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Re: Finaly Divorced but Need Your advice
Posted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 3:41 pm
by Sealion
FAH1223 wrote:Sealion wrote:Marriage is a sacred covenant. It is a holy thing and I feel you and Somali men the likes of you cheapen it. You need to SIT DOWN and seriously REFLECT on your previous marriage and you need to pray to Allah for a year a least. Before you inflict yourself on another woman.
sadly, i gotta agree on this
this dude could have stayed with his wife if he really loved her and adopted some Somali kids that are vulnerable to gaalo influence
Co sign. Somali men like this put me off marrying within my community. wallahi. When ish gets tough Somali men seem quick to run to the masjid for a divorce. Divorce is a last resort, for all other Muslim men except Somali men. They start new families like franchises.
Re: Finaly Divorced but Need Your advice
Posted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 3:44 pm
by Alphanumeric
Sealion wrote:FAH1223 wrote:Sealion wrote:Marriage is a sacred covenant. It is a holy thing and I feel you and Somali men the likes of you cheapen it. You need to SIT DOWN and seriously REFLECT on your previous marriage and you need to pray to Allah for a year a least. Before you inflict yourself on another woman.
sadly, i gotta agree on this
this dude could have stayed with his wife if he really loved her and adopted some Somali kids that are vulnerable to gaalo influence
Co sign. Somali men like this put me off marrying within my community. wallahi. When ish gets tough Somali men seem quick to run to the masjid for a divorce. Divorce is a last resort, for all other Muslim men except Somali men. They start new families like franchises.
It's rampant for many Muslim communities, not only Somali.
Re: Finaly Divorced but Need Your advice
Posted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 3:55 pm
by Sealion
Alphanumeric wrote:
It's rampant for many Muslim communities, not only Somali.
I don't know how the salafis or whabi (sp?) do things but most moderate Muslims
I know marry and stay married. Most of my Muslim friends are Persian/Brown/Afghan.
Re: Finaly Divorced but Need Your advice
Posted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 3:56 pm
by Alphanumeric
What? Why bring in Salafi/Wahabi into this?
Divorce is rampant among most people.
Re: Finaly Divorced but Need Your advice
Posted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 4:01 pm
by Coeus
I think he did a noble thing. Maybe the woman wanted children and he couldnt deliver so he set her free?
sealion you are too judgemental
Re: Finaly Divorced but Need Your advice
Posted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 4:17 pm
by Hargaysa1982
You have to share the fact that you were once married and divorced...the details are up to you really. Like you said you still have hope, make lots of duaa and be patient.
Re: Finaly Divorced but Need Your advice
Posted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 4:20 pm
by Sealion
Alphanumeric wrote:What? Why bring in Salafi/Wahabi into this?
Divorce is rampant among most people.
I've heard from my mum and other sources. Such people tend to be in polygamous marriage and marry/divorce more quickly.
P.S The only person in my maternal family to ever divorce is my aunt who unfortunately ended up married to men who like to beat her. And only one uncle on my paternal side is divorce. This is including everyone, aunts, cousins, uncles.
Re: Finaly Divorced but Need Your advice
Posted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 4:21 pm
by Alphanumeric

As said, it's rampant amongst all people.
Re: Finaly Divorced but Need Your advice
Posted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 4:25 pm
by blitzkrieg
Have you thought about artificial insemination? It's costly, but if you have the means to do so, it's an option.
Re: Finaly Divorced but Need Your advice
Posted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 4:26 pm
by Sealion
Alphanumeric wrote:
As said, it's rampant amongst all people.
Some not all, in my family you'd get ostracized if you divorced for a inane reason.
Re: Finaly Divorced but Need Your advice
Posted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 4:27 pm
by Alphanumeric

I'm still laughing at "I've heard from my mum".

Re: Finaly Divorced but Need Your advice
Posted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 4:31 pm
by Sealion
Alphanumeric wrote:
I'm still laughing at "I've heard from my mum".

Don't be mean!

My mum is my best-friend I tell her everything and she tells me everything. Seriously there is nothing she doesn't know about me. She is my

!
Re: Finaly Divorced but Need Your advice
Posted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 4:55 pm
by Alphanumeric
Lol, I don't mean to insult your mom, at all. But her being a source, I find a little humorous.
Re: Finaly Divorced but Need Your advice
Posted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 4:57 pm
by greenday
You are not worthy of another, ee naga hakaa aman helaan
