Getting involved w/ a married man.

[DisplacedDiraac]

You haven't even done it but yet you feel awful.. How do you think you'll feel if you do, do it?

I reckon you need to leave your surroundings (including people) and work on yourself.. You sound like a broken person..

[SiennaEarth]

WOOOW. Plz don't go there. Not only is it haram but also you're putting your worth down if you do. If you won't do it for Allah do it for the sake of self respect and dignity. You will find a husband soon. Just be patient the best things are those that come unexpected.

[Sophisticate]

No man is ever worth playing second fiddle to under any circumstances. Being a virgin is a blessing not a curse. Pangs of desperation are self-defeating, do not listen to them. Immediately stop contacting him, not even as friends. Don't lower yourself for someone that won't appreciate you that has a heap load of baggage to boot.

[SecretAgent]

Dude shes ethiopan thats their culture why you so shock

[eliteSomali]

Hope he doesn't disappoint you. Good luck.

[Smile-LiKe-SuN-RiSE]

what makes u think that he is gonna leave his wife for u? Do u think he is gonna love u if u put out? Listen this man sees that ur desperate..insecure and he is taking advantage of that. How
about u work on ur self esteem..and love urself

[Lillaahiya]

Perception is reality. You can control how you view your life, so focus on the positives that you have instead of magnifying the negatives. You shouldn't view your virginity as a negative as being celibate does keep you away from STDs, unwanted pregnancies, etc. Also, since you've remained a virgin for this long, you honestly think you won't catch feelings for the first man you sleep with? That's pretty naive to believe. On top of that, sleep with someone who isn't committed to you or his family/wife. Anyway, I would strongly advise against it as there is nothing good that will come out of this. You would be sinning, potentially ending a marriage if word gets out, ruining your own name if word gets out, as well as prolly dealing with the baggage that comes along with sleeping with someone who doesnt give a damn about you. Lastly, as many suggested, you should look into counselling/professional help. Losing your virginity isn't going to solve your problems.

[Malachite]

Perception is reality. You can control how you view your life, so focus on the positives that you have instead of magnifying the negatives. You shouldn't view your virginity as a negative as being celibate does keep you away from STDs, unwanted pregnancies, etc. Also, since you've remained a virgin for this long, you honestly think you won't catch feelings for the first man you sleep with? That's pretty naive to believe. On top of that, sleep with someone who isn't committed to you or his family/wife. Anyway, I would strongly advise against it as there is nothing good that will come out of this. You would be sinning, potentially ending a marriage if word gets out, ruining your own name if word gets out, as well as prolly dealing with the baggage that comes along with sleeping with someone who doesnt give a damn about you. Lastly, as many suggested, you should look into counselling/professional help. Losing your virginity isn't going to solve your problems.

[BlackVelvet]

So, I've begun talking to this fella and he told me a couple days after we met that he is married with a 6 month old. He asked if I was fine w/it..(wtf)

Couldn't read anymore


What a spineless, pathetic excuse of a man. If he doesn't respect his wife enough to support her during this difficult phase instead of going off flirting with girls he most certainly has no respect for you.

[bareento]

Tati,
akkam numa jirtaa?
How iz u...try to get more friends to talk to.
Dont put a lot of pressure on yourself.

B.

[StormShadow]

Tati,
akkam dufa jirtaa?
How iz u...try to get more friends to talk to.
Dont put a lot of pressure on yourself.

B.

Just corrected you there.

[Caesar]

Not sure but I'm sorry if this will ruin anyones Ramadan/fasting etc...if so delete pls

I know we should keep are sins to ourselves but this is like premeditated sin.

So, I've begun talking to this fella and he told me a couple days after we met that he is married with a 6 month old. He asked if I was fine w/it..(wtf) I of course
said I don't mind but I wasn't sure if I didn't. He wants to do "things" now & I'm sorta down. Being a virgin is so dumb anyway especially if you're not in your teens anymore. I know nothing will come out of this besides a friendship if that. I don't think what I'm intending to do is wrong because he doesn't seem to care so why should I. Am I at the point of my life where I've become so desperate that I'm willing to lose my virginity to a man that's already taken. I have no morals anymore I guess. I doubt I'll ever get married so why keep waiting for a fob to give it too. Some days I feel bad for even texting him but his wife is not giving him any attention & he says they are not intimate. He could be feeding me lies I thought at first but he's genuine. I can't back out now anyway. I'm already living with major anxiety but I won't let it hold me back from this like its been holding me back from everything else in life...that's how I feel some days...I'm living life the way I want right now...well not really but I want to. Also, I don't want to get attached to this person. No one in my life stays its always temporarily. At the end of the day this fella goes home to his wife & kid so I lose. Life sucks & I hate myself so much, I'm so mean, angry & alone which is probably the worse. Now I'm already regretting doing it even before its done. Why can't I just stick to living my life for the Almighty why must I stray so easily. Is it even worth it sleeping w/a married person...maybe I'm just over thinking all of this & it's not a big deal I dunno but it's going to happen soon & I'm not 100% sure if I should. I don't know why I'm sharing this but I am...& maybe some of y'all have been in a similar situation. I'm sorta just ranting this out to the universe anyway I guess. My stomach is turning & my hands are shaking bad...I'm seriously going to barf after I post this. Hardly anyone goes in the women section...which should make me feel less nervous but it ain't. It is what it is. Fml

P.s Excuse my run on sentences..etc

My advice is to fast so your kacsi can be lowered and you can think clearly

kacsi= disaster in most cases. Think with your head

and also leave the guy, the woman will fight with you your entire life

if you have to hide your relationship then something aint right eh

[bareento]

Hilaac...hehehe
in principle u r right...but its afran qallo slang u dont understand
litteraly it means r u still around.

I see its aros time...and the single mamas r taking the lead...and youngsters r crying

B.

[Caesar]

Hilaac...hehehe
in principle u r right...but its afran qallo slang u dont understand
litteraly it means r u still around.

I see its aros time...and the single mamas r taking the lead...and youngsters r crying

B.

yo when i was in sland, the oromos used to call each other abowe yall r some funny people.

[bareento]

Caesar ,

we r all funny... one way or other.

B.