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BlackVelvet wrote:

Murax wrote:

sexy-kitten wrote:No one is telling you to hop in bed with the guy. You're good to go as long as you know your boundaries. A nice dinner at a restaurant, or hanging out with friends(to see how he interacts with the closest people in your life), skating, bowling, jog at the park, etc... There's bunch of stuff to do honey!

If you're ready for marriage then it's always good to attack from all angles. Diving head in after two weeks of talking on the phone won't do ya good. See what he likes and doesn't like. Speaking on the phone for hours and hours may be different from kicking it in person. If you're the religious type who doesn't want to be alone with a guy unless there's a 3rd wheel, you can always invite your best friend along. That way you can all get acquainted.

AKA hang out with the girl's cock blockers and see how He interacts with the cockblockers in Her life

Hit the nail on the head

BV u agreed with me

What a sweet guy wants to marry after two weeks

I think it just might work out for you guys

Murax wrote:
BV u agreed with me

The fact that you called the girl's friends "cock blockers" goes to show what this guy, you and most guys who want to get married after 2 weeks are after. So yes I agree with you, you should be avoided like the plague.

He just wants bussy

But then again that is alot of work to go through for it, he could be genuinely infatuated with you. I mean talking to you for hours you must be worth the convo

Murax & BV

Hadde sxb she doesn't want to go on a date with the guy, and when some Somali girls hear a "date", their head automatically ends up in the gutter somehow, waxeey moodayan in dharka layska siibayo in the middle of Olive Garden! You see how she's getting all defensive by saying "I don't go on dates, I'm old fashioned,etc..." Maybe having a "c-blocker" would be nice for HER!

Sexy Kitten,

At least You acknowledge that girl's 'friends' in essence turn out to be cockblockers a lot of the time who really just don't like the idea of their friend having someone



BV,

You got defensive because I mentioned the concept of cockblockers which is suspicious

lool when I said I dont like dating I didnt mean to sound I DONT go on dates Lol sorry abt the confusion
Its just the more I go on dates the more I like it and hence the more chances it will end up in fitnah. Yes I have been on dates with him and I liked it. The thing is he wants to like see me so often its getting to much....I made some rules but here and there but we broke it.

snoop12 wrote:btw 2 weeks is nothing, do you have those long convos on the phone were you are like watching tv whiles talking, making food whiles talking, on the bus whiles talking, sleeping whiles on the phone.

Yea something like that Its all to new I mean I have spoken to guys before but they were like shukansi time aka night coversations

PS Lord Diplock and Snoop12 so from ur sides was it the real one....love whatever u call it?

abayoo guys really and I mean really aren't as sensitive as you might think, just be honest and be real, don't be afraid to hurt his feelings his a guy and if he can't handle it and recover then hes not really a guy loool, and don't say it in a joking manner be really serious, otherwise your going to do things in a roundabout way or something, cuz the problem won't just go away.

@ SexyK What you on about, I am one of those girls, I don't like going on dates. I've been on a couple and shit is uncomfortable! There's just something off with it, you can go out just you and a guy friend and waa caadi, nothing there but when it's a 'date'...it's just so cliché and predictable so I don't see the point.

Murax there's no suspision I am saying it clearly. A guy who calls someones friends cock blockers is an up-to-no-good guy.

BlackVelvet wrote: @ SexyK What you on about, I am one of those girls, I don't like going on dates. I've been on a couple and shit is uncomfortable! There's just something off with it, you can go out just you and a guy friend and waa caadi, nothing there but when it's a 'date'...it's just so cliché and predictable so I don't see the point.

Murax there's no suspision I am saying it clearly. A guy who calls someones friends cock blockers is an up-to-no-good guy.

If I feel uncomfortable with a guy yet I still like him, I tell him ay bring your boys and I'll bring my girls and we can have a nice dinner then play pool, spades, or any other game. That'll take a huge load off your back cuz he has his boys who he can talk to when he gets bored and you have your girls, AND maybe you'll get to meet his friends and see what he's really about. Birds of a feather flock together.

Murax if you have cool and bubbly friends like I do, they'll fit in anywhere. There's never a dull moment between my friends and a hubby. They kno how to make a nigga come out of his shell.

Perfect_Order wrote:What a sweet guy wants to marry after two weeks

I think it just might work out for you guys

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^^Snoop why do you keep counting?

SexyK you are on a different league, have dinner and play pool...I don't even know how to hold the stick
I see where you're coming from though I am more of a coffee and a stroll kinda person when I really want to get to know someone.

lol @ SK advice, I think your views which you're entitled to hold are too liberal for my liking...hanging out with him, playing bowls, going for a jog?..Am sorry this is not your typical somali 'date' in my limited experience.

If you go on a date with a guy alone, there is a good chances he will touch you, which is completely unacceptable. It is better you two to meet in a public place (cafe) and after sometimes together (and alot of chatting and probably a lot of lies from him, ) you go your separate ways home then.

You know why Somali blokes start to indulge themselves about marriage issues after 2 weeks of chatting on the phone? well, what is the point of you guys 'dating' in the first place? sleep together illegally or ultimately to get married?. 2 weeks is too early in my opinion, but if you like each, you should be working on that venture...but we Somali guys are too inpatient to wait for months before we start to talk about marriage....the same reason why some Somali guys will start to tell you 'I love you' after 2 weeks of chatting, and you barely know the niggar...They mean no harm but are just gulliable and naive, I happen to be one .

Xalimo Faraax: just tell him to call you once or twice a week sis. Then your relationship will prosper, but be honest always.

military-mind wrote:

^^What he said!!