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its hard to know if somaligirl fancies you or just she is a friend because she would talk to you anyway and has no restrictions. But if she stopping you before you seen her I think she does.

every "bad" guy was once a "good" guy until a female came around, we all know that and we all blame them bloody females. But listen mate, don't let it get to ya alright.

'cause men are complicated

Calaacal badana no wonder no girl liks you.

salool wrote:Calaacal badana no wonder no girl liks you.

How is it the girl's fault that she doesn't like you? You are changing yourself and your personality into something else so that she likes you? SMH. If I saw a girl do that I would smack her, so slap yourself.

BlackVelvet wrote:

salool wrote:Calaacal badana no wonder no girl liks you.

How is it the girl's fault that she doesn't like you? You are changing yourself and your personality into something else so that she likes you? SMH. If I saw a girl do that I would smack her, so slap yourself.

I think you're mistaken. He's not changing his personality in hopes of getting her. His new self is a result of it all.

He is turning himself into the guy she chose over him. What does that tell you?

BlackVelvet wrote:He is turning himself into the guy she chose over him. What does that tell you?

It tells me he no longer cares enough to be polite and friendly. Being nice hasn't been getting him where he wants. There's no reciprocation for kindness. There's no point. Kindness is sought but when it's presented it's ignored. So he'll drop some inhibitions and do as he pleases, with little regard for others. There is no want here. He isn't doing it to please anyone or catch an eye. He isn't turning himself into anyone, he simply stopped caring.

Alphanumeric wrote:Being nice hasn't been getting him where he wants.

Because

Alphanumeric wrote:There's no reciprocation for kindness.

Therefore

Alphanumeric wrote:he no longer cares enough to be polite and friendly.

Sadly

Alphanumeric wrote:There's no point.

He is letting some random chick define who he is by letting what she did change who he is. No one wants a doormat and if he was one he should toughen up lakin there is nothing wrong with being polite...the friendly well, if he was friendly can you blame her for calling him a friend lol.

BlackVelvet wrote:

Alphanumeric wrote:Being nice hasn't been getting him where he wants.

Because

Alphanumeric wrote:There's no reciprocation for kindness.

Therefore

Alphanumeric wrote:he no longer cares enough to be polite and friendly.

Sadly

Alphanumeric wrote:There's no point.

He is letting some random chick define who he is by letting what she did change who he is. No one wants a doormat and if he was one he should toughen up lakin there is nothing wrong with being polite...the friendly well, if he was friendly can you blame her for calling him a friend lol.

The only problem I see with what he shared is the fact that he was her friend. It was probably an average friendship or acquaintance.

Friendships are difficult enough as they are, no need to throw gender into the mix.

But in the general sense, I feel what he said is true.

Why do guys have to be one of 2 extremes you either have the sac sac who thinks he can guilt you into being in a relationship and there is the moron who thinks acting like an ape is attractive. Oh the cross that women are forced to bare.


What's wrong with the middle?

Being in the middle results in her catching feelings. Someone who can actually listen and converse without flirting/touching, who remembers ques and interests, blah blah.

That's a friend, and usually she ends up falling for him....

unless she's the horrible type as stated here.

This had nothing to do with being female and everything to do with being human. If you let them, people will take advantage of you. Do girls fall for the guy who hangs around and acts like a friend? Do they realise one random day that what they've been looking for was right infront of them?

In most cases no. He's a filler. An insurance, just in case nothing better come along. Harsh, but true.

So, it's nothing to do with being female, but everything to do with being a guy. Lol.

Yes, what you said is true. Those that actually acknowledge the "friend" are few and far between.