bad boy...gabar wanaagsan haloo doono

[zulaika]

Z
Are you mad about the double standards?

no, this isn't a case of what's good for the goose is good for the gander......i wouldn't want a good man to end up with a been around the way born again virgin xalimo. i am just amazed at how 'dhaqan celis' for crazy faraxs includes settling him down with a good girl. i know this one farax i went to high school with who is a true saqajaan with a murky past, his family arranged a nice miskeen girl from UK, it wasn't long before she discovered his dark past, and he went back to his old habits....he was like, so what, naa take it or leave, i ain't gonna change for no xalimo.

[FAH1223]

so sulekha, whats your solution

[LobsterUnit]

thugs need lovin 2.

[zulaika]

so sulekha, whats your solution

as helwaa eloquently put it......birds of feather should flock to together..

[FAH1223]

so sulekha, whats your solution

as helwaa eloquently put it......birds of feather should flock to together..

do you think it will efficiently create a social class order with Somalis here in teh West

[kambuli]

Zuleikha,

OO tolow gabdhii isla wareeg noqotana maxaa nin loogu guurin waayey si ay u degto:?:

But let me say this...Don't worry, there are decent men out there who were tricked into marrying a good for nothing lady... Trust me the problem is not only one way it is two traffic.. Maxaa mid niman badan lasoo seexatay guursatay miskiin aan aqoon iyada..

[zulaika]

so sulekha, whats your solution

as helwaa eloquently put it......birds of feather should flock to together..

do you think it will efficiently create a social class order with Somalis here in teh West

i am not sure i follow...

order of social class already exists where one is allocated to his or her behavior in the past. most societies aren't so quick to pardon say a love from her trappings without some sort of rehabilitation, in other words, she must try to change her ways. most of these ciyaalsuuq boys are not making the effort to change themselves... rather, they're parents or relatives are trying to wipe their dirty past with a "fresh start"(good girl)

u put clean clothes on qof uskag ah, they will only stain that clean...garment.

[zulaika]

Maxaa mid niman badan lasoo seexatay guursatay miskiin aan aqoon iyada..

naag niman badan la soo seexatey, bal maxaa u qarsoon that she can hide from the new guy...like he won't find out soon enough?

[FAH1223]

sulekha, what i meant was dont you think it will create an environment where you have the well to do somalis, then the crappy ones and no interaction like the black community

[AbdiWahab252]

Zulaika,

Ina adeerka ceebkiis astur

[zulaika]

sulekha, what i meant was dont you think it will create an environment where you have the well to do somalis, then the crappy ones and no interaction like the black community

if a bad person got their act together, they deserve a second chance, i don't have issues with that......but i don't support when crappy wants to stay crappy and expects mommy and daddy to clean up his mess..

so to answer your question...yes draw those lines that divide the bad and the good....

[zulaika]

Zulaika,

Ina adeerka ceebkiis astur

provided he wants to be part of the solution....otherwise you'll spend the rest of his life covering his dirty tracks... seriously who has time for that? a grown azz man who wants others to take care of his ish... uff dheh.

[surrender]

you know the sadest part of this is- it ACTUALLY happens. some drug addict, ex con hoodrat git will go back to Somalia and marry some innocent girl, who have no idea of his past. waxaa loosheegay uun inuu yahay ina hebel hebel oo reer fiican kadhashtay. she wont ask any questions about his past because ayaduba waxay kafakaraysaa, his from dibadaha, heeeeey im getting my passport soon. karma is a bitch though i have seen girls who after they marry this bad boy or ex hoodrats, they come to Europe oo yiraahda, war aabahaa wase waraaqdayda noo dhig. so now his single once again, will never trust another girl from Somalia lol and the ones in his country know his business so they wont go near him. he has to find other means to marry once again. if that means changing his life compeletly, or just marrying someone like him, or trying the whole reer badiye chick once again. or just continue his bad boy life!

but there are girls who do this aswell. how many girls we know daqan celis loo celiyey, end up marrying to decent God fearing cousin of theirs from back. poor cousin have no clue what she's been up to. waxaa lagu yiri uun inantan waxaa dhashay hebala oo waa gabara fiican, and here's her sitting on the edge of the sofa with big jilbaab on (which btw she hasnt wore one for entire lifetime ), acting all good. she gets pregnant, comes back to Europe inay soo dhoofiso ninkeeda.

so i guess it happens in both cases. parents to blame here. intay ciyaalkooda kala cararayaan xumaantay kujiraan bay another innocent person dusha kasaaraan. they think a person matures and becomes responsible if they marry them off to 'nice' person. that might be true. but if the person doesnt want to change is only so much you can do.

[kambuli]

Suliekha,

Marka kaftanka iyo middi middi ku taag laga yimaaddo:

Waxaa jira xukun Rabbaani ah, oo Ilaahay SWT uu isugu dheeli tiro guurka..Ninkii waalan naag fiican oo haysa ayaa Ilaahay ku beegaa, naagtii waalan nin fiican oo haya ayaa Ilaahay ku beegaa...

Waxani waa qorshe Ilaahay...

Immisaad aragtay, bisad la kool koolinayo, haddaa waaba qof qac ah

Immisaad aragtay nin duli ah oo haweyney marwo ah ay hebelow hayso

[Serena]

abdisamad has a point. many somali women willingly marry ex-convincts who have converted to islam so how is this any different? some women like "bad boys". i think they deserve what they get.