Women can focus on one individual but men have dual hearts.

[gurey25]

But I thought the issue of commitment is much to do with a lack of interest ( he is not that into you).

not true ..
you can take up 90% of his attention, you could mean the world to him, and he could be head over heals in love with you.

but he is a man, if he is not strong willed, he will succomb to his urges...

you need to have penis to fully appreciate this...

i am just giving you the heads up.

[daiman]

Ok.

that sounds like sexual argue rather than him loving someone else? right. In that case, I have problem him going to the local prostitute but I do not want someone who shares his love with me.

[gurey25]

Ok.

that sounds like sexual argue rather than him loving someone else? right. In that case, I have problem him going to the local prostitute but I do not want someone who shares his love with me.

AH but you see for a man the local prostitute and the chick he picked up are viewed by the man as the same.
there is not difference to a man..

but another woman can work her charms on him.

as i said it comes down to will power.. what you should look for in a partner is willpower.
this should be above money, attractiveness and other factors in your checklist.

a good guide to willpower is imaan, if he religious most of the time he will have willpower.

most of the time, because there are some people who look religious but are far from it.

[daiman]

some insights about how men thinks. Really cool to know this.

But I do not see the relation between the willpower and being religous? I mean the most men that I see wanting to marry more than one wife are ''wadaddo'' and also they are the majority who do not marry someone for 'love' just they want to be religious and not to commit sin. So they take one, two, three, four...then divorce some take another. There is no willpower there?

shall we just say that men( in general) lack willpower when it comes to women?
or you can explain to me what it meant to you to have willpower?

as a woman, i can tell you I can attract anyman (if I want to), married or not. SO I do not see them having will power at all.

[Thuganomics]

Naa anigaa kuu sheegi.It's willy-power you look for not will power

[daiman]

Horta why do you call me 'naayaa'. ereygaa waan ka raystey since last In somalia nearly a decade ago

[Fey]

This is a qoute from an online friend. Hope he does mind making this a topic

I alwasy feel that men have dual hearts and that is why they cannot commit.

You should do a randomized control trial to test this bullshit theory of yours.

Do it!

[Twist]

Hmmm...I am not sure about that. I have never been cheated on because I have never been in a relationship, but what I realise about men is that they can easily get bored of their wives, partners whatevert. Yes, there are some women who are like that ( I can see meself being like that: I just like the attention of men give to me and if I got married that will end ), but men have more choices after they get married: the muslim ones can take another one, others just leave.

But I thought the issue of commitment is much to do with a lack of interest ( he is not that into you).

So that's why you ask all these relationship/men & women/love questions a lot eh? You're trying to learn about that on Snet? Good luck.

[gurey25]

some insights about how men thinks. Really cool to know this.

But I do not see the relation between the willpower and being religous? I mean the most men that I see wanting to marry more than one wife are ''wadaddo'' and also they are the majority who do not marry someone for 'love' just they want to be religious and not to commit sin. So they take one, two, three, four...then divorce some take another. There is no willpower there?

shall we just say that men( in general) lack willpower when it comes to women?
or you can explain to me what it meant to you to have willpower?

as a woman, i can tell you I can attract anyman (if I want to), married or not. SO I do not see them having will power at all.

@wadaado

The majority of Somali wadaado are not real wadaado.
There is very little cilm, short khamiis and a beard is a fashion statement , its more about peer pressure and joining the crowd.
They also have twisted understand of religion that allows them to marry 4 then divorce and then marry filling up the slots as they become available.
i mean this defeats the whole purpose of polygamous marriage in the first place.
The muslim ideal is monogamy the Rasull Muhammed calyhi asslaaam was married to the same women for 20 years.
Polygamy is there to provide stability to the ummah and there are conditions to using it, condition that our wadaado break regularly.

no when i meant religous i mean a genuinely religous person.
it will be difficult to find someone like that , you would have to process through all those somali wadaado..

good luck.

[daiman]

@Twist that is OK. I hope.

Gurey,

there is a lot of things in my head.......and think a lot about love