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Vengeance wrote:Interesting

Even though there is social, cultural and religious tolerance to polygamy in Somalia, it isn't really widely practiced. I think according to Islam (don't quote me on this), you are suppose to be in a plural relationship only if you can financial, emotionally, and physically fulfill your obligations to your wives and children. But of course this is abused by Muslim men.

I personally say that polygamy is a personal preference and so long as all the parties involved are happy and content with this sort of relationship, who are we to judge them. However, I of course, have an issues when a men takes up several wives and the women aren't even aware that their husband have multiple other relationships, which is what I think you are talking about when you are referring polygamy as a sex tourism. It is morally indecent to take the power to chose or to consent from the women involved. It is their life after all. If they are O.K with being in a polygamy relationship, then they wouldn't mind being in one, however, if she don't, taking the choice away from her should be a punishable crime in my eyes.

I didn't always looks at polygamy with favorable light, but that has changed since I met Somali Bantu families who practice plural marriages.

InaSamaale wrote:

Sheikh Mustafa wrote: Umu khadiija: Abu Caamir, Caawa ma reerkeena ayaad joogtaah mise reerka Umu Khadra.

Abu Caamir- Calendar ka ayaan eegayaah sug. Haa Caawa reerka Umu khadra ayaan aadayaah waa inoo habeen danbe Umu Nasra.

You're already confusing yourself Sheikh and this is merely hypothetical.

Jam Street wrote:There are more women than men in the world. On top of that men die at a much more higher rate than women due to wars. Now, why can't women understand if some of us don't give love to more than one woman (like my father and my grandfather and my great grandfather and my great great grandfather etc did) then so many of your fellow womenfolk will be left without a man? The unfortunate woman who is left without a man could be one of you...think about it.

SelfD wrote:

Jam Street wrote:There are more women than men in the world. On top of that men die at a much more higher rate than women due to wars. Now, why can't women understand if some of us don't give love to more than one woman (like my father and my grandfather and my great grandfather and my great great grandfather etc did) then so many of your fellow womenfolk will be left without a man? The unfortunate woman who is left without a man could be one of you...think about it.

that's fine. Your assuming that all women want to get married. As time goes on your going to meet many that don't care for marriage or children.
Beside, I am not willing to settle. If im not getting what I want in the relationship (love, security and faithfulness) then Ill accept singledom.

Jam Street wrote:Must say your thinking is not as bad I initially thought. I like your mindset of not wanting to settle for less than you deserve. Keep it up insha Allah you will get your good wishes.

hyperactive wrote:polygamy, is natural for men, what drive them to woman is different than what drives woman to mate. is making kids and enjoying. muslim or non muslim alike.

GeoSeven wrote:Although after 10 years of same old same old, I could imagine why a man would want to be adventurous.

Grant wrote:I once had a friend who had married his cousin and had several children by her. She became ill with complications from childbirth, so my friend married a second wife, who turned out also not to be able to have kids. She had a live-in maid, whom my friend later married, which made for three wives, and, the last I heard, seven kids. These folks were all in their late twenties to middle thirties and they all got along well. I don't think polygamy was always just about the sex.