bakheylnimo should know a limit. And this clearly passes it by a long shot!

[zulaika]

I know its a recession, but DaYumn.

A divorced man lugugu si daro used furniture is like adding insult to injury.



lol...seriously tho, Zulikha, you know what it all boils down to dontchu? The clear example of the difference in thinking between men and women. Different emotional frequency level, I guess. A house and a home means something different to a Wife than it does a man. A couch just a couch to him,while she cites models and types. Tan labaad yaa u sheego that its about the process of putting together the home rather than having it. When it should be her house, her pride and joy, it'll now be naag baas (oo weliba clearly ah mid doqon since she left it all behind, but thats beside the point lol) In a weird way it sorta reminds of the underestimation of men oo aan u dhigin a wedding for a woman, regardless of how humble she tries to be in saving up for their future or something. Just not right. Bakheylnimo should know a limit. And this clearly passes it by a long shot!

indeed different thinking levels for men and women....but in this case, they score equally on the irrational meter.

[Foxy22]

there's this guy i know who in less then a year of marriage got a divorce from his wife, and shortly after that met another girl and decided to marry her right away.....now here's the problem. he spent a lot of money in his previous marriage paying for the wedding and furniture for the house etc., when he split with his ex, he kept everything...i mean down to the last fork(mainly because his ex walked away without a big fight: i'm still tryna figure out why she did this..but i digress )...anyways, he told his new lady she will be furnishing her new home with the old stuff he bought the other girl....basically alaab uu inantii hore u iibiyey buu ku guursadey this other girl. i'm sure its fine if they are in agreement, but seriously?? talk about living with baggage from his previous life..literally.

my question, how many of you ladies would accept this sort of arrangement.

Oh that is just nuts Why on earth did she accept that? Some women are just stupid

[Addoow]

OK,so what about selling the old stuff kadibna lacag yar ku dar and then buy new furniture.Funny how ladies become defensive at such trivial things,war alaab la soo amahday ayaa mar marka gaarkood lagu aqal galaa.i

[ms.naliaa]

heeeeeeeeeeel no I wouldnt give a man who just left a relationship a chance!
Thats a recipe for disaster.
Would you?

when i say chance i'm not talking about rushing into marriage or anything but simply giving chance to get to know that person. who knows what could come of it right?

No, I dont think I can date a man who was recently divorced...I would say atleast 8months since the divorce is final I would even consider giving my bbm pin out!
I just dont want deal with the emotional spill-over of the divorce.

[zulaika]

No, I dont think I can date a man who was recently divorced...I would say atleast 8months since the divorce is final I would even consider giving my bbm pin out!
I just dont want deal with the emotional spill-over of the divorce.

what's bbm pin?

what about for you? if you broke up with someone would you hook up again right away? u know what they say, the best way to get over a man is to get under one.... please don't take this literally