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abdisamad3 wrote:

abdalla11 wrote:sxb do like the odayaasha somaliyeed, just marry a second wife without telling the first. Everything is fair in love and war

..its not about this bro..I see allot of xalimo's are againste the men taking a 2 wife so I just want to know why they are againste something allah made xalaal.

i think no woman will agree that her husband takes a second wife, that's why you as a man shouldn't ask for permission. Be a man and take it into your own hands.

lol@ kambuli younger man kulaha lol

WestLdnShawty wrote:For the first 20 years he should be all mine.. after that period he could bounce and get hitched to 50 females for all i care

That sucks if your feelings for him die in 20 years or less

unless you don't think you can perform at 50 anymore

Abdisemed,

Yes I agree that I have to answer your question...But mine was hypothetical...and there is nothing wrong to answer it honestly...Kids or no kids, I am sure you wouldn't like your wife to be shared with another man even if he was not able to have babies... Just admit it..

About your question, I would never ever accept to have my husband shared with no way ..That option is given to us...It does not say in the quran:

A woman should accept to be a second wife...as a matter of fact during the Meher..the women has the option to make a condition..of not accepting her husband to have another wife...

The reason I said, "Younger Man" is because, always men marry a younger wife...

A) In this society it is very hard to support one family financially let lone mulitple

B) Average faraax that knows very little of his marital obligations entertains ideas of having 2+ wives (totally against this, only one that is fair & practising brother would I allow this priviledge)

C) I don't know many polygamous marriages personally. However, I hear alot of them no gooder faraax oo wah diin ah kabartay ineey xaqq afar u layahiin iyo haweenta ineey dhageesato ninkeeda oo durba midlasoo dhuumadhaan (hence negative connations are made)

D) We're jealous beings- really its that simple.

abdalla11 wrote:

abdisamad3 wrote:

abdalla11 wrote:sxb do like the odayaasha somaliyeed, just marry a second wife without telling the first. Everything is fair in love and war

..its not about this bro..I see allot of xalimo's are againste the men taking a 2 wife so I just want to know why they are againste something allah made xalaal.

i think no woman will agree that her husband takes a second wife, that's why you as a man shouldn't ask for permission. Be a man and take it into your own hands.

lol@ kambuli younger man kulaha lol

..seriously what about if she find out and ask for divorce..isnt it xaram to lie for your wife and marry another women with out she knowing it.
we must follow the deen bro and not our own selfish desire's..anyway this is not about me personly iam just asking the xalimo's why they appose something allah made xalaal..iam just gathering a data for my re-search of how the xalimo brain think..and what is their excouse of going againste something the deen allow us to do..

I wonder...what would happen if my husband wanted to marry another woman and i refused him out-right, could my refusal be a legitamate(Islamic that being..) reason to divorce me?


hmmm

Perfect_Order wrote:

WestLdnShawty wrote:For the first 20 years he should be all mine.. after that period he could bounce and get hitched to 50 females for all i care

That sucks if your feelings for him die in 20 years or less

unless you don't think you can perform at 50 anymore

Loool@ the bolded. Hopefully i'll get married before i turn 30.

I get bored of people after a year or two.. 20 years is definitely pushing it *But i guess i could do it for the kids*.

Anyway, i have a friend that would only want to become a second wife iyo in a long distance marriage

abdisamad3 wrote:

ms.naliaa wrote:

The straight fwd answer is
Im selfish, I dont like to share my bed space..let alone my hsuband. I dont want to have to be compared someone other woman...its enough that Im already being compared to his mama (if hes a mamas boy). I dont think he can afford to do it (even if he has amble money...I want that for my family)...all the other women can fend off for themselves, I did. I dont wanna confuse the hell out of my children....
down to it....that if Im giving all myself to him....he should be able to do the same.


p.s. why are the men talking so much in this thread...I thought it was a q. for the ladies?? .

okey I see..but sis why be so selfish..if allah made it xalaal you might even get khair..you know women who treat their husband good and behave as raaliya they will go to jannah...now think about all the benefeaths there is to it...instead of the negative's..

Since when does having my husband just for myself make me a bad wife?
I cater to his every whim and I want him all to my freak'n self and I want my children to have him around. If that makes me a bad wife..then let me be a bad wife.

kambuli wrote:Abdisemed,

Here is a question for you:

Would you take a wife which is married to another man, if she was Halaal? Would you allow your wife to take another husband if it was Halal? Honestly, how would you feel if your wife is shared with you by another guy..probably younger guy? If it was Halal and allowed in our Religion...

It’s nigh on impossible for a woman to marry two men. It will not last for more than a week. Come on, Kambuli, picture yourself married to two guys and one of them shouts at you or upsets you in some way. You’ll sit and sulk or you’ll go complain to your second husband. He will run to your first house and start beating up your first husband. You will begin screaming and asking people to separate your two fighting husbands....

Ms Naalia

^^I dont know why, but the song by Luther Ingram popped into my head...

WestLdnShawty wrote:

Perfect_Order wrote:

WestLdnShawty wrote:For the first 20 years he should be all mine.. after that period he could bounce and get hitched to 50 females for all i care

That sucks if your feelings for him die in 20 years or less

unless you don't think you can perform at 50 anymore

Loool@ the bolded. Hopefully i'll get married before i turn 30.

I get bored of people after a year or two.. 20 years is definitely pushing it *But i guess i could do it for the kids*.

Anyway, i have a friend that would only want to become a second wife iyo in a long distance marriage

thats just sad

When the Prophet S.C.W. (the Best of all mankind) first go married to his fisrt wife Khadija R.A. didnt take on second wife for 25yrs. the Prophet S.C.W. had only started to marry more than He S.C.W. had reached the age of 53 years. I think there is great lesson that we can learn from this fact.

AMAT-ALLAH wrote:Ms Naalia

^^I dont know why, but the song by Luther Ingram popped into my head...

loool.
Sometimes I get lyrical like that.

LoDoon wrote:When the Prophet S.C.W. (the Best of all mankind) first go married to his fisrt wife Khadija R.A. didnt take on second wife for 25yrs. the Prophet S.C.W. had only started to marry more than He S.C.W. had reached the age of 53 years. I think there is great lesson that we can learn from this fact.

I'm all for that