SERIOUS ADVICE NEEDED..........

[haniDD]

PERFECT-ORDER..............THANKS SO MUCH FOR YOUR ADVICE.

He has been away on business for the three months in another country, he always travals for finanically reasons. which is fine.
But its his behaviour that bothers me for example not calling us or not answering his phone when i call him. And the lies........for example he will say 'i am coming back on that date' and he doesnt.

At the beginging we had great marriage and he was honest and hardworking. especially when we had first baby. he there was all the time. but second baby and while i was pregnant he was just going out with his friends and wasnt coming home..... even though the last ten days of my prengancy he did stay at home until i gave brith. Then it was back to go out with friends and still not coming home.

He said he doesnt want to divorce me cos he loves me and the boys.
But i dont believe him cos if loved me he wont be so cold to me .....for example the last three days he hasnt called or answered my calls.

So i dont know what to do. I called my local mosgue and asked them but they say cos he does support me finanically, they cant just give me divorce.And they have to wait until he gets bk. cos they need forwarding address for him. And they need to talk to us both.


So iam so confused and frustrated................ I feel like i am just standing still and i have been hold in prison.

[haxxor]

PERFECT-ORDER..............THANKS SO MUCH FOR YOUR ADVICE.

He has been away on business for the three months in another country, he always travals for finanically reasons. which is fine.
But its his behaviour that bothers me for example not calling us or not answering his phone when i call him. And the lies........for example he will say 'i am coming back on that date' and he doesnt.

At the beginging we had great marriage and he was honest and hardworking. especially when we had first baby. he there was all the time. but second baby and while i was pregnant he was just going out with his friends and wasnt coming home..... even though the last ten days of my prengancy he did stay at home until i gave brith. Then it was back to go out with friends and still not coming home.

He said he doesnt want to divorce me cos he loves me and the boys.
But i dont believe him cos if loved me he wont be so cold to me .....for example the last three days he hasnt called or answered my calls.

So i dont know what to do. I called my local mosgue and asked them but they say cos he does support me finanically, they cant just give me divorce.And they have to wait until he gets bk. cos they need forwarding address for him. And they need to talk to us both.


So iam so confused and frustrated................ I feel like i am just standing still and i have been hold in prison.

Ask him why he doesn't call and/or why he doesn't come to home and have a fun time with you and your children instead of his friends?

[HELWAA]

I suggest talk to ur parents, the pple who care about you the most.In our culture, you turn to ur TOL aka family first when the guy doesnt treat you well.Tell them everything and listen to them...from there they will be ur lawyers.

Divorce should be the last option when you've children so think about what best for them.

Last but not least turn to Allah and ask for guidence..He knows best and evrerything is written.If ur marriage
is doomed to end it will.

[SultanOrder]

Why does it seem to me you've already decided on to divorce, but you don't know how to go about it.

[HELWAA]

Why does it seem to me you've already decided on to divorce, but you don't know how to go about it.

Maybe he is busy with someone els and she suspect that.You never know with todays men.

[SultanOrder]

Why does it seem to me you've already decided on to divorce, but you don't know how to go about it.

Maybe he is busy with someone els and she suspect that.You never know with todays men.

I was thinking same tging just didnt want to say it

[HELWAA]

^^Would't u call ur wife everyday to make sure she is alright if you were away for a trip?

[SultanOrder]

^^Would't u call ur wife everyday to make sure she is alright if you were away for a trip?

lets not put out ideas, that can make a situation we have no idea about worse.

[HELWAA]

^^Would't u call ur wife everyday to make sure she is alright if you were away for a trip?

lets not put out ideas, that can make a situation we have no idea about worse.

Exactly! we dont know the whole story...we dont know the guys version.For all we know he can be a hard working man who take care of his famliy and his wife is to spoild and dont realize what she have till it's to late.

HaniD

Go and take care of ur children naaya, instead of whining in a public forum.

[BlackVelvet]

HaniD

Go and take care of ur children naaya, instead of whining in a public forum.

Dude that is harsh

[SultanOrder]

Not what I meant exactly, but more of the seek mediation, and if it can't be resolved so be it.

[BlackVelvet]

Hani do you know for sure whether or not he's gone and married another woman? Is that what is making you want a divorce?

[HELWAA]

HaniD

Go and take care of ur children naaya, instead of whining in a public forum.

Dude that is harsh

Someone have to tell her the truth dee. ..ta labaad sheekadan anigu maba rumeysni.

[BlackVelvet]

True. Being in this place makes you cynical about people lakin there is the possibility that it might be true. You know nimanka Somaliyeed have done such things before. It's very easy in theory to say, wakaas he's married another woman, worse without even telling you so get a divorce ASAP lakin when you're advising someone else it's not so black and white soma'aha.

[SultanOrder]

Even if he married again, people shouldn't get a divorce.