Planned (Unplanned) Parenthood

[ElfRuler]

Naag ila jaar ihi ilmihi 4ad bay dhashay and the oldest is not even 4 yet, waxaasi waa waali.

Famliy planning is a must, every child deserve a time with his mother before onther one shows up.Hooyo daalan maxay bal caruurteda ku kordhin, dumarka soomalidu maskaxdooda kama shaqaysiyan naftoodna uma tudhaan.

She would have a hard time managing each one of them. I hope she has supportive relatives.

It depends if she has control over when she can get pregnant again. If the husband doesn't believe in contraceptives, and she herself is not keen on the matter, then the babies will keep on coming. At the end it's her responsibility to give herself and her children enough time to bond and heal. These issues are also best covered before the marriage takes places.

My parents told me that they planned all the pregnancies with all of us mostly because my father and mother were both busy with different things in their own life. I definitely appreciate the gap that my siblings and I have because it definitely made up closers and appreciate each other more. I just can't imagine having like 10 siblings...justtoo many needs that will go unattended.

Masha'Allah to your parents. I won't be surprised if there are more parent like that. The only problem is that, topics of this nature are not openly discussed. The concept of Public Health is lost to us most of the time.

[ElfRuler]

2yrs without getting jiggy with your wife/husband. If you get pregnant immediately after that that's 9 months of pregnancy and then another 2 years

In this relationship you make 2yr appointments, see you in 2yrs mate

Okay jokes aside, family planning is a good thing, taking pills not so good.

No wonder we can't figure a way around this.

Most contraceptive research is focused on the woman's body. So far, they at least made birth control pills of men (male mice that is ). I doubt men want those on the shelfs.

http://articles.latimes.com/2012/aug/16 ... l-20120816

[zulaika]

its good to plan and put few years between kids. but we plan and Allah's plan prevails ultimately.

i know for sure contraceptives fail and some folks get pregnant against all efforts..alhamdulillah its a blessing from God.

[Coldoon]

Allah's plan prevails ultimately.

As Hassan Aadan Samatar would say, "Kujar hadalka kuba jar".

[ElfRuler]

its good to plan and put few years between kids. but we plan and Allah's plan prevails ultimately.

i know for sure contraceptives fail and some folks get pregnant against all efforts..alhamdulillah its a blessing from God.

I agree, contraceptives are never 100% and it's ultimately Allah's plan that prevails. We just have to remember that the Prophet (PBUH) said tie your camel first, then put your trust in Allah. We generally don't even tie our camel and then wonder what happened.

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[Coldoon]

^ Love the reference. Makes perfect sense! At times, logic prevails over 'just believe'.

[ElfRuler]

^ Love the reference. Makes perfect sense! At times, logic prevails over 'just believe'.

That logic is found in the teachings of Islam.

[Coldoon]

Alxamdulilah.

[zulaika]

its good to plan and put few years between kids. but we plan and Allah's plan prevails ultimately.

i know for sure contraceptives fail and some folks get pregnant against all efforts..alhamdulillah its a blessing from God.

I agree, contraceptives are never 100% and it's ultimately Allah's plan that prevails. We just have to remember that the Prophet (PBUH) said tie your camel first, then put your trust in Allah. We generally don't even tie our camel and then wonder what happened.

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so true..

i can fully admit to being in this sort of predicament.. past gaffe seems impervious to logic(can't change the past)..but logic is very sensible when applied to future plans(i shall never do it again)..and of course Al Ghayb to soothe all worry.

[Enlightened~Sista]

anything more than 4 is not a good look.

[salool]

Naag ila jaar ihi ilmihi 4ad bay dhashay and the oldest is not even 4 yet, waxaasi waa waali.

Famliy planning is a must, every child deserve a time with his mother before onther one shows up.Hooyo daalan maxay bal caruurteda ku kordhin, dumarka soomalidu maskaxdooda kama shaqaysiyan naftoodna uma tudhaan.

She would have a hard time managing each one of them. I hope she has supportive relatives.

It depends if she has control over when she can get pregnant again. If the husband doesn't believe in contraceptives, and she herself is not keen on the matter, then the babies will keep on coming. At the end it's her responsibility to give herself and her children enough time to bond and heal. These issues are also best covered before the marriage takes places.

She has no relatives here and her husband work the whole week.These types of families all they think about is to collect more child benefits.So this female has no plans to take a break and use contraceptives.The kids are already suffering, never seen any of her children even smiling.the sadness in their eyes is heartbreaking.




Ismahan, I will probably witness her 5th child by the end of the year ..I just feel sorry for the kids.

[SummerRain]

I don't get it, why have kids when you know you can't provide them a comfortable life!!! I cringe Wallahi when I see people having babies left and right only to collect handouts from the govt and live in small apt in the worse part of town. You see some families in Canada who have been collecting cash benefits meant for their kids' education etc, but use it on buying $400 diraacs and expensive home decor and now their kids can't afford to go to college.

Helwaa
Smh

[mcali]

anything more than 4 is not a good look.

I think you need some enlightenment sista

[igotkatzngingersnapz]

anything more than 4 is not a good look.

I think you need some enlightenment sista

i thank u nid a vasectomy bro

[SultanOrder]

Breastfeeding is a natural contraceptive. When the mother breastfeeds regularly, it has a 99% effective rate in the first 6 month of preventing pregnancies. It's called the Lactational amenorrhea method

Here is a link:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lactational_amenorrhea

Also, I've never really heard contraceptives were haram, condoms or pill. It's usually, more radical muslims that argue against it. I think 2-3 years gap should be a minimum between children.