This topic will end any thoughts of marriage on this forum

[Keyblade]

i'm seriously 15 pages into this thread where the dude's wife cheated on him after 21 years of marriage (since they were 17) like it was nothing...these people are all seasoned pros when it comes to infidelity. they have code words for words like wife, other man, divorce etc (prolly too painful to type the full words out ). like, I just discovered that a Voice Activated Audio Recorder is actually a thing.

[Jaidi]

Some of the dudes responses on there are heartless.

So you basically pay for your wife to have sex and get in shape with another guy? Get your finances in order and get a divorce.

WOW!!! Your wife was naked from the waist up, lying on her stomach on your bed in your bedroom getting an massage with scented oils from another man...and you turn around and go back downstairs to let them finish????? That's unreal. In fact, don't be surprised if the PT gave your wife a happy ending BECAUSE her husband was loyally sitting downstairs while she got her naked body rubbed by her PT.

[Adali]

if your wife cheats on you, it hurts, but I would honestly be more worried about the risk of catching something from her than dwell on losing her, you can always get another wife.

[FAH1223]

Wife has been having EA with my business rival

Me and my wife are small business owners. We have owned a Japanese restaurant for 5 years. We have been successful with our business and we have thought about expanding within the next 3 or 4 years. About 2 years ago, A Vietnamese restaurant opened up down the street. The owner was trying to steal our customers so he spread lies about how our kitchen was dirty and how we failed inspection. I only found out about this from my son, who attends private school with his daughter.

Many of our dishes are the same so that is the reason why he try to steal my customer. To tell you the truth, I have tasted their dishes and I do not like them. When I found out about the lies from my son, I confronted him in his restaurant. HE was a coward and didn't want to face me like a man. He called the police but I left before I got arrested.

Since then, there has always been a major rivalry between our business. We are both guilty of trying to get the upper hand on each other and I'm not ashamed of this.

On last Tuesday, my son came home crying. He told me that my rival's daughter said that my wife gave her daddy a hand job. I knew this couldn't be true but this was not something he could make up. I was ready to march down to his place and stick my shoe off the side of his face. I was so upset that I told my wife but she surprised me. Her reaction was delayed and she seemed worried. I knew something wasn't right. Instead of confronting him, I laid in wait to find out the truth.

I checked my wife's phone and email account. She gave me the passwords and I couldn't find anything. I felt relieved and stupid for questioning her. This morning, it was slow so my wife wanted to go for a walk in the park. I knew I could hold things down until she got back. I started to use her ipad and did some angry birds. I also went on the online and noticed she had a hotmail account open. This was red flags since we both use apple me accounts.

I opened the hotmail and I read dozens of emails between her and someone else. I snooped and the messages were very inappropriate. They went on about meeting up for lunch and sharing a bowl of soup. I had no idea who this other person was until I go to the emails where they sent each other pictures!

MY wife sent him a picture of her standing in our work kitchen with no shirt on! He sent a picture of his lower body with no pants. I could tell by those chicken legs that it was him!!!! I started to get weak and I couldn't think straight. I went and sent all the emails to my account so I could look at them more closely later. I barely finished the day and she kept drilling me to see what was wrong. I stayed strong and I didn't say a word.

I have put together a timeline and from their message, it looks like they have never had sex. They have sent pictures to each other and have met for lunch. She would make up excuse to leave me cooking by myself so she could go meet up to chat with him.

How could she do this to me? I have given her everything she needed to I bust my ass for our business. I always wanted to shake up our marriage but didn't know how. They talked about sex and she told him how she likes it. She never does those things with me. She only does missionary. Is this some sort of fantasy for her and should I intervene? Out of all the people in the world, she chose him and he is married!!! He is my worse enemy and I know if I confront him, one of us will be in jail. Where do I begin this?

EA = Emotional Affair
OM = Other man

[Keyblade]

Hey guys,

I don't know why but I'm feeling like I am back to square one again.
(Everyone saw it coming but me) After our last weekend together I've been leaving her alone but we have been talking a lot and she gives me these lines about not knowing what she wants and says she is very confused. And she has mixed emotions along with new feelings she's never had before toward me. I never thought I would even think about "R" but she says she enjoyed spending time with me and we have not been arguing about anything at all. I was at a spiritual mens retreat with church during the week for a couple of days and it opened up my eyes about what little problems I have with her compared to other marriages.

I dont know why my feelings for her have not changed and I dont know if she still sees POSOM. I didnt have sex with her this weekend but I wanted to...We had dinner on Saturday and talked for hours again and she told me she's still hanging on to me too but she doesn't know what to do. I dont want to keep pushing her in fear of pushing her completely away.

After last weekend I would send her some pics of myself either out and about or at home and to my surprise she saved them all on her album from the text messages. I dont know what to make of this and she tells me she looks at them everyday. She showed me a picture and handed me her phone and I started swiping to see other pictures but I stopped myself. I didnt want to see something I really didnt want to see. But she kept swiping through and showing me what was there. Mostly of me.

I also saw one she captured from a friends Facebook page where the friend tagged me and I was having a good time and said it made her jealous because I was with another woman(Not the one I did btw) but it made me feel good that she admitted it to me without me even asking. I cant help but feel responsible for all the bad parts in our marriage now because I am acting different and even I see it. I know she's still on the fence and I am driving myself crazy again.

I dont know what to think about all this. A lesser man would have given up a long time a go and even a stronger man would have given up too, but what does that make me? Again I ask for your brutal honesty!

oh man this dude is being plaaaaaaayed. also i think i figured out that POSOM = piece of shit other man

[Adali]

[Jaidi]

They call the days they discovered their spouses cheating "D-Days"

[greenday]

Thats just funny

I know we should not laugh at others misery but have a read.

Thanks fah i needed this

[FAH1223]

They call the days they discovered their spouses cheating "D-Days"

[Alphanumeric]

Yup.

[Lillaahiya]

war i have my cat and they are enough headache to me.

Cabsi ba ku dishay.

I'm glad people got the short hand like PA (physical affair) and EA (emotional affair), etc.

Ayo Key, I read that thread last night, along with at least 5 others. I'm still in shock. These people talk about their "D-Days" as if it's nothing but a thang. I'm also surprised many of them stay with their spouses after the affair and make things work for the purposes of their kids, or cause they love their wife/husband. ANDDDDDDDDD the majority of the threads I've opened were about cheating wives

[salool]

What the hell is emotional affair? if sex is not involved that cant be considered as cheating.

[Based]

i'm seriously 15 pages into this thread where the dude's wife cheated on him after 21 years of marriage (since they were 17) like it was nothing...these people are all seasoned pros when it comes to infidelity. they have code words for words like wife, other man, divorce etc (prolly too painful to type the full words out ). like, I just discovered that a Voice Activated Audio Recorder is actually a thing.

I lost it at STBXW

I read this thread where the guy's wife cheated on him multiple times, got pregnant by the other dude, decided to forgive her again, and then he gets kicked out of his own house and moves into her mom's crib.

[salool]

Hi everyone..

Where to start... Last July I was pregnant and lost the baby at 5 months, my husband was acting weird, whilst pregnant, staying out at a party, lying about buying books, flowers etc..., then in oct he went away for a course, only later I found he wasn't at the course for 3 days with work, finally after 2 months after me nagging as I felt like something was wrong he confessed he just went out with friends for 3 for the 3 nighs partying.

Something just didn't sit right he was behaving weirdly, really sexually charged, constantly in his own world... He knew I didn't like these new work people he was going out, and one lady in particular, but they would text randomly, he was being weird with his pone, showers as soon as he came home, but constantly telling me, I'm going crazy and nothing is going on. Then I recieve a DVD in the post of him getting very intimate with the same women I dislike in e back of the car... They claim it was only going on for 3 months, but I have messages that show it was going on for almost a year..

I Was devastated, I couldn't believe it, I took my 3 children and left him.. Since then he has been grovelling and pleading for forgiveness and claims he was leading a double life and he couldn't stop himself... He has made some serious changes in his life, but can't leave that work place for another 4 months.

I said to him I wanted to know everything about what had hapened, it appeared he was having 3 other emotional affairs, before this women came along..

He swears they never had sex it was only oral, and only last night he told me the 3 nights he stayed away they did sleep together, my whole world has shattered again, I felt like I was strong and now I'm weak again.

His mistress has also contacted me and tells me the same stories that he does even after they change their stories, which makes me think they still talk at work via there internal email.

His truth/confessions about his double life keep changing, I just wanted to know the truth, about the affair, but he just won't be honest and tell me, he is desperate for us to work, but the other women wants him to leave me.

I just don't know whatto do, I want the truth, I given him every threat under the sun, and just as I let him in a little more lies come out about his past, we have children together, I rely in him financially and the kids love him.... I just don't know what to do..

Please can someone help, this has been ongoing for the last 10 months.

This is only a brief insight. Please feel free to ask any questions,

Some women are evil, recording the whole thing and send it to the wife

[Marques]

What the hell is emotional affair? if sex is not involved that cant be considered as cheating.

EA can sometimes be nearly as bad as sex. Who the hell would be ok with their wives flirting with other men and go as far as sending pictures and emails? If you're married you got a man and he should be the only man you ever think of.