want to divorce my pregnant wife

[salool]

Prince, naag uur leh lamana guursan karo lamana furi karo diiniyan.

Yes xisiihi wuu dhamaadey, that what happens when you get married cus of qooq.

[despairedmaskiin]

my fellow Somalis thank you for messages

she wasn't like this before we married. it changed when she became pregnant with first child which was 3 months after our marriage and she never returned to normal

im trying to understand how someone can be like this. i look at other men who are happily married, their wives respect them and do everything for them and im thinking to myself. why cant i not have a life like that. i try my best to do everything for her. why cant she return the same and show appreciation.

Im simple man, if she cooks me simple stuff im happy man or she talks to me with nice respectful words. walahi i would do literaly everything for her but as im not getting back any respect, i became angry inside and resentful. i let her know that this not acceptable but she doesn't care.

she's same age as me. what im afraid of is that if i let her go when pregnant, somalis will think im the bad guy. and she will tell her family and other people lies about me. only Allah knows whats inside me. i really want it to make it work, i want a happy family but this cant go any longer and my heart breaks for my children to grow up in a broken home or see another man in their life if their mother remarries.

[PrinceDaadi]

Salool: judging from what the brother posted though it is one sided story the wife was supposed to be divorced before she even give birth the 1st child forget second pregnancy that is why i always says couples should take one or two yrs to get to know each other before trying to have babies.

[Advo]

Divorce is sometimes blessing, use it.

[grandpakhalif]

My fellow brother it is you who is at fault here, you got her pregnant only 3 months within your first year of marriage! You were supposed to bide your time and wait atleast a yr to see if she is the same as what made you lover her and after you lived with her for long time. Trust me women put on a fake rapport during courtship and become complete douchebags after.

My advice to you right now is to wait till the kid is born tell her that you are leaving after the first child and see if she changes her behavior if she doesn't than I advise you to get the hell outta there and start your new bachelor life.

[Barwaaqoiyobashbash]

My fellow brother it is you who is at fault here, you got her pregnant only 3 months within your first year of marriage! You were supposed to bide your time and wait atleast a yr to see if she is the same as what made you lover her and after you lived with her for long time. Trust me women put on a fake rapport during courtship and become complete douchebags after.

My advice to you right now is to wait till the kid is born tell her that you are leaving after the first child and see if she changes her behavior if she doesn't than I advise you to get the hell outta there and start your new bachelor life.

[QaaliDumar]

Waxaa iigu yaab badan dad aan waligood guursan oo wax aan furin oo misana tallo ka dhiibaya arimo eysan waxba ka ogayn.

Kan tallada ka sugayana kaba sii daran.

[Barwaaqoiyobashbash]

Waxaa iigu yaab badan dad aan waligood guursan oo wax aan furin oo misana tallo ka dhiibaya arimo eysan waxba ka ogayn.

Kan tallada ka sugayana kaba sii daran.

Mathalan Granpakhaliif talladiisa waa heersara.
khasab ma'ahan inaa khirad lahaato,in order to give tallo fiicaan oo wanaagsan oo daacad ah oo sharci ah.

[QaaliDumar]

Waxaa iigu yaab badan dad aan waligood guursan oo wax aan furin oo misana tallo ka dhiibaya arimo eysan waxba ka ogayn.

Kan tallada ka sugayana kaba sii daran.

Mathalan Granpakhaliif talladiisa waa heersara.
khasab ma'ahan inaa khirad lahaato,in order to give tallo fiicaan oo wanaagsan oo daacad ah oo sharci ah.

Mindhaa aday heersare kula tahay.

[AgentOfChaos]

Do humanity a favor, and just kill yourself.

[CanadaSucks]

waan idhin salaamay

Dont judge me yet but listen to me

Im in my early 30s, married with child and another on the way. my problem is my wife's attitude. my wife thinks she's always right and im always wrong. Everytime we've little argument, she threatens me to leave. i ignore it cause as a man, i've responsibilities. Im very soft for my wife, i help her with the house, take care of baby when i come home from work and give her time off in weekend. all i want in return's respect, appreciation and compassion

but my wife when she gets angry, she turns in to a new person. evil person, she ignores me for days, doesnt cook for me, nothing. its always I that comes to her and apologize even when she's wrong. she never apologizes first.

i like peaceful home, and no arguments. men and women are created for each other and they need to respect each other. women need to know that the man is the leader of the family but my wife doesnt see me as one. she rather tells her family that we have problems and its mine fault than find solution for the problem and i swear to God most of the problems are mini problems but she makes it big.

i care for my family and do everything for them, i pay everything, but instead i get disrespect. you'll not believe the number of times i said sorry for things i didn't do. if I ignore her it gets worse if i dont ignore him it still gets worse. i tell my wife, if outside people know our problems, we'll be the clowns. lets find a solution for everything but we can't go for weeks without arguments or disrespect or violence.

now she is pregnant and i swear to God its 1000 times worse than when she wasn't. now she gets physical, calles me names and sleeps on couch. doesnt do anything and act like i dont exist. blames for things that no human can be blamed for. and sometimes i wonder, did she take my softness as weakness?

i'd never have thought i'd deal with this if i got married. but my love for this woman has disappeared. she doesn't deserve me and i can't handel this stuff anymore. i love my children but somalis say silic ku nool soddon guursataa dhaanta. i really can't live my life like this. i would do anything for children but i hate broken homes. i want my children to grow up in stable peaceful happy loving homes. but im 100% thats not going to happen.

if i divorce her when she's pregnant, i will get the blame and i dont want that. no one knows what this woman does to me and disrespect she shows but Somalis only look at "oh he divorced her while she's pregnant, what a bad guy". i do things for her that most Somali men would say "why would you do that, thats her job". but i dont care as im soft for my family.

what shall i do. Please answer with respect and sensitivty.

This is the most serious i will get inorder to give you the best advice I can sxb!

As you already know allah say that the one thing he hates that is stil permissable is divorce. However, Allah also acknowledges that we are human being with limited tolerability.

sxb, let me tell you this out of my own experience. I have been married too once. When it comes to divorce do no be expecting any praise because at the end of the day walahi you gona still have those ones who will still think your a "mother fcuker". Markaas taa ha u joojin I mean dont worry about what others are gona think of you because once you divorce you gona end having two camps, the ones that are on your side(your fam and qabil) and on her side (her fam and qabil and naago ey la saaxiba tahay).

We also as readers have to recognize that we right now have one side of the story, I would like to hear her side of the story but if i was to go along with your side of the story I would advice to divorce the fcuking biitch( I hate ungrateful woman especially considereing a man who's hard working and attentitive towards her, dhilada waa qumayo)

Listen to the following Somali story told be elders.

Once upon a time there was a man who was a true warrior. He was known to be brave and was never defeated in any battle. He was also a war tactician and knew what to watch out for, for ambushes and stuff. However, One day he raided a neighboring homestead and after doing so he headed home. When he approached the perimeter of his home he stopped to do what he frequently does, which was to peak through the house window to listen to his wife, to see if she was in an angry mood, because his wife had a hot temper and use to give him terrible marriege. As he was pre-occupied with that his enemies captured him. They could not believe the easiness at which they caught this legendary fighter. They asked him "how have we ended up catching you unaware?" and he said "Because I have a terrible wife and one has a terrible wife he will eventually be defeated".

[afisoone]

There is misunderstanding.......... She is jealous of something you don't know. Be patient my friend. Time will cure wallahi. She don't hate you. She is punishing you for talking to some other women. Even being good to other somali girls can be challenge for her.


So here is my advice.. When you around her talk about how you hate the girls who talks to a married man. That will cure her heart little bit. May be..

Keep apologizing to her. Really, This is your family. Sometimes you will get angry. You are an important man...........

I am married man too. I know how sometimes is very challenged. Give credit to her what she thinks she is doing good too.. Women needs a man who reminds her everything every time they discussed something.. Really..

It is tough environment to be a married man..
Remember every pregnant is not equal. This pregnant is more heavy to her. Expect anguish from her..... Prepare all the possibility.
Be good to your wife. I guarantee you that your kids will be good to you.. It is a fact...




Keep your head up.. and keep your wife brother...........
If you can not handle your wife small behaviour. You are not a man..........

[CanadaSucks]

There is misunderstanding.......... She is jealous of something you don't know. Be patient my friend. Time will cure wallahi. She don't hate you. She is punishing you for talking to some other women. Even being good to other somali girls can be challenge for her.


So here is my advice.. When you around her talk about how you hate the girls who talks to a married man. That will cure her heart little bit. May be..

Keep apologizing to her. Really, This is your family. Sometimes you will get angry. You are an important man...........

I am married man too. I know how sometimes is very challenged. Give credit to her what she thinks she is doing good too.. Women needs a man who reminds her everything every time they discussed something.. Really..

It is tough environment to be a married man..
Remember every pregnant is not equal. This pregnant is more heavy to her. Expect anguish from her..... Prepare all the possibility.
Be good to your wife. I guarantee you that your kids will be good to you.. It is a fact...




Keep your head up.. and keep your wife brother...........
If you can not handle your wife small behaviour. You are not a man..........

Afisoon, so the other woman he was talking, was it you?

[Barwaaqoiyobashbash]

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[MujahidAishah]

Your wife is pregnant so she is gna demand a divorce every single day until she gives birth ... but try and let ur wife talk about her feelings and ask her wats wrong

Shes probably just tired from being pregnant so just give it time walal